I think some people are way too entitled. Example: just because you're pregnant doesn't mean it's everyone else's responsibility to give you every thing.
I think some people are way too entitled. Example: just because you're pregnant doesn't mean it's everyone else's responsibility to give you every thing.
Or if you have a million kids or whatever. It never ceases to amaze me.
I think some people are way too entitled. Example: just because you're pregnant doesn't mean it's everyone else's responsibility to give you every thing.
Yes! Entitlement drives me nuts. It's like people get pregnant and expect everyone else to "set them up". Sure baby showers are amazing and helpful and fun, but the choice to have a baby was yours, financially aspect and all. I know someone who was angry that guests purchased items that weren't on her registry. She was all "I registered for exactly what I wanted...blah blah" We are no longer good friends.
I think sometimes people care way too much about receiving a "thank you"
Well my kids sit down and write or draw thank you cards after a party or Christmas.
The fuck they will just go along their merry way without acknowledging a gift that someone took the time to choose for them. I realize I'm in the minority here, we get less thank you notes as the years go by. How is it acceptable for manners and gratitude to go out of style?
I think sometimes people care way too much about receiving a "thank you"
Well my kids sit down and write or draw thank you cards after a party or Christmas.
The fuck they will just go along their merry way without acknowledging a gift that someone took the time to choose for them. I realize I'm in the minority here, we get less thank you notes as the years go by. How is it acceptable for manners and gratitude to go out of style?
Eh I make my kids write them. Not because I think they are necessary, but because I learned from the bump there are people who give gift to be thanked for them.
I think the gracious part of giving is expecting nothing in return. If you are sitting back and keeping track of who writes you a thank you note you are giving for the wrong reason.
In fact my kids personally call or thank people in person. I think this is far better than my six year old sitting down and writing a thank you note. But like I said it know who they matter to, so we do them for those people.
I'm kind of over wine lately. Mostly because it gives me the worst wine headache the next day. I'm probably getting old.
I can't drink red wines for the same reason. White wines seem to agree with me better.
Now that you mention it, it IS mostly reds I drink. Huh. I'll try switching to white wine and see if that helps. Maybe the tiny bottles, too, since DH never has any and a big bottle is a lot for me.
I can't drink red wines for the same reason. White wines seem to agree with me better.
Now that you mention it, it IS mostly reds I drink. Huh. I'll try switching to white wine and see if that helps. Maybe the tiny bottles, too, since DH never has any and a big bottle is a lot for me.
It's the tannins. I mentioned to my dr once that every time I drink (mainly red wine but often other alcohol too) that I feel stuffed up and like I have a sinus infection. She told me to switch to white.
Post by chatterbox on Mar 19, 2015 10:14:40 GMT -5
I can't stand entitlement in general. So many people feel like they deserve a lifestyle they haven't earned, whether it be an expensive wedding, a fancy house, cars, etc. and expect their parents to foot the bill (or they go into debt). I also see it in education with students expecting high grades they haven't worked for. I feel like if you want something, you have to earn it. I just can't respect a 34 year old whose parents still pay his/her bills.
I can't stand entitlement in general. So many people feel like they deserve a lifestyle they haven't earned, whether it be an expensive wedding, a fancy house, cars, etc. and expect their parents to foot the bill (or they go into debt). I also see it in education with students expecting high grades they haven't worked for. I feel like if you want something, you have to earn it. I just can't respect a 34 year old whose parents still pay his/her bills.
We have some friends who constantly brag about their recently purchased home and some renovations they did before moving in. His parents gave them a down payment and hers paid for the remodel. And when the average price of a house is $909K we're not talking about a small amount of money. My parents helped us pay a major expense and they judge us allll the time yet never acknowledge the help their parents gave them
I can't stand entitlement in general. So many people feel like they deserve a lifestyle they haven't earned, whether it be an expensive wedding, a fancy house, cars, etc. and expect their parents to foot the bill (or they go into debt). I also see it in education with students expecting high grades they haven't worked for. I feel like if you want something, you have to earn it. I just can't respect a 34 year old whose parents still pay his/her bills.
