happily handing over my phone when we are grocery shopping so he sits in the cart/doesn't scream/isn't out of the cart running away from me into the next aisle and laughing about it.
for some reason, I thought I would be able to easily control a 3 year old. lololol for days.
-make them a separate dinner -let them watch tv before age 2 -let their toys take over anything more than a small basket in the corner of the living/family room -wear character apparel -be obsessed with Disney (LOFL big time there) -let my kids leave the house looking disheveled/mis-matching. I was bad about that pre-kids, and N was so passive about that stuff for the most part. Then E came along and gave me yet another "pick your battles" lesson.
I'll see you that phrase, and raise you "When YOU have your own house, you can treat it how you want. This is MY house, and so yes, you have to clean your room."
It actually IS helping with his speech. (He's got a delay and possible hearing problem.) He points to animals, colors, and objects. It's awesome. And it saves us in the AM as we're all getting ready at the same time.
He's currently avoiding meat, so I'm picking up hot dogs tonight to try and get more protein into him. (Trying to cut back on milk.)
I'll see you that phrase, and raise you "When YOU have your own house, you can treat it how you want. This is MY house, and so yes, you have to clean your room."
"If you want to make decisions around here, you have to pay the mortgage too. Do you have a job? No? THEN I AM THE BOSS."
Post by deanlicker78 on Mar 31, 2015 10:10:37 GMT -5
My exH's grandmother once told me there would be days I would genuinely dislike them as human beings. I thought that was the most terrible thing I had ever heard.
You know what? Sometimes I don't like them. Lol Especially the 16 y/o. There are days she's really a terrible person. Or like this morning when Ava wanted breakfast but didn't want anything that was in our house so I told her to eat at school. She also didn't want to eat anything at school. So she chanted, 'I want food' over and over all the way to school for 15 min. I couldn't drive away fast enough after she got out of the car.
Lots of things. Thankfully I kept all of my musings to myself.
I do remember saying that I would never be the woman absentmindedly pushing a loud ass babbling lunatic around in the store. My kid would speak at respectable volumes when in public, and I would respond to every one of her questions and/or comments.
Nope. I'm the one blissfully browsing the clearance selections while my child yips and yelps and sings and talks about... Who knows? I couldn't even begin to tell you. Every once in a while I interject with one of the random phrases I save specifically for these instances. As long as she's not touching things or crying, we shop.
It actually IS helping with his speech. (He's got a delay and possible hearing problem.) He points to animals, colors, and objects. It's awesome. And it saves us in the AM as we're all getting ready at the same time.
He's currently avoiding meat, so I'm picking up hot dogs tonight to try and get more protein into him. (Trying to cut back on milk.)
Do you have subtitles on the tv? That might help him too.
He's only just turned 2, so not sure if it would matter at this point.
We have a sedated brainstem hearing test in 2 weeks. He's failed all others to date. This one will tell us for sure. He's been right on the cusp so far.
Post by deanlicker78 on Mar 31, 2015 10:22:45 GMT -5
Also! I used to think it was so important to let them tell you a story about their day or something that happened without interruption and really listen to what they say. Ain't nobody got time for that now.
It takes Jacob 30 min to tell me a story that could be told in a single sentence. He wanted to tell me that Lucas spilled a glass of water yesterday. It took him forever. I knew what everyone was doing for an hour leading up to the spill, where everyone was when it spilled and the entirety of the aftermath of the spill. Jesus Christ man, get to the damn point!! Plus, it's water! It's not even story worthy!
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by runforrest on Mar 31, 2015 10:25:54 GMT -5
Hmmmm, where do I start?
Plastic toys (loFUCKINGl at that one) Character clothes Licking my finger and then wiping something off of their face Saying "because I said so" Buy M Princess stuff (again, loFUCKINGl) Let them watch more than an hour of TV a day Let them use my iPhone while at a restaurant or church
I mean, the list goes on. At this point, I've decided that so long as they aren't assholes and aren't still living in my house at 30, I've done a good job, lol.
Cosleep Princess crap Toddler breastfeeding Bribery Yelling Let my house get taken by one million toys Leave the house with a ponytail and yoga pants Feed them any kind of sugary dessert Say things like "BECAUSE I SAID SO"
I was such an awesome parent in my mind before having the little monsters. ETA: Obviously I think toddler breastfeeding is good, I was just a judgmental asshole before. I also judged NIP.
It actually IS helping with his speech. (He's got a delay and possible hearing problem.) He points to animals, colors, and objects. It's awesome. And it saves us in the AM as we're all getting ready at the same time.
He's currently avoiding meat, so I'm picking up hot dogs tonight to try and get more protein into him. (Trying to cut back on milk.)
Do you have subtitles on the tv? That might help him too.
This actually did help me when we discovered my hearing loss.
My exH's grandmother once told me there would be days I would genuinely dislike them as human beings. I thought that was the most terrible thing I had ever heard.
This is SO TRUE. I told DH the other day and he didn't seem to get me. But there are definitely days where I don't like one of my kids, usually the older one who is starting her preteen years early. I always love them, but I don't always like them.
My exH's grandmother once told me there would be days I would genuinely dislike them as human beings. I thought that was the most terrible thing I had ever heard.
This is SO TRUE. I told DH the other day and he didn't seem to get me. But there are definitely days where I don't like one of my kids, usually the older one who is starting her preteen years early. I always love them, but I don't always like them.
I realize now that this was probably the most valuable parenting advice anyone ever gave me.
I don't even remember what I said I would never do. I'll just say that my kids watch, on average, an hour of tv a day, and have done so since long before they were 2.
Also! I used to think it was so important to let them tell you a story about their day or something that happened without interruption and really listen to what they say. Ain't nobody got time for that now.
Post by fivechickens on Mar 31, 2015 10:53:18 GMT -5
Lots of things.
I do remember always side eyeing people with multiplies who dressed their kids a like because it was so silly. At least 95% of the girls stuff matches. It is just easier. Also, if we go to someplace big like the zoo or a water park I like them to match just in case one of them gets lost I can point to their sister and say 'that is exactly what she was wearing'.
I always hated character themed clothes and bedding but they have Disney themed blankets and shirts.
Eating.
My patience. I love them how could I lose my patience with them? LOOK HOW CUTE THEY ARE. Lol! No one on this earth can test my patience like these three girls can.
Basically everything I said about parenting went out the window when I had them. It is all about surviving especially the first year.