I know I'm not on here very much but I need support . I caught my husband cheating last Thursday night and he moved out this morning. He is cheating with a married woman who has 4 kids with 4 different dads. My soon to be ex can't make the time to see our 3 year old. I offered visitation on Saturdays (he didn't ask) and he told me that's the only day his gf doesn't have her kids and can see him. He hadn't see our son since Thursday and hasn't asked about him once. I feel so devastated. My son is doing amazing and hasn't asked about daddy since Friday. I'm not doing as great. Anyone been through this with a Toddler /preschooler?
Damn, I am so so sorry that you and your son are going through this. ((hugs)) I can only say that you both deserve better and you will get through this. Have you contacted an attorney?
Hugs, celiacmom. From what I know based on a friend going through a divorce right now, get an agreement written up right away that specifies things like weekly visitations, who your child spends holidays with, and who is responsible for paying for his school/daycare.
I'm sorry, it's tough to remain functional with little kiddo who needs you. My XH and I separated when DS was 3, but gratefully my XH still wanted to be a present dad. This is going to suck and the process will hurt a lot, but it will get better.
Know that your husband's infidelity is not about you or because of you - it's his own shit and he chose a destructive way to deal with it.
And if you haven't, file for divorce. It doesn't mean you have to get divorced if you're still unsure, but it can set up some legal protections for you and your child (child support, custody, etc)