In-laws poll

[niq]

Inspired by kinmir's pre-Egypt visit with her in-laws

[jennlin]

i chose psycho, but it really should be in between psycho and i deal with them. because i deal with them, but i nearly jump off a bridge every time.

[georgeharrison]

I'm gonna SS. James doesn't like his family (had a really weird up-bringing), but I keep in touch and deal with them so they can have a relationship with Tman. I don't care for them, though - they make passive aggressive comments putting me down all the time. For some reason, they think that I have taken James away from them, but the truth is that I am the only reason they have any connection to him. He would rather just write them off completely.

[Deleted]

In the broad spectrum of in laws that I could have gotten, they're pretty bomb.

[amandasw]

I chose "neither here nor there" but it's between that and "good in small doses". They love us beyond anything and are really nice. HOWEVER, my MIL is controlling (or tries to be) and it can be very upsetting. H's dad is super laid back, but I don't really feel like I can connect with them because all they talk about is the weather

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Aug 10, 2012 11:44:35 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

I chose "neither here nor there" but it's between that and "good in small doses". They love us beyond anything and are really nice. HOWEVER, my MIL is controlling (or tries to be) and it can be very upsetting. H's dad is super laid back, but I don't really feel like I can connect with them because all they talk about is the weather

This should have been a choice.

They're nice people, but I just don't feel connected to them. There is also a 6 year age difference between H and his next sibling though. That could have something to do with it too. Oh and half of his siblings are super mormo still too, but I will say his family is super liberal for being mormo. They just reproduce like bunnies.

[jennlin]

Aug 10, 2012 11:43:41 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

In the broad spectrum of in laws that I could have gotten, they're pretty bomb.

i'm so jealous. my exbf's family was "the family i wish i had".

[amandasw]

LL - good grief!

[Deleted]

I didn't mind the inlaws when they came to stay with us during wedding time.....

But being in their house, I cannot stand. I only have the rest of today and until 4pm tomorrow. Next time, we will try to stay in a hotel.....just need a good excuse....or we will just pay for them to fly and see us. haha. Orrr it will be like a 3 day visit. Not 9 days....

LL that is nuts. My inlaws are definitely not that bad. Just quirks I cannot live with.

[hallows]

I voted "They're the family I wish I had" but that wasn't always the case.

For the first 4 years of our relationship, it was horrendous. They even had a "family meeting" after we were engaged basically telling H that they didn't think I was "good enough for their family" etc. H didn't say anything at the time, but he was 19 and spineless, so I've forgiven him. After that, he stopped talking to them for about 6 months. MIL finally extended an olive branch and invited us to Thanksgiving. We went and after dinner had a nice long talk with them. We both stood up for ourselves and told them to get to know me. I let them interrogate the hell out of me, and I didn't mind because I love H more than anything and I had nothing to hide. They love me now. And they're much less stressful than my own family; there's practically no drama, which is awesome.

[BlackCanary]

I chose they're not as great as my family, but still great, but I'd say it's more between that and they're the family I wish I had.

[niq]

Aug 10, 2012 13:09:54 GMT -5 @kinmir30 said:

But being in their house, I cannot stand. I only have the rest of today and until 4pm tomorrow. Next time, we will try to stay in a hotel.....just need a good excuse....or we will just pay for them to fly and see us. haha. Orrr it will be like a 3 day visit. Not 9 days....

Hell I don't think I could stay in my parents' house for 9 days. I think I stayed for t-giving for like a week last year at dad's. That was rough.

I couldn't last two nights at moms even though it's no longer an antiquer's paradise.

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Aug 10, 2012 14:16:12 GMT -5 niq said:

Aug 10, 2012 13:09:54 GMT -5 @kinmir30 said:

But being in their house, I cannot stand. I only have the rest of today and until 4pm tomorrow. Next time, we will try to stay in a hotel.....just need a good excuse....or we will just pay for them to fly and see us. haha. Orrr it will be like a 3 day visit. Not 9 days....

Hell I don't think I could stay in my parents' house for 9 days. I think I stayed for t-giving for like a week last year at dad's. That was rough.

I couldn't last two nights at moms even though it's no longer an antiquer's paradise.

this house is a veryyyy old home. Don't get me wrong, I love old homes....but this is different. The walls are made of cardboard. Literally. But really one of the big problems is that this house wreaks of dog. badly. and there is dog hair EVERYWHERE! I can't get away from it. We are using their car too instead of a rental and even the car wreaks of dog and has hair everywhere. And beyond that, it is just dirty. Really dirty. I don't think they clean. ever.

H and his mom butt heads too, so I think he is enjoying this visit even less than me. There are just random things that they do/say that are just annoying. They are serious homebodies and literally almost never leave the house. For the 9 days, we have been sitting around all day...on the couch....doing nothing, but sitting on our computers. Minus the times that we make excuses to leave or when we went to Niagara falls by ourselves because FIL doesn't like minorities and there are too many minorities at the falls and MIL doesn't like people. lol.

One example of a quirk that bothers me. Last night MIL made asparagus with dinner. She boiled the asparagus and boiled it forever to the point that it was super soggy. She says to us, "The asparagus is probably soggier than you would normally eat it, but that is the only way FIL will eat it"..... :-| .....dh and I are like....how hard is it to boil it, pull out most of it when it is cooked normally, then leave some to boil to nothingness for him. And then she makes facebook comments about how she is being sooooo accomodating for us and it's tiring her out. But everything is like, "well, FIL will only do this/eat this/ in this way...." Like if we want to watch a show, its like, "will FIL doesn't like this..." when FIL isn't even home. lol.

whatever.
/rant.
:-| 8-D :-| 8-D

[carylee07]

This was kind of two fold for me.
His immediate Fam is great, but yes I prefer mine.

His extended Fam- I.e. cousins, are the family I wish I had.

My ex's mom and I were BFFs. I miss that and I miss her. My current MiL is awesome but I would never randomly call her to talk or hang out. We are strictly family gathering buddies only. :/

[FrozenSunshine]

Mine are awesome. I got lucky.

[llh0211]

Overall, mine are okay. They love me, and have treated me like their daughter from the start. With that being said, I can only handle them in small doses. H is an only child, and they can be very overbearing. We also have VERY opposing views on politics/current events, so that can be tough. (for example, gay marriage - they are definitely against, and make it known) But, for the most part they're very sweet.

[niq]

Aug 10, 2012 14:27:41 GMT -5 @kinmir30 said:

Minus the times that we make excuses to leave or when we went to Niagara falls by ourselves because FIL doesn't like minorities and there are too many minorities at the falls and MIL doesn't like people. lol.

I'm imagining "too many" means "more than zero"?

[Deleted]

I love my MIL. My FIL is a pain and I don't trust my sFIL.

[WOT?*]

If we could keep the politics out of it, I'd have the best MIL ever. I adore MIL, except when she goes on her political vents and sends those fricking e-mail chains.

[Deleted]

I get along with my IL's pretty well, that being said they aren't my own family. I think you always have differences.. such is life