NCEP @baby shower tackiness

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Poof. That post was really bitchy and I shouldn't be so negative .

[verypunny]

So she's tacky for hosting her own shower? Okay fine.

What does her mental state have to do with it? Or the fact that she got pregnant young and had 3 kids. Or that she had a miscarriage by a "random"?

Sounds like she's had a tough life.

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Mar 31, 2015 17:06:52 GMT -5 verypunny said:

So she's tacky for hosting her own shower? Okay fine.

What does her mental state have to do with it? Or the fact that she got pregnant young and had 3 kids. Or that she had a miscarriage by a "random"?

Sounds like she's had a tough life.

There is a lot more here, I was just providing the high lights of the most recent thing.  Her life wasn't that tough she's just made really bad choices and her family has enabled her rather than get her the help she really needs.  Her parents (my aunt and uncle) have done a lot to enable her and are super judgy about my choices. I get belittled by them because I'm not a christian and I vote democrat and they make remarks about me to other family members and make comments about how lucky I am to have a nice house, etc. (Even though I work really hard for the things I have, and have never asked for help) and I grew up in a lot harder situation than her. So, yeah I'm hard on her. 

[heyjude]

Sounds very sad.

[chedifuen]

How sad! Sounds like she may really need the help

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Mar 31, 2015 17:24:28 GMT -5 @slayerkate said:

Mar 31, 2015 17:06:52 GMT -5 verypunny said:

So she's tacky for hosting her own shower? Okay fine.

What does her mental state have to do with it? Or the fact that she got pregnant young and had 3 kids. Or that she had a miscarriage by a "random"?

Sounds like she's had a tough life.

There is a lot more here, I was just providing the high lights of the most recent thing.  Her life wasn't that tough she's just made really bad choices and her family has enabled her rather than get her the help she really needs.  Her parents (my aunt and uncle) have done a lot to enable her and are super judgy about my choices. I get belittled by them because I'm not a christian and I vote democrat and they make remarks about me to other family members and make comments about how lucky I am to have a nice house, etc. (Even though I work really hard for the things I have, and have never asked for help) and I grew up in a lot harder situation than her. So, yeah I'm hard on her. 

But do you have a mental illness that affects your cognition and your ability to make decisions?

[orangeblossom]

I don't really care about 2nd, 3rd, etc baby showers/sprinkles, etc. IMO, all babies can be celebrated. Now how that shower comes to be, may cause me to give a side eye, but having one nope.

This is not really the point of the post, but I really, really wish baby mama/daddy would go away.

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Mar 31, 2015 17:52:45 GMT -5 mockingbird said:

It does sound like she needs help.

It also sounds like you have a crappy relationship with that family and no sympathy left. I have some of those!

Cheers for an excuse to skip it.

Yeah, I sound pretty bitchy in my post, more than I should be.  I do feel bad for her. She really needs help and is not getting what she needs. 

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Mar 31, 2015 17:56:13 GMT -5 @spenjamins said:

Mar 31, 2015 17:24:28 GMT -5 @slayerkate said:

There is a lot more here, I was just providing the high lights of the most recent thing.  Her life wasn't that tough she's just made really bad choices and her family has enabled her rather than get her the help she really needs.  Her parents (my aunt and uncle) have done a lot to enable her and are super judgy about my choices. I get belittled by them because I'm not a christian and I vote democrat and they make remarks about me to other family members and make comments about how lucky I am to have a nice house, etc. (Even though I work really hard for the things I have, and have never asked for help) and I grew up in a lot harder situation than her. So, yeah I'm hard on her. 

But do you have a mental illness that affects your cognition and your ability to make decisions?

No, and I admit that I sound really harsh in my OP.  This side of my family has a history of asking for handouts from family members, among other things. I have some hard feelings mainly towards her parents. I really shouldn't put my animosity towards her, but I think her sleeping around and intentionally getting pregnant (it was intentional, she wrote a blog about it) when she can't take care of herself or the 3 kids she has is a really bad choice.

[Miss Phryne Fisher]

I would send a very nice and practical gift, and skip the shower. Sounds like she has it hard.

[KateAggie]

@slayerkate, we all have those times. And sometimes, seeing it in writing can help us work through it. (((Hugs)))

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Mar 31, 2015 18:03:11 GMT -5 @slayerkate said:

Mar 31, 2015 17:56:13 GMT -5 @spenjamins said:

But do you have a mental illness that affects your cognition and your ability to make decisions?

No, and I admit that I sound really harsh in my OP.  This side of my family has a history of asking for handouts from family members, among other things. I have some hard feelings mainly towards her parents. I really shouldn't put my animosity towards her, but I think her sleeping around and intentionally getting pregnant (it was intentional, she wrote a blog about it) when she can't take care of herself or the 3 kids she has is a really bad choice.

Hypersexuality is a symptom of the disease.