Diaper parties - for men???

[rugbywife]

Is this a thing?  DH was invited to a 'surprise' diaper party for a male friend…

eta: male friend's wife is expecting, lol!

[loreleigilmore]

My friend had one during the baby shower. Basically the diapers were an entry fee for prizes. They the watched football, got drunk and swam,

[redheadk]

I've heard of this, maybe on TB? Like a poker party or something with the dad-to-be and everyone brings a pack of diapers or something. I'm fuzzy on the details.

[ilikedonuts]

Is the wife having a shower too?

ETA: i've only heard of it online. I think its odd.

[turtlegirl]

Well, DH's best friend is having a baby with a booty-call / fling that he's obviously not dating or ever plans to date and he's having a baby shower next weekend. It's basically a bbq. But he has a full in registry since he needs everything the mom will at his house too.

I think it's kinda weird. But I think I'm the only one.

[anna7602]

Mar 14, 2015 9:20:46 GMT -5 turtlegirl said:

Well, DH's best friend is having a baby with a booty-call / fling that he's obviously not dating or ever plans to date and he's having a baby shower next weekend. It's basically a bbq. But he has a full in registry since he needs everything the mom will at his house too.

I think it's kinda weird. But I think I'm the only one.

It seems nice given that they'll need 2 of everything,

[anna7602]

I've never heard of it happening around here, but co-ed showers are the norm here.

[Odonata]

No. I've only heard of couple's showers where spouses are invited. The last shower we went to as a couple was more of a backyard BBQ. No games or gift openings - just food and beer.

The only "shower" I've seen for a guy was at work for a co-worker whose wife did not work with us.

I find it strange, though, because isn't the mom having a shower? But on the other hand it is nice to recognize the new dad, too.

[rugbywife]

I think it is an excuse for these guys to get together and get drunk…and give their friend diapers I guess…which is only funny because I want to try to picture some of them even figuring out which fucking diapers to buy AND if I was the wife I would want specific ones and would be pissed if I ended up with 600 NB sized diapers in a brand I don't like, lol.

[ilikedonuts]

He definitely will get basically all newborn diapers haha!

[rugbywife]

Mar 14, 2015 9:32:38 GMT -5 ilikedonuts said:

He definitely will get basically all newborn diapers haha!

I am going to tell DH to buy size 3 Pampers since we have used SO MANY of those...

[shortstax]

DH had one. His BF organized it. Each guy had to bring a pack of wipes. It was a poker tourney with a $20 buy in, but at the end the final pots all went to buy diapers on Amazon of all sizes. There were like 25 guys who came.

We didn't buy diapers until DS was 7 months old

Basically they all drank and had fun, kind of like a mini bachelor party.

[laurenh]

DH had one too, thrown by his BFF. They all chipped in and then the money was used towards a few cases of diapers and a gift card for BRU because we were doing cloth once DD was big enough. I'd never heard of it before, and we were the first of our friends to have kids so I don't know where the idea came from, but we made out well!

ETA: they mostly just ate and drank and had a good time.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry but my first thought was a party of men drinking beers and wearing diapers so they don't have to waste time in the bathroom.

What is wrong with my mind.

[ECB]

Personally, I don't like the idea. I feel like it's shaking down your friends twice. Once for a gift at the actual baby shower and then for diapers at this event. I don't see why the men need an excuse to get together. I think saying "Hey- why the shower is going on, let's get together and have some beers" is plenty.

[meltoine]

H was invited to one once. The only reason I side-eyed it was because the dad threw it for himself. Otherwise, meh whatever.

[laurenh]

In our case it was completely different people because none of the significant others of DHs friends were at my shower. I don't really think there's anything wrong though, it's not like he solicited it for himself - it was a surprise - and his friends and dad/uncles genuinely wanted to do something for him.

[ECB]

Mar 14, 2015 11:08:01 GMT -5 laurenh said:

In our case it was completely different people because none of the significant others of DHs friends were at my shower. I don't really think there's anything wrong though, it's not like he solicited it for himself - it was a surprise - and his friends and dad/uncles genuinely wanted to do something for him.

Obviously there will always be scenarios like this.  And you can't control surprise parties!  

Just the general concept, though? I don't like them.

