Nope, I had never set out any rules, but I also didn't do a lot of "dating", I was in a relationship pretty much from high school until I met DH.
Short answer: yes, but only with my DH-to-be. I was just out of my last relationship, and we had made plans for me to go to his hotel room to pick him up (he had come from out of town to meet up with me). Umm....we left the room a few hours later for dinner, then returned back to the room afterwards. When I think back now, I'm kind of amazed we didn't just order room service.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Mar 19, 2015 8:15:08 GMT -5
Hahahaha. I never had a rule in mind but I know it's hard for me to seperate the physical and emotional. I hardly dated in HS and didnt have sex until my boyfriend in college. After college, I briefly dated a guy from work who turned out to be a virgin and had weirder issues than me. It didn't work out but it did give me perspective on feeling like a weirdo for only having had one partner. Then I started dating DH who held out on me for a couple months. I had been celebrate for almost two years! No one night stands or first date sex for me but I had such ridiculous first dates. I didn't even want to continue talking to many of them. If I became single in the future, I'm sure I'd be just as bad at dating as I always was.
With my first boyfriend we waited. I was a virgin. He wasn't. But he let me decide when I was ready. Didn't take long. He was a good kisser
With my boyfriend before DH - we were fuck buddies first. So our relationship was based off sex then we caught the feelings part & then we were doomed haha. But we lasted 8 years!!
With DH- it moved fast. I was recently single & thought we'd go slow but we dove in head first & are so glad we did!
before I was married the first time I was in my early to mid 20s and really didn't have many rules. I one time dated 9 guys in 1 year and I think only a couple of them I didn't have sex with. With my first H we didn't have sex the first date but I'm pretty sure we did within the first month. Inbetween that marriage and the marriage with DH I did have many more rules. I only dated a couple guys. I did have a guy in between that I pretty much used to get rid of the "cobwebs" but that was it. When DH and I dated we didn't have sex for 3 months, but we did kiss all the time.
If I really liked a guy I wouldn't have sex on the first date, lol. But other than that no rules.
I wish that I had been more selective. Not because i think lots of partners is necessarily a bad thing, but because for me, it was a symptom of my self esteem issues.
Post by Kcthepouchh8r on Mar 19, 2015 11:01:57 GMT -5
I didn't have rules. One guy I dated for a while before we had sex; dh and I did on the first date. Apparently the latter results in a successful relationship. Hahaha.
NandaB! She's doing well. She'll be 4 months next week. How have you and your LOs been? When did you have your newest LO?
We're good. Big kids are crazy, lol. Wesley is doing ok. Were trying to navigate services (pt, ot) and it looks like he will need a hearing aid, but all things considered he's doing really well.
ETA: he was kind enough to wait until after Christmas to make his appearance, so he will be 3 mo on the 26th