We have some friends who constantly brag about their recently purchased home and some renovations they did before moving in. His parents gave them a down payment and hers paid for the remodel. And when the average price of a house is $909K we're not talking about a small amount of money. My parents helped us pay a major expense and they judge us allll the time yet never acknowledge the help their parents gave them
For me it's less about people getting help from their parents and more about expecting and feeling entitled to help. My best friend and her husband were gifted a very expensive home by his parents, but they are both hard workers and self-sufficient and very appreciative. My SIL, on the other hand had her house and car purchased for her by my in-laws and they still pay 90% of her bills (according to my MIL) but she feels like it is owed to her and always wants more. It really bothers me that she takes advantage of my in-laws and husband who are really good, generous people who worked hard for everything they have.
We have some friends who constantly brag about their recently purchased home and some renovations they did before moving in. His parents gave them a down payment and hers paid for the remodel. And when the average price of a house is $909K we're not talking about a small amount of money. My parents helped us pay a major expense and they judge us allll the time yet never acknowledge the help their parents gave them
For me it's less about people getting help from their parents and more about expecting and feeling entitled to help. My best friend and her husband were gifted a very expensive home by his parents, but they are both hard workers and self-sufficient and very appreciative. My SIL, on the other hand had her house and car purchased for her by my in-laws and they still pay 90% of her bills (according to my MIL) but she feels like it is owed to her and always wants more. It really bothers me that she takes advantage of my in-laws and husband who are really good, generous people who worked hard for everything they have.
Post by amynumbers on Mar 19, 2015 10:37:57 GMT -5
I'm not going to pretend I am not bitch enough to notice when people don't send thank you notes. Baby showers, weddings -- come the fuck on.
Kids parties are as a big deal to me, although yeah, that kid is just going to grow up and not write thank you notes, so maybe I should be more annoyed there.
UO -- the idea of a meal train is disgusting to me. Not the action -- the dishes. I know the dishes have got to be gross as hell.
I have a husband with two arms -- we managed to eat.
I think sometimes people care way too much about receiving a "thank you"
Well my kids sit down and write or draw thank you cards after a party or Christmas.
The fuck they will just go along their merry way without acknowledging a gift that someone took the time to choose for them. I realize I'm in the minority here, we get less thank you notes as the years go by. How is it acceptable for manners and gratitude to go out of style?
Id rather my kids say a thank you in person.
A friend didn't send Ty cards for her wedding. Maybe she did for older people-don't know. We went out for drinks when she got back from the honeymoon. she thanked me in person and bought me a drink. I thought that was a far greater gesture than something that is immediately going in the trash. Far less wasteful to just say thank you in person and I like booze more than a card.
Well my kids sit down and write or draw thank you cards after a party or Christmas.
The fuck they will just go along their merry way without acknowledging a gift that someone took the time to choose for them. I realize I'm in the minority here, we get less thank you notes as the years go by. How is it acceptable for manners and gratitude to go out of style?
Id rather my kids say a thank you in person.
A friend didn't send Ty cards for her wedding. Maybe she did for older people-don't know. We went out for drinks when she got back from the wedding. she thanked me in person and bought me a drink. I thought that was a far greater gesture than something that is immediately going in the trash. Far less wasteful to just say thank you in person and I like booze more than a card.
Just no. It's lazy. It just is.
And kids need to know how to write a proper thank you note in life. Interviews and things of that nature.
I'm hardly Emily Post, but I assure you thank you in person and buying a drink was just a CYA. I've experienced that CYA after a wedding.
I had a friend who was adamant that TY notes for gifts weren't necessary for her or her kids, and maybe this sours my opinion, but it was just the tip of the iceberg of her issues in retrospect.
I do thank you notes for gifts that we don't open with the giver. If we see them (showers aside) then a hug & a thank you is sufficient. I wouldn't notice not getting a thank you note from a birthday but would for a wedding or shower, I think. It has rarely (ever?) happened to me.
I have a husband with 2 arms, too, and getting brought 9 meals over 3 weeks was still awesome. The meals started the week he went back to work, so it was nice to not have to worry about some of our dinners during that time. Could we have done it? Of course. But I'm grateful I had some easy nights and so was my husband. And we actually had some really good things - only 1 I can think of that wasn't good and I think we have pretty high food standards compared to some.
