Random drunk post.

[jigsy]

lol. Suck a cock tease.

[abcdefu]

That is awesome mp! It's cute that he was soooo into you that he didn't recognize or care that his ex walked by!

[jellymankelly]

I am so glad things are going well!

I'm confused about why you thought it was rude that his ex wife sent him that text, though. I know my XH and I have a weird relationship, but that seems like something one of us would do. I guess maybe there's more backstory that lets you know it wasn't sincere? I'd probably be glad that the XW wasn't some bitter psycho who sent him texts tearing you apart in some way!

[Wanderista]

I think the important part is that you can't blame him in that situation. (I'm not saying that you are blaming him, I'm just talking generally). It's not his fault that you guys randomly walked by his ex or that she decided to text him. I do think that it's a little weird of her to text him - kind of passive-aggressive or an attempt to be manipulative. It sounds good that he didn't care but he shouldn't allow this to be an opening for her to try to talk to him more. 

I do think that sometimes exes can be friends but their interaction doesn't sound like the friendly, healthy kind. If she did get jealous when seeing you guys together then it is weird that she texted him especially so soon afterwards. Basically, you just want to be sure that there are clear boundaries between them. When I'm friendly with an ex, we barely ever talk about our love lives at all. We're just over that chapter in our lives. 

[jojoandleo]

Mar 15, 2015 7:58:49 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

I am so glad things are going well!

I'm confused about why you thought it was rude that his ex wife sent him that text, though. I know my XH and I have a weird relationship, but that seems like something one of us would do. I guess maybe there's more backstory that lets you know it wasn't sincere? I'd probably be glad that the XW wasn't some bitter psycho who sent him texts tearing you apart in some way!

The fact that they haven't talked in over six months and she is all, "I'm so happy for you!" Just sounds condescending to me. Like, "Oh, I'm glad you could FINALLY move on from me!"  If they were friends, I would think nothing of it. Personally, I wouldn't have texted him anything, happy for him or not, because the relationship is over and, ya know, not friends. It seems weird to text at all after so long.

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Mar 15, 2015 8:45:07 GMT -5 Wanderista said:

I think the important part is that you can't blame him in that situation. (I'm not saying that you are blaming him, I'm just talking generally). It's not his fault that you guys randomly walked by his ex or that she decided to text him. I do think that it's a little weird of her to text him - kind of passive-aggressive or an attempt to be manipulative. It sounds good that he didn't care but he shouldn't allow this to be an opening for her to try to talk to him more. 

I do think that sometimes exes can be friends but their interaction doesn't sound like the friendly, healthy kind. If she did get jealous when seeing you guys together then it is weird that she texted him especially so soon afterwards. Basically, you just want to be sure that there are clear boundaries between them. When I'm friendly with an ex, we barely ever talk about our love lives at all. We're just over that chapter in our lives. 

Eh - while I agree with your 2nd paragraph, I don't think this one sounds worrisome at all. She texted him, she might just be annoying. My XH and I are not in contact really, other than about an IRS back tax situation and for a while he'd randomly send me a text every few months or so with a question or whatever. I can totally see him texting me if he saw me with a BF and saying the same thing. Because that's HIS personality. Not mine. I have great boundaries -we're not friends and there is nothing he could do to change that. If I saw him, I would NOT text him because that's my boundary, but he doesn't have that same one.

So I think it's maybe something to be aware of, but very likely a total non issue. 

[mcc]

It was weird that she texted. Period.

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So here's my thought...it was weird that she texted, BUT he didn't have to tell you.  So bonus points to him for being honest!  Glad you still had fun and hope you're feeling ok after they screwed up your order.  

[Wanderista]

Mar 15, 2015 8:58:39 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Mar 15, 2015 7:58:49 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

I am so glad things are going well!

I'm confused about why you thought it was rude that his ex wife sent him that text, though. I know my XH and I have a weird relationship, but that seems like something one of us would do. I guess maybe there's more backstory that lets you know it wasn't sincere? I'd probably be glad that the XW wasn't some bitter psycho who sent him texts tearing you apart in some way!

