I think whatever you have going on personally (I am genuinely sorry since it sounds like you are having a hard time) is coloring your perception here.
If you made the decision that being mean spirited wasn't life giving for you, I question why you are hanging around and continuing to engage what you believe to be mean spirited people. Drawing in that negative energy is no more healthy than dishing it out.
I appeciate your concern, and I realize that we all feel like we "know" each other on here, but in the most famous words ever on these boards "you don't know me" lol. I think that most of the people on these boards aren't mean spirited. I think many of the most vocal minority on this particular board tend to be, however I can also chastise such behavior while at the same time not being personally affected by it.
So again, I appreciate your concern but it's really unnecessary and the way in which you still continue to express it is actually unwelcome.
I think whatever you have going on personally (I am genuinely sorry since it sounds like you are having a hard time) is coloring your perception here.
If you made the decision that being mean spirited wasn't life giving for you, I question why you are hanging around and continuing to engage what you believe to be mean spirited people. Drawing in that negative energy is no more healthy than dishing it out.
I appeciate your concern, and I realize that we all feel like we "know" each other on here, but in the most famous words ever on these boards "you don't know me" lol. I think that most of the people on these boards aren't mean spirited. I think many of the most vocal minority on this particular board tend to be, however I can also chastise such behavior while at the same time not being personally affected by it.
So again, I appreciate your concern but it's really unnecessary and the way in which you still continue to express it is actually unwelcome.
I think whatever you have going on personally (I am genuinely sorry since it sounds like you are having a hard time) is coloring your perception here.
If you made the decision that being mean spirited wasn't life giving for you, I question why you are hanging around and continuing to engage what you believe to be mean spirited people. Drawing in that negative energy is no more healthy than dishing it out.
I appeciate your concern, and I realize that we all feel like we "know" each other on here, but in the most famous words ever on these boards "you don't know me" lol. I think that most of the people on these boards aren't mean spirited. I think many of the most vocal minority on this particular board tend to be, however I can also chastise such behavior while at the same time not being personally affected by it.
So again, I appreciate your concern but it's really unnecessary and the way in which you still continue to express it is actually unwelcome.
In other words, fuck you very much?
This is one of the most bizarre exchanges I have ever seen.
I appeciate your concern, and I realize that we all feel like we "know" each other on here, but in the most famous words ever on these boards "you don't know me" lol. I think that most of the people on these boards aren't mean spirited. I think many of the most vocal minority on this particular board tend to be, however I can also chastise such behavior while at the same time not being personally affected by it.
So again, I appreciate your concern but it's really unnecessary and the way in which you still continue to express it is actually unwelcome.
In other words, fuck you very much?
This is one of the most bizarre exchanges I have ever seen.
Meant in the nicest way possible. I don't really understand Jenny's insistence since the beginning that she "knows" me, saying this isn't like me, questioning what is good for me, etc. We are strangers on a message board who have gotten along very well over the years and know basic things about each other. And actually, I would say that she knows far less about me than I know about her since I try to be very guarded with the personal information I share.
I think my favorite part of this ongoing saga is that no matter what anybody posts, once cas enters the thread to remind everybody that they are mean spirited harpies, she MUST have the last word.
what's odd is that I remember the name from TN and obviously she's not new here, but I don't have her associated in my mind with this sort of endless thinskinned horsebeating at all. You'd think this level of...persistance would be memorable.
This is one of the most bizarre exchanges I have ever seen.
Meant in the nicest way possible. I don't really understand Jenny's insistence since the beginning that she "knows" me, saying this isn't like me, questioning what is good for me, etc. We are strangers on a message board who have gotten along very well over the years and know basic things about each other. And actually, I would say that she knows far less about me than I know about her since I try to be very guarded with the personal information I share.
Meant in the nicest way possible. I don't really understand Jenny's insistence since the beginning that she "knows" me, saying this isn't like me, questioning what is good for me, etc. We are strangers on a message board who have gotten along very well over the years and know basic things about each other. And actually, I would say that she knows far less about me than I know about her since I try to be very guarded with the personal information I share.
Meant in the nicest way possible. I don't really understand Jenny's insistence since the beginning that she "knows" me, saying this isn't like me, questioning what is good for me, etc. We are strangers on a message board who have gotten along very well over the years and know basic things about each other. And actually, I would say that she knows far less about me than I know about her since I try to be very guarded with the personal information I share.
In other words, a Compassion Fail, yes?
Eh, I don't think she was necessarily trying to be truly compassionate as much as join in the "fun". If she truly felt the things she was saying, then a PM would have been much more appropriate.
She discovered that she didn't want to be mean-spirited. I still have no problem with funny snark and I think I am still quite amusing (albeit not in the past week due to the sikh post, too much actual work, and a personal tragedy), but I just don't think that being mean-spirited is amusing.
I've also discovered that for myself at least, the times when I have been mean-spirited have been dark times in my life and I was just lashing out to try to release some of that negativity.
*snort* Okay, Batman.
Are you questioning me? I went through a very mean phase (my worst) on the Knot when my mother was dying. There have been several other times since then when I have caught myself and realized that because of the space I was in I was not acting the way I wish to.
Eh, I don't think she was necessarily trying to be truly compassionate as much as join in the "fun". If she truly felt the things she was saying, then a PM would have been much more appropriate.