A friend didn't send Ty cards for her wedding. Maybe she did for older people-don't know. We went out for drinks when she got back from the wedding. she thanked me in person and bought me a drink. I thought that was a far greater gesture than something that is immediately going in the trash. Far less wasteful to just say thank you in person and I like booze more than a card.
Just no. It's lazy. It just is.
And kids need to know how to write a proper thank you note in life. Interviews and things of that nature.
I'm hardly Emily Post, but I assure you thank you in person and buying a drink was just a CYA. I've experienced that CYA after a wedding.
I had a friend who was adamant that TY notes for gifts weren't necessary for her or her kids, and maybe this sours my opinion, but it was just the tip of the iceberg of her issues in retrospect.
CYA???
I doubt Ty notes for interviews will be commonplace in 17/16 years when my kids graduate college and are looking for jobs. It doesn't make or break someone getting a job anyway. I didn't write thank yous for gifts as a kid yet I still managed to know how to do them for my wedding/shower. It isn't rocket science.
And kids need to know how to write a proper thank you note in life. Interviews and things of that nature.
I'm hardly Emily Post, but I assure you thank you in person and buying a drink was just a CYA. I've experienced that CYA after a wedding.
I had a friend who was adamant that TY notes for gifts weren't necessary for her or her kids, and maybe this sours my opinion, but it was just the tip of the iceberg of her issues in retrospect.
CYA???
I doubt Ty notes for interviews will be commonplace in 17/16 years when my kids graduate college and are looking for jobs. It doesn't make or break someone getting a job anyway. I didn't write thank yous for gifts as a kid yet I still managed to know how to do them for my wedding/shower. It isn't rocket science.
LOZ if you think people don't notice that stuff in job interviews. LOZ. And a note can be email. I know, your worked in HR so you know better. We all know.
And yes, those drinks were her covering her ass. She didn't send thank you notes, saw you, and bought you a drink. Or do you think she scheduled a thank you drink with everyone who bought her a gift?
I doubt Ty notes for interviews will be commonplace in 17/16 years when my kids graduate college and are looking for jobs. It doesn't make or break someone getting a job anyway. I didn't write thank yous for gifts as a kid yet I still managed to know how to do them for my wedding/shower. It isn't rocket science.
LOZ if you think people don't notice that stuff in job interviews. LOZ. And a note can be email. I know, your worked in HR so you know better. We all know.
And yes, those drinks were her covering her ass. She didn't send thank you notes, saw you, and bought you a drink. Or do you think she scheduled a thank you drink with everyone who bought her a gift?
In all my years I never heard a hiring manager say "we aren't hiring joe because he didn't send a thank you" or "we were stuck between Sally and Jane for the job but jane sent a thank you so we decided on Jane". Seriously my old admin threw them away with junk mail. Really when stuck between two it often went on references.
She invited me saying it was her treat. It's not like she bumped into me at a bar and said shit, forgot that thank you, better buy her a drink!! It was a small beachfront wedding at sunset so I'm going with yes, she could have personally thanked all who attended vs sending a card to people she only sees at family get togethers.
I'm not going to pretend I am not bitch enough to notice when people don't send thank you notes. Baby showers, weddings -- come the fuck on.
Kids parties are as a big deal to me, although yeah, that kid is just going to grow up and not write thank you notes, so maybe I should be more annoyed there.
UO -- the idea of a meal train is disgusting to me. Not the action -- the dishes. I know the dishes have got to be gross as hell.
I have a husband with two arms -- we managed to eat.
What? Meal trains don't use the same dishes over and over. Any meal I provide is in disposable containers same with everyone I know. I turned down meals it was never hard to keep our family fed.
Post by andrewsgal on Mar 19, 2015 11:25:10 GMT -5
I make my kids wrote them for those I know care but I think they are stupid a personal phone call or text of a kid playing with a toy I sent is more appreciated than a card.
I just mailed two today from my kids. Writing a thank you note didn't make them appreciate the gifts more or less.
I make my kids wrote them for those I know care but I think they are stupid a personal phone call or text of a kid playing with a toy I sent is more appreciated than a card.
I just mailed two today from my kids. Writing a thank you note didn't make them appreciate the gifts more or less.
Yea, we've texted pics of them using it in lieu of a note, you. Still acknowledges the gift.