Who calls Who?

[travelbug]

I haven't talked to my in-laws since January. They don't text us, call us, e-mail us etc. They live about 45 minutes away and we see my family more (lives 6 hours away)

So, who calls who? Do you start the convo with your MIL/FIL? or does she/he do all the calling/texting communicating first? My IL's are very nice people, but it's getting so annoying to always have to be the FIRST one to make the plans or text them to see if they want to do dinner/hang out etc. 

[bk1]

MIL has already text me today. We text back and forth and will call each other. We have a good relationship.

[wanderingenough]

H talks to his family and I talk to mine. I'd say who calls/texts first goes back and forth --either the moms, or us.

[melsamoony]

My H mostly deals w his parents although I do text MIL pictures of DS sometimes. As for calls H usually initiates calls.

[estrellita]

We pretty much take care of the communication for our own families. I will occasionally text MIL but usually H does it. Same with my mom, I call/text her a lot but if H needs something in particular from her he will do it.

[luv2rn4fun]

I used to deal with MIL but don't anymore. DH has a rough relationship with them and used to talk to them but doesn't so much now. MIL was relying on me for updates and I got sick of her neediness, worrying about me (with my mom), and being in the middle of her and DH so I told her to just contact DH from now on. They both aren't contacting each other at the moment.

My family and I all contact each other...all relationships are good and mutual. I see them quite often whereas we haven't seen ILs for 2 months (they have only seen C twice and he's almost 3 months old)...they live 1 hr away (their other home is 3 1/2 hrs away).

[Deleted]

I contact my family and he contacts his. SIL texts me once in awhile.

[Deleted]

I do all the communication with my parents. I email with my MIL every so often, but H is the one who calls her. She initiates most conversations.

[Alyssa]

My husband contacts his family and I deal with mine.

[HoneySpider]

Mar 18, 2015 11:08:30 GMT -5 wanderingenough said:

H talks to his family and I talk to mine. I'd say who calls/texts first goes back and forth --either the moms, or us.

This is us too. Every once in a while I'll call MIL/she'll call me but that's not too often.

We don't live close enough to make regular plans with anyone though, so IDK if that would change things.

[katespade]

For the part of H's family we try to avoid, we wait until they reach out to us. And even then, if they call we let it go to voicemail so we know what they want before we actually talk to them. lol. With FIL and my parents, it depends on the circumstance. If we're headed to their town we call/text and if they're headed to our town they call/text.

[grover]

I will call/text/FB/email my family usually a few times per week.

I do not call ILs, but I will email or FB message MIL, and she will send me stuff.
FIL only calls me if he just called H and H doesn't pick up.

H calls his parents at least once a week, usually on his way to work.

[MrsAggie]

I don't call the ILs and they don't call me. Ever. After my mom guilt-tripped me, I started texting photos and updates of W every so often. I feel like it should be H's job but he sucks at the whole communication thing.