Oh my God, how is it possible for one person to suck so hard. Seriously, it's like a black hole and Jenna Jameson had a really bitchy baby.
I think my favorite part of this ongoing saga is that no matter what anybody posts, once cas enters the thread to remind everybody that they are mean spirited harpies, she MUST have the last word.
Actually, I haven't posted here for nearly a week. And the comments in this thread were mean-spirited. I've also been directly responding to comments today.
Are you questioning me? I went through a very mean phase (my worst) on the Knot when my mother was dying. There have been several other times since then when I have caught myself and realized that because of the space I was in I was not acting the way I wish to.
I'm saying you sound absolutely stupidly dramatic for a damn message board.
Eh, I don't think she was necessarily trying to be truly compassionate as much as join in the "fun". If she truly felt the things she was saying, then a PM would have been much more appropriate.
What the hell, man.
You just said I don't know you and should not assume anything about what you're feeling or thinking. But you know my motivations? Okay.
You're right - I am just transferring my own thoughts onto you, which I shouldn't do. Personally, if I was truly concerned about someone I'd PM them and address it privately. That doesn't mean you would handle it that way.
Are you questioning me? I went through a very mean phase (my worst) on the Knot when my mother was dying. There have been several other times since then when I have caught myself and realized that because of the space I was in I was not acting the way I wish to.
I'm saying you sound absolutely stupidly dramatic for a damn message board.
Not dramatic at all - just addressing various comments and "concerns".
casmgn, I've "known" (not known-known, but seen, observed, whatever you want to call it) you from the NJ board & MM from years back, and while I always thought you were quite a know-it-all, self-righteous, mean girl yourself, you seem to have gone off the deep end. Haven't you ever seen someone on TK or TN and said, wow, that person needs to get a grip? They need to step away from the computer and go sit in the sun for a minute? That's you, right now.
casmgn, I've "known" (not known-known, but seen, observed, whatever you want to call it) you from the NJ board & MM from years back, and while I always thought you were quite a know-it-all, self-righteous, mean girl yourself, you seem to have gone off the deep end. Haven't you ever seen someone on TK or TN and said, wow, that person needs to get a grip? They need to step away from the computer and go sit in the sun for a minute? That's you, right now.
You're right - I am just transferring my own thoughts onto you, which I shouldn't do. Personally, if I was truly concerned about someone I'd PM them and address it privately. That doesn't mean you would handle it that way.
....that is possibly the most half-assed, backhanded non-apology I've seen outside of politics. Damn.
Seriously. I think we can now add passive-aggressive to the things we now "know" about casmgn, which also include misguided compassion towards the Sikh people, a worldly perspective on German guilt, long walks on the beach, and watching the news.
LOL nothing, I've just turned into one of those reviled "let's try to at least not be mean-spirited toward each other" creatures on the internet. If that qualifies as "going off the deep end", so be it.
....that is possibly the most half-assed, backhanded non-apology I've seen outside of politics. Damn.
Seriously. I think we can now add passive-aggressive to the things we now "know" about casmgn, which also include misguided compassion towards the Sikh people, a worldly perspective on German guilt, long walks on the beach, and watching the news.
I think I've actually been quite up front with my views.
Look, honestly, if that's what you're all about now, you realize that sticking around here is sort of like the patient in Little Shop of Horrors who begged for a root canal, right?
Can you believe I have never seen that movie?
Like I said, none of this is personally affecting me - I don't think about it when I'm not on the board, I don't cry myself to sleep at night I do reserve the right to still object to the mean-spirited posts written at my expense solely because I don't think they are correct behavior. I also reserve the right to respond to comments addressed to me.
Other than that, there are plenty of threads on the boards that help to entertain me when I need a break from work.
LOL nothing, I've just turned into one of those reviled "let's try to at least not be mean-spirited toward each other" creatures on the internet. If that qualifies as "going off the deep end", so be it.
Hahaha oh yeah, you're totally all about peace and zen and hugging puppies and shit right now, Captain Passive-Aggressive. Please.
Not being passive-aggressive at all. I told Jenny specifically what I thought.
Like I said, none of this is personally affecting me - I don't think about it when I'm not on the board, I don't cry myself to sleep at night I do reserve the right to still object to the mean-spirited posts written at my expense solely because I don't think they are correct behavior. I also reserve the right to respond to comments addressed to me.
Other than that, there are plenty of threads on the boards that help to entertain me when I need a break from work.
Wait, what? Since when is it up to you to decide what is and what isn't "correct behavior"?
When did you turn in to Sister g*ddamn Mary Margaret? It's not up to you to sit in judgment on everyone here. If you don't like the behavior on an internet message board, the generally accepted action is either to shut up or leave.
Nobody's going to change their ways based on your prim, sphincter-clenching attitude lately.
In normal society, I think it's generally accepted that making mean-spirited comments about or toward someone isn't correct behavior.
So your goal here is to moderate the board and admonish what you perceive as "incorrect behavior"? Because...LOL. You've been around long enough to know how that goes.
The insistence on not letting something go, followed by the moral policing, with the side of "well if you aren't going to change then I'm just going to be fouler than all of you."
Although, to be fair, cas hasn't hit that last part... yet.