parenting terms you dislike

[matildasun]

I dislike the phrase family bed.

We still bed share part of the time, but the bed sure as hell isn't theirs. They are guests at best.

[arebee]

I have never heard that phrase before but I don't like it either.

[Brie]

Attachment parenting.

My kid is still plenty attached even though he goes to daycare and CIO.

[niq]

"We're pregnant."

[Queen Mamadala]

Mar 8, 2015 23:50:28 GMT -5 niq said:

"We're pregnant."

This. We are expecting, but I'm pregnant.

[bowies]

Momma's milk.
Baby led weaning. Actually, just weaning in general.

[Deleted]

All of the above.

Free Range parenting bothers me for some unexplained reason too. Like you free range chickens, not kids...haha.

And anything related to 1 month wakeful, 2 month wakeful, 8 month wakeful. 18 year wakeful. As a parent of a non-sleeping kid I think it's just a term to make us feel better. I mean there's a wakeful for pretty much everyday of the year at this point.

And "breezy" but I'm too tired to go there today.

[gibbinator]

Mommy juice. Whether it means wine or breastmilk.

[thebreakfastclub]

"The baby nursed like a champ."

There is no nursing championship, so it sounds weird to me.

also nursling

[brooklyn]

Elimination communication.

[teatimefor2]

Boy mama

My parenting style is not determined by my children's gender.

Free range

A IRL person in close to with older children uses this term all the time. It bothers me, sometimes I think she uses it as an excuse.

[mannah]

Daddy daycare

[Deleted]

Mar 8, 2015 23:50:28 GMT -5 niq said:

"We're pregnant."

Along the same lines, I DETEST "preggo" or "preggers" or "knocked up." No. Being pregnant is so fucking hard, you may NOT call it some belittling, condescending stupid term.

[Deleted]

Also "bruiser" in reference to my big toddler. Everyone calls him that. Just because he's a big toddler doesn't mean he's going to be a bully and/or play football.

[krystee]

I hate when women refer to each other or themselves as mommies. Like when my friend says she is meeting her mommy friends for lunch, I just cringe. I'm not sure if it's the childishness of the term itself (like, at least say "mom" like a grownup) or the fact that they have to use a label at all. Just say you're meeting friends.

[Willis Jackson]

Mar 9, 2015 6:51:26 GMT -5 @bunnybean said:

Mar 9, 2015 2:51:10 GMT -5 bowies said:

Momma's milk.
Baby led weaning. Actually, just weaning in general.

I hate both of these, too.

I actually did a bunch of baby led weaning, but I just called it GIVING HER SOME FOOD TO EAT. And I don't count it that we're still doing it because she has 16 freaking teeth. Not really weaning anymore, is it? She's just eating like a person!!

ITA

My mom cracks up at these b/c she attachment parented, co-slept, and baby-led weaned before they had names. Parents today act like they invented this stuff.

[Deleted]

Mar 9, 2015 7:23:18 GMT -5 @this said:

Mar 9, 2015 6:59:51 GMT -5 @supergreen said:

Also "bruiser" in reference to my big toddler. Everyone calls him that. Just because he's a big toddler doesn't mean he's going to be a bully and/or play football.

lol I call my DD a bruiser. It's a term of endearment!

From Urban Dictionary:

bruiser

Someone who's tough and doesn't get taken down easily, someone who has a history of being in fights and winning.

"That Tony was a bruiser, he'd get knocked down and bounce right back up, then he knock em down and they'd never stand up."


I don't see that as endearing. I want DS to grow up to be kind, not get in fights.

[autumnfire]

When mothers (or fathers) say "Daddy is babysitting." when it comes to their own child.

Anything that hints at a child's weight - Skinny or big.

[Deleted]

Mar 9, 2015 7:10:47 GMT -5 Willis Jackson said:

Mar 9, 2015 6:51:26 GMT -5 @bunnybean said:

I hate both of these, too.

I actually did a bunch of baby led weaning, but I just called it GIVING HER SOME FOOD TO EAT. And I don't count it that we're still doing it because she has 16 freaking teeth. Not really weaning anymore, is it? She's just eating like a person!!

ITA

My mom cracks up at these b/c she attachment parented, co-slept, and baby-led weaned before they had names. Parents today act like they invented this stuff.