 

[polarbearfans]

One of my coworkers had a diaper shower. The guys mainly got together to hang out and drink, but everyone brought a pack of diapers. Cute way for the guys to participate without the cutesy baby stuff.

[polarbearfans]

Mar 14, 2015 9:20:46 GMT -5 turtlegirl said:

Well, DH's best friend is having a baby with a booty-call / fling that he's obviously not dating or ever plans to date and he's having a baby shower next weekend. It's basically a bbq. But he has a full in registry since he needs everything the mom will at his house too.

I think it's kinda weird. But I think I'm the only one.

It's stuff for the baby, not the guy. If he is going to be part of the babies life and have joint custody he needs pretty much everything too. That's a lot for him to buy alone. It's nice that his friends/family want to help him be set for the baby.

[Deleted]

Diapers are easy to return/exchange, so whatever on them picking the "wrong" ones. I returned a ton because I was using cloth.

Sounds like an excuse for a party. Which... whatever. Parties are good.

[bronxgirl]

I've never heard of this, but on the off chance that we have another child I hope it quickly becomes a thing.

[countthestars]

I think it's fun. Most of H's friends are single or their wives and I are not close so it wouldn't have been asking the same people to contribute twice. I actually think it's kind of dumb that showers are primarily "for females".

[linz]

Yep called diaper kegs. Bring diapers and drink. They did one for H but we invited couples so I could attend and hang out.

[gibbylod]

We had one mostly because H wanted to do something with his friends to celebrate. It was mostly an excuse to get his friends together but I figure why not. Plus all of those diapers were really a lifesaver!

[marina007]

Mar 14, 2015 12:15:50 GMT -5 countthestars said:

I think it's fun. Most of H's friends are single or their wives and I are not close so it wouldn't have been asking the same people to contribute twice. I actually think it's kind of dumb that showers are primarily "for females".

I kind of agree here. We're all very pro dads having an active role, co-parenting etc - why is it only the mom that can have a baby related celebration thrown for them?

[Deleted]

Please throw him one. He's having a baby too. Why should the mom get all the attention. Plus free diapers!

[turtlegirl]

Mar 14, 2015 11:35:43 GMT -5 polarbearfans said:

Mar 14, 2015 9:20:46 GMT -5 turtlegirl said:

Well, DH's best friend is having a baby with a booty-call / fling that he's obviously not dating or ever plans to date and he's having a baby shower next weekend. It's basically a bbq. But he has a full in registry since he needs everything the mom will at his house too.

I think it's kinda weird. But I think I'm the only one.

It's stuff for the baby, not the guy. If he is going to be part of the babies life and have joint custody he needs pretty much everything too. That's a lot for him to buy alone. It's nice that his friends/family want to help him be set for the baby.

I totally understand in theory. I guess it's just seems really forced for DH's group of friends. I don't think any of them would think on their own to throw a party for each other or even do "diapers and poker" type event. It seems like the woman would be the one behind the idea and all the dudes come out of obligation/guilt.

But maybe that's just my DH and his friends. Unless it revolves getting together to watch a sports game or go to a cigar lounge, they don't plan get togethers. It's always the woman planning the event.

[irishbride2]

Mar 14, 2015 10:37:12 GMT -5 ECB said:

Personally, I don't like the idea. I feel like it's shaking down your friends twice. Once for a gift at the actual baby shower and then for diapers at this event. I don't see why the men need an excuse to get together. I think saying "Hey- why the shower is going on, let's get together and have some beers" is plenty.

But yet people defend regular showers as an excuse for women to get together.


Why should only women have to suffer through showers?

Personally I'm in favor of cord showers but that's s different debate.

[bugandbibs]

Mar 14, 2015 10:37:12 GMT -5 ECB said:

Personally, I don't like the idea. I feel like it's shaking down your friends twice. Once for a gift at the actual baby shower and then for diapers at this event. I don't see why the men need an excuse to get together. I think saying "Hey- why the shower is going on, let's get together and have some beers" is plenty.

This is really only true if all of the dad's friends are married to friends of the mom. MH's friends are mostly unconnected to my group of friends. We have very few couple friend sets.

Co-Ed showers are the norm here, but I see nothing wrong with seperate showers.