I don't know what to do - tell me

[CloudBee]

DS threw up on Thursday AM, but we thought it might have been due to stuffing his face with bananas. That followed with lethargy, but no more vomiting. 

Friday we had plans to fly out to FL to visit my sister, and then spend a few days at Disney for his birthday with her family.

We had a 9pm flight, and stopped for dinner on our way to the airport. After a day of acting fine, eating lightly, drinking a ton, and showing no sign of sickness, he throws up again.

We head to urgent care to get it documented that he is sick, then head back home to call Travelocity to change our flights to Monday, and then call the travel insurance company to start our claim.

Saturday he was fine, just didn't eat much.

Today / Sunday he's been fine. He ate a ton, in fact.

Then he wakes up from his nap around 5pm, and I suggest he eat / drink. Stupid me. I keep forgetting to let HIM take the pace when he's receiving from a stomach bug. Well, he has a few Cheez-Its, and a few minutes later he throws up. He was acting fine before, and after. And is currently chilling in front of the TV. Minute after vomiting he grabbed a pack of Plum brand pumpkin rice cakes and devoured them. Acting fine an hour later. Even had some water.

I don't know if travel insurance will pay a 2nd change.

I've been trying hard over the past 6-12 months to strengthen my relationship with my sister. We see each other twice a year, max. Her kids have the week off, and this was their big activity. Us coming. They kept their schedule open for us.

We're all out hotel costs for Orlando if we don't go on our trip.

Rescheduling is a big deal. The friend who watches him planned a trip this week to coincide with ours. And my sister will be out of state with her family for the entire summer. Their school year is gearing up to end after their break, so we can't just bombard her for a week if it's not break. She has 5 kids in school.

Canceling the first time was difficult. Canceling a 2nd time will be devastating. And I'm sure the week at home will be depressing. (We would probably work half days and trade off.)

I still want to go. And am onboard with packing 4 spare sets of clothes, and making DS sit on a blanket during the flight.

DH wishes we weren't in this predicament, but doesn't want to risk DS throwing up on the plane.

We're both SO unsure of what to do. And I know my sister will be devastated if we don't come, too. Her husband is taking time off from work, the kids are excited, the works.

He's just not acting sick, and is throwing up on average, LESS than once per day. Ahh!

[krystee]

If he doesn't get sick anymore tonight, I would go.

[ECB]

Yeah. I'd go.

[CloudBee]

I feel flameful for wanting to go. But heck, I saved the passengers on the first flight. But if we don't go now, we're going to start losing out on money. And I already spent HOURS on the phone rescheduling the flights, dealing with insurance, going to urgent care (would have to do AGAIN if we cancel), and the car rental place.

I don't have it in me.

DH told me to post here for opinions.

I think if we go he'll still secretly hate me for it.

[CloudBee]

He also had diarrhea twice today (super watery), but I told myself earlier that was not a problem. So I didn't count that when posting.

FWIW - he always seems to end his stomach bugs with a bout of diarrhea. DH thinks this means he's getting worse. I say no. He first threw up on Thursday, and it's only been a total of 3x cookie tossing episodes. All linked to eating.

But DH said you guys need to know that part.

[heygrey]

i would go. let him set the pace or have options for him to rest (comfortable stroller) if you're out of the house a lot and he's tired.

if i were a passenger on a plane and saw a toddler throw up, i would assume motion sickness long before illness.

[dcrunnergirl52]

I'd still go, although warn your sister b/c she might not want her kids near your DS if he's been sick recently.

[CloudBee]

Mar 15, 2015 17:32:17 GMT -5 dcrunnergirl52 said:

I'd still go, although warn your sister b/c she might not want her kids near your DS if he's been sick recently.

She wants us to come. 

[lilac05]

I'd probably go, too.

DS1 occasionally vomits, but isn't contagious. We carry a coffee container in both vehicles with a plastic bag in it. If he gets sick, the opening is wide enough to hit and the lid seals tightly and contains the stink and mess well. Something like that may be nice to have handy, just in case.

[dcn]

Yeah I'd go.

[barefootcontessa]

What does your sister say? I would go if she still wants you to come. Does he have a fever?

[CloudBee]

Mar 15, 2015 17:35:27 GMT -5 barefootcontessa said:

What does your sister say? I would go if she still wants you to come. Does he have a fever?

Cool as a cucumber.

I fear if we cancel she'll hate me. (Kind of joking.)

[CloudBee]

Mar 15, 2015 17:36:58 GMT -5 swizz said:

I'd go.

I might have even gone on Friday.

I wanted to. But DH tends to be more factual and less emotional. He said it wasn't right to go. I was a sobbing mess. I was willing to risk it. But I didn't fight him too much on it.

