s/o about love langauges again...

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Aug 10, 2012 12:35:54 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

I think this plays a role in the bedroom too. I've noticed I often need it to be about more than just physical gratification, but for DH that is his main focus/concern. Sometimes my feelings b/c I'm like, wow, I felt so connected to you, and he's like, that felt amazing. KWIM? Or, is this just me?

There was a study done some time ago that said this is one of the biggest difference in the way men's and women's brains are wired.
Women feel like this so that they stay attached to someone, hopefully increasing frequency and the chances of offspring. But the male feels like that to spread his seed, hopefully increasing the quantity and the chances of more offspring.

[sarack]

h and i are opposite you and your h. h likes to make love whereas i like to fuck. i don't know how else to put that. i mean, there is a time and a place, but if i just wanna get it in, that's all i want. none of the other crap. lol.

[picksthemusic]

This is us a lot of the time, too. DH "starts" things with a poke in my butt with his boner, and then pinches my boobs for a while, then it's dive-in time for him. I keep telling him he needs to do more than that to make it good for me... and sometimes he listens, and sometimes he doesn't. I wish he was more consistent with the foreplay!

We haven't really done the "make love" thing for a while... but we've done a lot of brown chicken, brown cow.

[jennlin]

Aug 10, 2012 12:39:01 GMT -5 sarack said:

h and i are opposite you and your h. h likes to make love whereas i like to fuck. i don't know how else to put that. i mean, there is a time and a place, but if i just wanna get it in, that's all i want. none of the other crap. lol.

Lol. This. Except sometimes/most the time, I want oral instead because that gets the job done. After we are done, though, I want the cuddle/connection, but let's check off that to-do list, first!