I think my husband is mad at me (vent and TMI)

[georgeharrison]

I will admit, it was a bad wife moment for me.

James has been obsessed with "winning" in his online classes he's taking through the community college. I appreciate that he wants to do well, but he can see the class average grade and when he's above that, he literally says "I won." I am not a very competitive person, so it kind of gets on my nerves, but I try to just ignore it. If that's what motivates him, then great.

Okay, so last night, we are in bed, getting ready for some sexy time - like really getting ready and he says, "So, I ended up getting a 73 on that assignment." Really?! I got really upset, told him it hurt my feelings that he was still thinking about school - and talking about it. We ended up not having sexy time.

PMS, I'm sure, had something to do with my immediate turn off, but I haven't heard from him at all this morning even after complaining to him about my cramps via text, so I'm pretty sure he's mad at me.

I feel bad, but really, I was insulted. I get that sometimes things pop into your head during sexy time, but really, to talk about his online class right in the throes?

[georgeharrison]

Aug 10, 2012 11:11:09 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

I would have been hurt too.
And competative about grades?? That strikes me as weird (but its been a long time since I was in school...)

I think the competitive part is because he's"old" and back in school and he wants to prove to himself that he still has it. Plus, he's been working blue collar for a long time and he thinks that's "dumbed" him down. He's ridiculous.

[jennlin]

i would have been hurt/annoyed, too, but i understand the competition. i would think *he* should apologize, but what he did wasn't *that* bad. he just wanted to share with you what was on his mind.

[amandasw]

that would annoy me too. the fields H and I are in definitely are full of all the super competitive people - both of us hate it when people are like "so what did you get on the test?" none of your Fing business! Anyway, that's not what he's doing, just saying I think it's a common thing for some people to be competitive like that with grades.

back to the original point, I can see that depending on my hormones, I would care more or less enough to actually stop moving towards sex.

[mkate710]

I get where you're coming from. H isn't overly competitive, but he has ADD and tends to fixate on certain things for a given period of time. When he's super into something (right now it's primal eating, sometimes it's a work thing, whatever), he will talk about it ALL the time. Doesn't help that he's the more talkative of the 2 of us. I don't mind hearing him go on and on about that stuff, but if we're heading towards being intimate, I want to feel like he's thinking about me and us, not the bacon he had for breakfast. Especially if I heard about his bacon breakfast ten times already that day.

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Aug 10, 2012 11:22:12 GMT -5 jennlin said:

i would have been hurt/annoyed, too, but i understand the competition. i would think *he* should apologize, but what he did wasn't *that* bad. he just wanted to share with you what was on his mind.

This. He has bad timing.

[BlackCanary]

Aug 10, 2012 11:44:56 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

Aug 10, 2012 11:22:12 GMT -5 jennlin said:

i would have been hurt/annoyed, too, but i understand the competition. i would think *he* should apologize, but what he did wasn't *that* bad. he just wanted to share with you what was on his mind.

This. He has bad timing.

I agree.

[hallows]

I would've been upset, too. Sorry, though. I know how much it can suck if someone is mad at you, even if you feel justified.

[carylee07]

I would feel the same way. Especially in the heat of the moment. But maybe he had to get it off his chest to clear his head all for you? I dunno. I will never ever ever understand a man's logic.

Sorry. I agree with the makeup sex tho!