The fact that they haven't talked in over six months and she is all, "I'm so happy for you!" Just sounds condescending to me. Like, "Oh, I'm glad you could FINALLY move on from me!"  If they were friends, I would think nothing of it. Personally, I wouldn't have texted him anything, happy for him or not, because the relationship is over and, ya know, not friends. It seems weird to text at all after so long.

This is pretty much what I was thinking. Especially after hearing that she was the primary instigator for the divorce, she does sound dramatic and like she needs to get over it all (or herself). I want to make it clear that I don't think anything he did was weird. My suggestion about boundaries was really just for going forward. He just shouldn't keep engaging with her. That's the best way for him to shut her down.

[lexxasaurus]

Sorry it got awkward for a bit AND that you were glutened. yay for getting drunk? Lol.

I would take it as condescending as well; I find it super weird that she texted him at all considering they aren't in contact. But you're a hottie and he sounds super into you, I bet that killed her. He handled it like a pro!

[jojoandleo]

Mar 15, 2015 10:43:08 GMT -5 lexxasaurus said:

Sorry it got awkward for a bit AND that you were glutened. yay for getting drunk? Lol.

I would take it as condescending as well; I find it super weird that she texted him at all considering they aren't in contact. But you're a hottie and he sounds super into you, I bet that killed her. He handled it like a pro!

AND I bet she wanted to be all breezy about it so he wouldn't KNOW it killed her, but instead came off:

[starburst604]

Mar 15, 2015 10:47:27 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Mar 15, 2015 10:43:08 GMT -5 lexxasaurus said:

Sorry it got awkward for a bit AND that you were glutened. yay for getting drunk? Lol.

I would take it as condescending as well; I find it super weird that she texted him at all considering they aren't in contact. But you're a hottie and he sounds super into you, I bet that killed her. He handled it like a pro!

AND I bet she wanted to be all breezy about it so he wouldn't KNOW it killed her, but instead came off:

My thoughts exactly. She thought he saw her so she felt like she couldn't let him feel like he had one up on her. She had to do a preemptive BREEZY which backfired badly because he didn't even see her in the first place! Because OBVIOUSLY he was too into MP to be paying attention to any passersby.

[mcc]

Mar 15, 2015 12:14:11 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 15, 2015 11:45:54 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

My thoughts exactly. She thought he saw her so she felt like she couldn't let him feel like he had one up on her. She had to do a preemptive BREEZY which backfired badly because he didn't even see her in the first place! Because OBVIOUSLY he was too into MP to be paying attention to any passersby.

I'm just dying that he was like "YA I thought that kind of looked like her" and meanwhile I knew it was her. #stalker #awkward

Oh man I feel ya. When the Dentist first mentioned his hs gf who he is still friends with had a dog, I was like oh the doodle who follows you on IG? Yeah...oops. Busted!

[imalwaysme79]

I think it's a little weird, but definitely kudos to him for being open and honest with you. I'm so happy to see you so happy!

[starburst604]

I creeped on T's ex gf extensively after we started dating. One day he told me that she was in a commercial for a local gym, and it came on one day while we were watching TV. It wasn't her (he's blind as a bat). I was like uh are you sure that's her? He was so convinced but I knew it wasn't, but I couldn't really admit that I knew better what she currently looked like than he did!

Related aside: just an hour ago we ran into said ex leaving a restaurant and he introduced us. She was with her H and their 3 kids.

[everyjuan]

How weird! Not that you noticed her (because I totally would have stalked his instagram too, lol), but that she said something. He handled it really well, though.

I feel like I always see people I don't want to see when I look like ass or am in a bad mood, so seeing someone like that while looking hot and having fun on a date would feel like a huge win. So that's exciting. lol!

I'm happy that you're happy and having fun!

[wampuscat]

I'm late to this, but the main thing that I think is weird is that she sent the text right then knowing that he was out with you. She wanted him to see it while you two were out together. That is what I think is rude. Like she wanted to interrupt your date.

But yeah, I always run into people when I look like total shit, so good for you!! Yay!