[barefootcontessa]

Mar 15, 2015 17:36:42 GMT -5 CloudBee said:

Mar 15, 2015 17:35:27 GMT -5 barefootcontessa said:

What does your sister say? I would go if she still wants you to come. Does he have a fever?

Cool as a cucumber.

I fear if we cancel she'll hate me. (Kind of joking.)

yes, I would go.  IME young children usually get fevers with stomach bugs.   Since he does not have a fever I would guess his stomach is still recovering from all the inflammation and such that happens when you have been sick.  

[zeewifeandmama]

I would totally go.
My kids are prone to travel sickness and I've been thrown up on during flights PLENTY. Bring plastic bags for barf, ziplocks for clothes, plenty of wipes and changed of clothes for all of you in a carry on.

[imojoebunny]

I would buy a box of gallon sized zip locks and roll. My kids vomited a lot when there were small. DD still vomits everytime she is in the car for more than 59 minutes.

DS use to vomit for no reason a few times a week, ate too fast, ate too much, just felt like it.

The gallon sized zip locks make great barf bags and also hold vomit covered clothes. You can throw some Clorox wipes in a quart sized zip lock for extra cleaning. We no longer stop when DD throws up, just zip and keep rolling. It's gross, but much easier than stopping and wasting a 1/2 hour.

[Deleted]

I'd go too. He doesn't sound non functioning/terribly off.
Just maybe from now on let him lead with the food and see what happens?

[CloudBee]

So do I leave rice cakes (what he keeps downing like mad) within sight, and let him ask for those, vs. offering food?

And push water?

[CloudBee]

Who else has a husband that would be hesitant to travel?

My husband is NOT a kid person. He loves our son, is a great father, and plays with him, has him along all the time. But he's still very much overwhelmed when it comes to things like toddler vomit, and most other children. (With the exception of family and a few close friends.)

I know he's feeling overwhelmed and anxious, and that makes me feel bad. It is SO not me.

[CloudBee]

swizz - If I were going alone we probably would have gotten on the plane on Friday.

He's joining us, and is sad about missing the trip. (Though he told me he's probably onboard, but he'll never travel with a sick kid ever again.)

Guys. We were supposed to go to Switzerland in July but DS came down with HFM and then DH caught it, so we canceled.

SICKNESS SUCKS.

[carolinagirl831]

Dd was just like this last week, I'd still go honestly. Just be careful about what you give him before the flight

[heygrey]

Mar 15, 2015 17:46:56 GMT -5 CloudBee said:

Who else has a husband that would be hesitant to travel?

My husband is NOT a kid person. He loves our son, is a great father, and plays with him, has him along all the time. But he's still very much overwhelmed when it comes to things like toddler vomit, and most other children. (With the exception of family and a few close friends.)

I know he's feeling overwhelmed and anxious, and that makes me feel bad. It is SO not me.

my husband isn't a fan of plane travel to begin with, so adding something like a might-be-sick-child would send him into a tizzy. i'm much more willing to plan ahead as much as possible (packing ziplocks and ample clothing changes in a carry-on, etc.) and just roll with it. i'm also a lot more logical on the "kids throw up on planes all the time, ours wouldn't be the first" type stuff.

so yeah, this situation would be playing out identically in our house. usually i just remind him that he's not good with this stuff and he needs to leave it to me. and then if the worst happens i wouldn't really ask for his help, i'd just do the clean up myself.

[hermione]

I'd go and not think twice about it. If it happens, he will not be the first or last two year old to puke on a plane.

[countthestars]

Go

[SJ]

I would definitely go.

Staying home devastated all week sounds much much worse.

And that's before we even touch your relationship with your sister.

[mlt]

I would totally go.

[curbsideprophet]

My pedi said a little diarrhea as they re-hydrate is normal. So I would not be too concerned about that.

[CloudBee]

Mar 15, 2015 18:38:39 GMT -5 curbsideprophet said:

My pedi said a little diarrhea as they re-hydrate is normal. So I would not be too concerned about that.

This is what ours said after a bug last year. DH says he doesn't believe me. But he did have diarrhea after that bad bug last year.

[teatimefor2]

Mar 15, 2015 17:33:16 GMT -5 CloudBee said:

Mar 15, 2015 17:32:17 GMT -5 dcrunnergirl52 said:

I'd still go, although warn your sister b/c she might not want her kids near your DS if he's been sick recently.

She wants us to come. 

Based on everything you said, and your sister is okay with him coming, I would go. Kids get sick and it sounds like he is on the mend. Some people also just have sensitive stomachs. My Dh can all of a sudden feel ill, vomit and feel fine again. He just has a sensitive stomach.

I'd give him very bland food, bread, crackers, applesauce for a few days.

But based on everything you said, I would go.

[CloudBee]

We're 99% sure we're going. Unless things take a bad turn for the worse.

DH isn't thrilled. AT ALL.