My MIL finds all of the "trendy" parenting techniques hilarious. She always tells me "40 years ago when I had my first we did this sh*t and called it survival." Haha. The woman kills me anyways so I love it coming from her. And her other favorite phrase is "Just because it doesn't have a term doesn't mean you can't do it. If doesn't have a term and you do it, there's need to invent one. It's parenting." She's pretty up on kid stuff and adores the grandkids which is awesome. My completely BSC SIL got her in on this soapbox in case you're all wondering.  

[Deleted]

Mar 9, 2015 8:07:35 GMT -5 @this said:

Mar 9, 2015 7:46:46 GMT -5 @supergreen said:

From Urban Dictionary:

bruiser

Someone who's tough and doesn't get taken down easily, someone who has a history of being in fights and winning.

"That Tony was a bruiser, he'd get knocked down and bounce right back up, then he knock em down and they'd never stand up."


I don't see that as endearing. I want DS to grow up to be kind, not get in fights.

LOL none of us here want our kids to get in fights. WTF.

Either way I'll never call PDQ a bruiser.

LOL. We call DD bruiser once in awhile. Not in a bad way either. She's strong and holds her own very well for a "girl." She's also happiest with all the "rough and tough" "run around' outside activities so that's what we're referring to. 

She's pretty passive in the fight department still.  

I'm pretty sure 99% of kids have ridiculous nicknames and 99% of parents don't mean harm with them.

[justjen]

Lovey

[L]

All of these...lol.

[sent]

"thrives" as in "he thrives at daycare."

Because those who don't thrive do what, shrivel?

[DarcyLongfellow]

My Lexapro must be working particularly well today because I'm reading all of these and I'm like, "Eh, none of these annoy me." When usually I'm very quick to be annoyed at stupid shit

I will say, nursling makes me cringe. I've only seen it used on super hippie "mommy" (well, there's another one that annoys me) forums where everyone is all "why would you vaccinate? Breast milk cures Ebola!"

[Deleted]

"Terrible twos". I'm sorry, did you just call my kid terrible?

[halfpint]

Not much, but a few...
Preggers, prego, etc. No. You can just say pregnant. 
Mama milk for breast milk.
"Crunchy", even though I think I've used it to describe myself a few times. It's been so overused on some of the boards I'm on, and I look at some of these moms who are over the edge and think, I do not relate to you! I used to think of it in just terms of organic food, cloth diapers, breastfeeding and babywearing, maybe some hippy liberal ideals - but these ladies are in a whole new realm with EC, essential oils, using unicorn-tear CD-safe cloth diaper cream as eye cream and squirting "mama milk" on every ailment.  

[auntie]

Anyone calling me mom, mommy, momma other than my child.

People who call single moms raising their own children "biomoms" or "birthmoms"- they are moms. If a stepmom doesn't care for the baggage of that term, I don't care if she calls herself a "bonus mom" but don't demote mom in the process.

Also babydancing.

And especially people who have co opted "helicopter parent" for much younger children. You can't helicopter child until they should have some semblance of independence from their parent. It also pisses me off when levied at parents of children with special needs who may need to be parented differently than typically developing children the same age.

[Deleted]

wow... people here are way too sensitive. I'm afraid to speak now :-#

[Deleted]

Mar 9, 2015 8:41:40 GMT -5 auntie said:

Anyone calling me mom, mommy, momma other than my child.

People who call single moms raising their own children "biomoms" or "birthmoms"- they are moms. If a stepmom doesn't care for the baggage of that term, I don't care if she calls herself a "bonus mom" but don't demote mom in the process.

Also babydancing.

And especially people who have co opted "helicopter parent" for much younger children. You can't helicopter child until they should have some semblance of independence from their parent. It also pisses me off when levied at parents of children with special needs who may need to be parented differently than typically developing children the same age.

I can't even think of a reason someone would be called birth mom unless she gave her kid up for adoption. Isn't she just 'mom' otherwise?

[anna7602]

Mar 9, 2015 2:51:10 GMT -5 bowies said:

Momma's milk.
Baby led weaning. Actually, just weaning in general.

The word "weaning" beats the hell out of the Spanish term "destetar." It's literally, to unteat. I hate that word.