Wife fail.

[picksthemusic]

The other day, DH got me an eclair from Le Panier, and brought it home for me. Super sweet, right? Well, I didn't eat it that night because I wasn't in the mood for it. The next day was super busy for me, and I just didn't have the time to eat it, and after we had dinner, I completely forgot about it. I go into the bathroom to brush my teeth before bed, and DH comes in to the bathroom and says, "I'm never getting you treats again," in a really disappointed voice. I tried to apologize and stuff, but he was SO HURT. In my mind, I'm thinking... it's just an eclaire. But to him, he thought of me, and wanted to get me something special just for me, and because that was a show of his love, he was super hurt by the fact that I didn't enjoy it right away. I had it for breakfast this morning, but it was too little too late.

My DH's love language is gifts, quality time, and acts of service. That's how he feels loved. So naturally, because he wants me to feel loved, he gets me things and does things for me. But my love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. So... to me, getting me an eclaire is just getting me an eclaire. It's nice, but it's not the end-all-be-all of my day, you know?

He's over it as of this morning, but I think I need to have a talk with him about how he can make me feel loved most, especially if that's his goal... KWIM?

[jennlin]

[amandasw]

I totally get it. I would only slightly disagree with you though - H and I have different love languages, so while we have learned what those are (although H HATES that phrase) and make attempts to remember that, we also both try to appreciate when the other person is speaking their own love language. Does that make sense?

[picksthemusic]

Aug 10, 2012 11:26:30 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

I totally get it. I would only slightly disagree with you though - H and I have different love languages, so while we have learned what those are (although H HATES that phrase) and make attempts to remember that, we also both try to appreciate when the other person is speaking their own love language. Does that make sense?

I totally get you, and I do REALLY try to voice how much I appreciate what he does... I just think that most of the time, even when I really try to be excited about stuff he does for me, and state how much I appreciate what he does, I feel like he thinks my reactions aren't what they should be.

[amandasw]

Aug 10, 2012 11:28:52 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

Aug 10, 2012 11:26:30 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

I totally get it. I would only slightly disagree with you though - H and I have different love languages, so while we have learned what those are (although H HATES that phrase) and make attempts to remember that, we also both try to appreciate when the other person is speaking their own love language. Does that make sense?

I totally get you, and I do REALLY try to voice how much I appreciate what he does... I just think that most of the time, even when I really try to be excited about stuff he does for me, and state how much I appreciate what he does, I feel like he thinks my reactions aren't what they should be.

yeah, I know. It's hard when two people don't see the same thing as an expression of love!

[Deleted]

I don't really have anything constructive to say, but I just wanted to say sorry and I hope you guys get through this soon.

[BlackCanary]

Sorry picks!