I stay out of most conversations here that involve special needs in any way because I'm just not very knowledgeable about it and don't want to say something dumb.
@kimbus22 if you leave I will greatly miss your point of view and wit.
I stay out of most conversations here that involve special needs in any way because I'm just not very knowledgeable about it and don't want to say something dumb.
@kimbus22 if you leave I will greatly miss your point of view and wit.
Post by andrewsgal on Mar 13, 2015 17:01:24 GMT -5
Well Kimbus I am sorry you feel like you need to leave. You asked for opinions and you do quite a bit on your son then defended your way out of them. It is like banging your head against a wall. No one was trying to be mean, it is hard to watch someone go through something over and over only to ignore or totally discount all the advice they are given.
I wish you the best and hope one day you can get everything under control and find your way back.
Fuck this! I'm quitting this board too. I'm sick of this shit.
I rarely flip out on people. I try my best to treat everyone like a real human being with feelings. Kimbus, I had no idea you were doing all that stuff for J. I had no clue and if I did my opinion would have been different. Maybe you mentioned the team you were working with or maybe you felt it was none of our business, I'm not sure. Either way, good for you and him.
My point through it all was that you need a team in your corner WHICH YOU APPARENTLY HAVE. The preschool needs to get it together.
Anyways, I'm out. Nice knowing yall.
You cannot leave. You give valuable, rational input and I will miss you dearly (not to be creepy, I just really respect you as a poster).
Fuck this! I'm quitting this board too. I'm sick of this shit.
I rarely flip out on people. I try my best to treat everyone like a real human being with feelings. Kimbus, I had no idea you were doing all that stuff for J. I had no clue and if I did my opinion would have been different. Maybe you mentioned the team you were working with or maybe you felt it was none of our business, I'm not sure. Either way, good for you and him.
My point through it all was that you need a team in your corner WHICH YOU APPARENTLY HAVE. The preschool needs to get it together.
Anyways, I'm out. Nice knowing yall.
Hell to the no. You get your ass back in here I will track you down. You did not say anything that doesn't need to be said. There is a massive difference between a speech path, special Ed director (in other words teacher who got tired of the classroom) and developmental ped. Only ONE is qualified to make diagnosis or say a kid needs no further help and the one that can kimbus refuses to make a part of Joeys team.
The surveyor was here yesterday because the lot next to us is finally pending a sale. We were talking and he told me the last name and town of the couple buying the lot. I should be embarrassed of how much I stalked them on social media last night. I'm going to be really upset if it's not the couple I've decided it is.
FTR, it's complete fucking bullshit that CJ and Kimbus are acting so fucking put upon when all the do is post shit about their kids...UMM WE HAVE OPINIONS BECAUSE YOU HAVE TOLD US EVERYTHING!!!
FTR, it's complete fucking bullshit that CJ and Kimbus are acting so fucking put upon when all the do is post shit about their kids...UMM WE HAVE OPINIONS BECAUSE YOU HAVE TOLD US EVERYTHING!!!
The playing the victim is cute. No surprise some went for it.
The surveyor was here yesterday because the lot next to us is finally pending a sale. We were talking and he told me the last name and town of the couple buying the lot. I should be embarrassed of how much I stalked them on social media last night. I'm going to be really upset if it's not the couple I've decided it is.
The house next to us is for sale and I have FB stalked one potential buyer already.
Our neighbor's house is going on the market on April 1st and you can bet your sweet ass I will be in my driveway with the kids, making sure no crazy cakes move in (like the neighbors that live one the other side of us).
The surveyor was here yesterday because the lot next to us is finally pending a sale. We were talking and he told me the last name and town of the couple buying the lot. I should be embarrassed of how much I stalked them on social media last night. I'm going to be really upset if it's not the couple I've decided it is.
The house next to us is for sale and I have FB stalked one potential buyer already.
I wonder how many ppl in our new neighborhood have stalked us since buying our land haha!!
The house next to us is for sale and I have FB stalked one potential buyer already.
Our neighbor's house is going on the market on April 1st and you can bet your sweet ass I will be in my driveway with the kids, making sure no crazy cakes move in (like the neighbors that live one the other side of us).
Oh I already scared some of those off. I was out there complaining about the racing boats, the way the sun sets, and according to DH I looked a little crazy myself taking random things to and from my car until I got them to speak.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Mar 13, 2015 18:50:17 GMT -5
On the work topic, I went back to work this Nov. with what is quite possibly the most perfect situation (at least for us). I work 1 day a week most weeks (subbing at the high school) while MIL watches the kids for me. And while I have really enjoyed getting out of the house, working with teens again, teaching a bit, interacting with other adults, it is STILL hard...not the leaving the kids part, but leaving someone else in charge. My MIL is great, but I still get annoyed that she gives them too much sugar, doesn't discipline them enough when they are being brats, lets them get filthy without putting on play clothes, and plus there are other things that she does that are attempts at being helpful, like unloading the dishwasher, that end up making things harder because she puts something somewhere and then I can't find it, etc. I am just too much of a control freak. I'm so grateful for her for watching them so I can work, but I do wish it was easier so that I could think of doing it even more next year.
On the work topic, I went back to work this Nov. with what is quite possibly the most perfect situation (at least for us). I work 1 day a week most weeks (subbing at the high school) while MIL watches the kids for me. And while I have really enjoyed getting out of the house, working with teens again, teaching a bit, interacting with other adults, it is STILL hard...not the leaving the kids part, but leaving someone else in charge. My MIL is great, but I still get annoyed that she gives them too much sugar, doesn't discipline them enough when they are being brats, lets them get filthy without putting on play clothes, and plus there are other things that she does that are attempts at being helpful, like unloading the dishwasher, that end up making things harder because she puts something somewhere and then I can't find it, etc. I am just too much of a control freak. I'm so grateful for her for watching them so I can work, but I do wish it was easier so that I could think of doing it even more next year.
This is the one huge issue with parents as Childcare. They should be able to spoil their grand kids/be loose with discipline.
Post by amynumbers on Mar 13, 2015 20:11:17 GMT -5
Eh, we have grandparents as childcare and it truly has never been an issue. Maybe we aren't hard asses about discipline, but no, grandparents shouldn't be "loose" with discipline. If you are being a brat, you are being a brat. If you hit, it's not ok. I would hope no grandparent lets that slide.
Their method of spoiling has always been stuff that isn't really applicable to childcare -- trips, gifts, that sort of stuff.
I totally get that it is for other people -- some grandparents just aren't cut out to take direction from their own kids on a day to day basis. We've never really had that issue probably -- like I don't care if they get a oreo after lunch, so I'm not clutching my pearls if my mom gives them one. And it's not like she would give them an entire sleeve of them, childcare or not.
what anxiety's do you have? Sorry if I missed a post about it. We will TTC this next winter when DD is 4.5 years. I have major anxiety about it for 3 years. I am just now getting the baby fever again. Not gonna lie - when it gets closer I'm gonna be scared all those things will happen again that did when I was pregnant with DD.
Eh, it was a series of posts probably over the last year, both here and on TB.
The biggest issues though are fear of getting PPD again, the toll a second kid could take on my relationship with MH, pushing my return to work off further than I anticipated, and managing some smaller medical issues (such as having m/s and trying to care for a toddler, and also migraine management).
All that makes sense why you are hesitant. I think I was saved from PPD because I was already on zoloft when I was pregnant. If I have the same pregnancy that I did with DD I will have to lay off work for those 9 months. That kinda freaks me out too but it is temporary and I will just have to suck it up.