Stbx's cousin probably isn't going to make it . They're put surgery off until Monday, but it's not looking like he'll make it until then. They've changed his medicines again, so if they work then he's got a shot but people are losing hope.
My state income tax filing has been selected for "manual review", it should be done in 60 days but dude I could use that refund now.
I think it was a good decision for me to try going without the mucinex D last night. I think things are moving a little better now, but we'll see for sure during the day today.
I got a call from a younger sister yesterday. She and I actually have a pretty good relationship, but the unexpected contact threw me into such a panic attack I threw up We're meeting for lunch tomorrow. I'm really looking forward to seeing her (haven't seen anyone in my family since Christmas)...I'm also really thankful I have xanax.
Post by cuddlyevil on Mar 19, 2015 10:35:12 GMT -5
gault, that's the plan. stbx and I are going to get everything filed as soon as the return comes in. So it'll be filed sometime in the next two weeks and then final maybe by my birthday next month. And I'll still have some money left over to fix a couple things on my car, do something nice for myself on my birthday, and put some in savings.
Also, hugs to everyone. Stressful and sad situations up in hurr.
Mine is pretty tame. I have a conference call with three other people on a topic I 1.Don't know much about and 2. Don't give a rat's ass about. Also 3. I hate the phone and already made a shitton of calls today. NO MORE PHONE. But after work I have a hair cut. The first one since October.
Post by starrieskies on Mar 19, 2015 11:05:27 GMT -5
I need a haircut desperately. I am going crazy and my hair reflects that.
My mom is trying to use her catholic guilt techniques to get me to spend more time with her. She got all weird about me taking a 3 hour drive last weekend because I didn't invite her. Uh, the idea of the drive was to be alone. Inviting someone I don't even want to spend time with defeats the purpose.
I just pulled up all my lists of things I need to buy to have a fully furnished place of my own and combined everything that is left. (The original list was overwhelming me so I separated it into rooms and worked on one room at a time). 15 items. That's it! I'm so close!!
I got a call from a younger sister yesterday. She and I actually have a pretty good relationship, but the unexpected contact threw me into such a panic attack I threw up We're meeting for lunch tomorrow. I'm really looking forward to seeing her (haven't seen anyone in my family since Christmas)...I'm also really thankful I have xanax.
Why haven't you seen anyone in your family since xmas?
I need a haircut desperately. I am going crazy and my hair reflects that.
My mom is trying to use her catholic guilt techniques to get me to spend more time with her. She got all weird about me taking a 3 hour drive last weekend because I didn't invite her. Uh, the idea of the drive was to be alone. Inviting someone I don't even want to spend time with defeats the purpose.
I just pulled up all my lists of things I need to buy to have a fully furnished place of my own and combined everything that is left. (The original list was overwhelming me so I separated it into rooms and worked on one room at a time). 15 items. That's it! I'm so close!!
People can only guilt you if you let them - you have total control over not letting her shenanigans get to you. Take care of yourself and that's all that matters!
Post by starrieskies on Mar 19, 2015 11:14:19 GMT -5
Really all I'm waiting for is for ds to be out of school. I could feasibly do without most of the things on my list, but it makes more sense to just get them now.
Now I just need to find somewhere to move to. That's kind of important. Lol
I need a haircut desperately. I am going crazy and my hair reflects that.
My mom is trying to use her catholic guilt techniques to get me to spend more time with her. She got all weird about me taking a 3 hour drive last weekend because I didn't invite her. Uh, the idea of the drive was to be alone. Inviting someone I don't even want to spend time with defeats the purpose.
I just pulled up all my lists of things I need to buy to have a fully furnished place of my own and combined everything that is left. (The original list was overwhelming me so I separated it into rooms and worked on one room at a time). 15 items. That's it! I'm so close!!
People can only guilt you if you let them - you have total control over not letting her shenanigans get to you. Take care of yourself and that's all that matters!
Oh I know. It's just annoying that I can see so clearly what she's doing and I don't think she does. She's been acting like this for as long as I can remember, it's become second nature to her. The difference now is that it used to work and now I don't allow it to. She knows she's not getting the results she wants and doesn't understand why so she tries harder. It's counterproductive for her but she doesn't realize it.
People can only guilt you if you let them - you have total control over not letting her shenanigans get to you. Take care of yourself and that's all that matters!
Oh I know. It's just annoying that I can see so clearly what she's doing and I don't think she does. She's been acting like this for as long as I can remember, it's become second nature to her. The difference now is that it used to work and now I don't allow it to. She knows she's not getting the results she wants and doesn't understand why so she tries harder. It's counterproductive for her but she doesn't realize it.
Post by captainmel on Mar 19, 2015 13:02:31 GMT -5
I'm getting my hair done today! Yay! Goodbye weird color of blonde roots and faded red. Goodbye weird hair that grows down the back of my neck and makes me feel like I have a mullet! Goodbye weird curl that sticks out the side of my head screaming "I'm a fucking curl, I do what I want!"
I felt way better yesterday and now I'm back to coughing like it is my job. I blame chalupa.
Remember last week when I was talking about the guy across the street who was moving and he had a dumpster out in his driveway?
Well I was just talking to him and it is actually a pretty good story as to why he needed the dumpster.
He has been divorced for like 7-8 years and he kept the house in the divorce. When he was married, his wife kept getting into different crafts. And when I say "get into them", like she was going to make a business out of it. I guess first it was homemade doll clothes, then it was homemade religious bookmarks and finally homemade candles. Apparently she would buy supplies in mass quantity instead of first buying small and seeing if she actually liked what she was doing. When they got divorced she kept promising him she would come get all these supplies but she never did. It just took up a shit ton of room in his unfinished basement.
So I guess he gave her 10 days to come get it all or he was throwing it out. AND that is exactly what he did.
That dumpster was full when it got picked up this past Monday. That is a whole lot of unused handmade supply crap.
Thank you for the hugs everyone. This sister and I actually get along pretty well. I'm not sure why I'm so anxious.
doglove, I've needed a lot of distance from my family in order to break free of some debilitating co-dependent habits. The passive aggressive guilt trips I get from my parents... the competitive aggression from my brothers and sisters...it's madness!
I'm trying to figure out my boundaries, and until I know what shenanigans I'm okay putting up with versus which shenanigans I'm not ever okay with - I need some space.
I've been in San Francisco all week for a sales conference. Sales people are insane partiers. On top of that, I've had twice daily touch point calls with my client at 9PM PST and 3AM PST. The broken sleep coupled with the time change coupled with the alcohol means my head is spinning right now. I'm on a plane bound for home now though so hopefully I can figure out which way is up soon.
The conference was SO fun though. I know I sound like a broken record but I really work for the best company on the planet. We had our 10th anniversary this month and the founders threw a huge 10th "birthday" party. They rented out AT&T stadium where the SF Giants play, had music, dancing, food, drinks, stadium tours, etc. It was SO much fun. Afterwards I got offered tickets to the Hawks game and sat in the founders box for it. My co workers are hilarious and fun and hard working and we just had a blast together this week.
I consider myself to be very lucky professionally.