Going to cautiously ask for opinions. (DH work related)

[minismama]

Back story if you don't remember:  DH works as a Managing partner of a restaurant.  We got relocated to AL for the position from FL where we were living 2 hours from our hometown where all our family is.   We have been here almost 7 months or so. 

We have decided that we do not want to raise our family in AL.  We really like it here, but we are too close with our family to be this far from them and really want to end up back in the South Florida area.  I am just not sure what our plan of action should be. 

If DH stays with his current company (he has been there for 8 years), there is no opening in the Florida market currently.  So it would sort of be a waiting game...see if someone quits/gets fired/etc.  There is no real time line for that.  

He can go to another corporation/restaurant group.  He is often contacted about other opportunities etc but he is sort of nervous to leave the company he has been with so long.  He recently got contacted to talk about a job opportunity in the Orlando area, but I don't think it makes sense to take a job in Orlando when we really want to be South of that.  

DD has one more year before Kindy and I would ideally want to be in our "forever" town for her to start elementary school. 

He always wants to take the safe route and is not a big risk taker but I'm more the "no risk no reward" personality.

I don't want to give him bad advice but I don't know what to tell him either.  I don't really want to stay here until she starts kindy but I would be fine with that if that was the smart decision to make. 

WWYD?   Any advice?   I really do not like making important adult decisions  There's my Friday confession. 

[momin2013]

I think if I were him I'd start looking for openings for similar positions/companies in the area you want to move to. Hopefully something will open up sooner rather than later, and when he's offered something that he thinks would be a good fit, go for it!

[cna]

I can tell you I am bitter as hell that we didn't move back to California when we had the chance. I would start looking elsewhere, but that's just me and my opinion.

[minismama]

Mar 13, 2015 16:41:16 GMT -5 runningfish said:

I wouldn't take a job in Orlando if you don't actually want to live in Orlando. I would wait until something more ideal comes along, whether it be with the same company or a different one. I know you don't want to move after your daughter starts school, but she's still so young I don't think that would be on my list of negatives.

It's not like an end all factor, it's just I would like her to attend the same school for the whole time. But I know it's not that big of a deal since she is so young.

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There's no harm in looking right? If you don't want to stay there, then move on girl!

[jena]

He should let his company know that he really wants to move to that specific area. Even if there's no timeline for it, if they know he wants it, they might make a spot for him or just keep in mind when something opens up. And then start looking elsewhere. But don't move to Orlando if that's not what you want either... or would Orlando make you happier than you are now?

[cabbagecabbage]

There are so manY factors. If the Orlando job meant a company with a bunch of jobs in your target city and promised mobility within two years, it might be worth considering but otherwise I wouldnt make any changes that aren't calculated toward your plan. Don't mover somewhere a little better but still not ideal.

Tell his existing company his long term goals. Start looking elsewhere. Do it all.

[minismama]

Mar 13, 2015 17:31:13 GMT -5 jena said:

He should let his company know that he really wants to move to that specific area. Even if there's no timeline for it, if they know he wants it, they might make a spot for him or just keep in mind when something opens up. And then start looking elsewhere. But don't move to Orlando if that's not what you want either... or would Orlando make you happier than you are now?

They do know. And they are "working on it".
At least that's what they tell him.
The only reason I would consider the Orlando area is because my sister lives there. So I would have a family member local and our parents are only a 2.5 hour drive. But yeah, we wouldn't want to be there forever, which then puts us in the same position again..

[foodiemom]

Does the company pay for moving expenses?

I know it's not just a financial decision, but I would not incur the costs of moving, stress etc to Orlando and then have to do it again in hopefully a short period of time (2-5 years).

That being said, Orlando is pretty darn close to where you want to be, within a few hours vs where you are now.

Does he like the company he works for? Do they treat him well? I'd worry a bit about jumping ship unless the company he is going to is very reputable. Right now he is in a good position vs being 'low man on the totem pole.'

[minismama]

Mar 13, 2015 20:09:20 GMT -5 foodiemom said:

Does the company pay for moving expenses?

I know it's not just a financial decision, but I would not incur the costs of moving, stress etc to Orlando and then have to do it again in hopefully a short period of time (2-5 years).

That being said, Orlando is pretty darn close to where you want to be, within a few hours vs where you are now.

Does he like the company he works for? Do they treat him well? I'd worry a bit about jumping ship unless the company he is going to is very reputable. Right now he is in a good position vs being 'low man on the totem pole.'

They paid to move is the last two times so I would assume to move is again they will pay. Everything you say is exactly what I am thinking. He does work for a good company. It's a huge corporation with many successful restaurants. Can I say again how I hate adult decisions.