I do confess to some irritation with the disdain some parents have for so called "pinterest" moms. It's like some people cannot fathom that those of us with a crafty hobby we enjoy might want to extend that hobby to things that benefit our children. @majorwife enjoys party planning. Should she stop because the mom down the street prefers to pick up a cake and decorations from wallyworld and call it good?
I don't sew to make other moms feel bad. I sew because well, I like to sew and I have a fuckton of fabric that has to get used before my children donate it to goodwill after they send me to Shady Pines.
Oh yeah. My mom sent us outside . . . so she could sew. To save money AND because she enjoyed it. As I do. And I haven't bought any fabric since December. DECEMBER.
I do confess to some irritation with the disdain some parents have for so called "pinterest" moms. It's like some people cannot fathom that those of us with a crafty hobby we enjoy might want to extend that hobby to things that benefit our children. @majorwife enjoys party planning. Should she stop because the mom down the street prefers to pick up a cake and decorations from wallyworld and call it good?
I don't sew to make other moms feel bad. I sew because well, I like to sew and I have a fuckton of fabric that has to get used before my children donate it to goodwill after they send me to Shady Pines.
Oh yeah. My mom sent us outside . . . so she could sew. To save money AND because she enjoyed it. As I do. And I haven't bought any fabric since December. DECEMBER.
HOW HAVE YOU SURVIVED???
I am scared to admit how much fabric I've purchased since December. I'm trying to hold off ONE MORE STINKING DAY on some gorgeous lace from mood. One day and it's killing me.
Thanks! He's okay, but if the tooth doesn't fall out he's absolutely going to look like a wee baby pirate until he gets his permanent teeth. We might have it filled in later if he can sit still long enough and he cares.
LOL
Bright side: He's got an easy Halloween costume this year.
Oh yeah. My mom sent us outside . . . so she could sew. To save money AND because she enjoyed it. As I do. And I haven't bought any fabric since December. DECEMBER.
HOW HAVE YOU SURVIVED???
I am scared to admit how much fabric I've purchased since December. I'm trying to hold off ONE MORE STINKING DAY on some gorgeous lace from mood. One day and it's killing me.
I have literally not sewn a thing since December. So I can't justify any fabric purchases.
Andplusalso my mom gave me like 5 yards of stuff. LOL!
I am scared to admit how much fabric I've purchased since December. I'm trying to hold off ONE MORE STINKING DAY on some gorgeous lace from mood. One day and it's killing me.
I have literally not sewn a thing since December. So I can't justify any fabric purchases.
Andplusalso my mom gave me like 5 yards of stuff. LOL!
None of this is English to me. You ain't a real G.
Did iammalcolmx tell you I'm coming your way like twice this summer?? FABRIC SHOPPING FOR EVERYONE!
@helenabonhamcarter if it helps, I've spent like $60 on fabric in the last month to fill cville's gap.
Plus yarn. lol
CHILD'S PLAY!!
So here goes, you ready???
I bought 5 yards of blue silk taffeta for some flower girl dresses. It came with swatches of white for the third FG dress so I ordered two yards of cream. It arrived, I didn't like all the slubs so I carried myself to Joanns and bought two yards of their taffeta. Then, when I was ready to sew up the third dress, I couldn't find the Joanns taffeta so I used to slubby silk baron stuff anyway. Please don't ask how much it costs to buy 9 yards of silk taffeta but since it was for an order, it doesn't count, right? RIGHT??
So moving backwards,
Five yards of white pique with embroidered strawberries Two yards of robin's egg blue pique two yards of white pique 16 yards total of wool suiting (It was on sale.) 16ish yards total of rayon challis (also on sale) including five yards of a floral print sateen challis which I half bought because I liked the print and half because I've never seen a sateen challis and wondered what it would feel like. Amazing, that's what, if you're wondering. 2 yards of a large stripe silk modal that I still can't figure out what to do with. 1+1 yards of a twill that has a flocked velvet lace design on it. I'm pretty sure I bought the first yard with the aforementioned challis. Only after it arrived did I realize I needed more than a yard for the skirt I wanted to make from it so I ordered another yard and some other shit I can't even remember at this point. I order like a yard a piece in different colors of silk jersey, one to match this gorgeous woven cotton I wanted to make a Valentine's skirt from. But it looked different from what I expected it to and it was red and wine, not red and black so the silk jersey I bought to match, doesn't work.
And that doesnt' including any of the ribbon, piping, the silk embroidery thread the store I bought it from waited too long to send for it to be of any use to me, or any of the patterns I've acquired in that same time frame.
And sadly, the only thing I've managed to sew since then are the flower girl dresses. Everything else is still sitting here unsewn. I've half cut out my easter dress but now I'm thinking of sewing something else instead.
I'm giggling at the idea of an 18yo sitting down with his Mama to go through 18 boxes of junk on his birthday.
"This is a copy of the paper from your third birthday and this is the shell we found at the beach on seventh birthday and THIS, this is your "I'm awesome" sticker you won in 8th grade for doing your homework like you were told."
Dude, no. When I was 18, I had a nice lunch with my parents and then went to work before going out with my friends.
I'm giggling at the idea of an 18yo sitting down with his Mama to go through 18 boxes of junk on his birthday.
"This is a copy of the paper from your third birthday and this is the shell we found at the beach on seventh birthday and THIS, this is your "I'm awesome" sticker you won in 8th grade for doing your homework like you were told."
Dude, no. When I was 18, I had a nice lunch with my parents and then went to work before going out with my friends.
My MIL has all this shit. This is not a new thing lol
I do confess to some irritation with the disdain some parents have for so called "pinterest" moms. It's like some people cannot fathom that those of us with a crafty hobby we enjoy might want to extend that hobby to things that benefit our children. @majorwife enjoys party planning. Should she stop because the mom down the street prefers to pick up a cake and decorations from wallyworld and call it good?
I don't sew to make other moms feel bad. I sew because well, I like to sew and I have a fuckton of fabric that has to get used before my children donate it to goodwill after they send me to Shady Pines.
I agree with this. My mom totally pinterested my parties before the internet was even invented
My parents both worked. My brother is 4 years younger than me and between the time I left for my teenager job and the time one of my parents got home was like a half hour, MAYBE an hour and one day during that short window of time my brother (around 10 at the time) hopped on the back of a UPS truck, got scared halfway down the street and jumped off. Ended up in the hospital with a concussion (?) and some wicked road rash.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
I do confess to some irritation with the disdain some parents have for so called "pinterest" moms. It's like some people cannot fathom that those of us with a crafty hobby we enjoy might want to extend that hobby to things that benefit our children. @majorwife enjoys party planning. Should she stop because the mom down the street prefers to pick up a cake and decorations from wallyworld and call it good?
I don't sew to make other moms feel bad. I sew because well, I like to sew and I have a fuckton of fabric that has to get used before my children donate it to goodwill after they send me to Shady Pines.
I agree with this. My mom totally pinterested my parties before the internet was even invented
Same. And she volunteered at school and always knew where I was and shuttled me to dance classes and piano practice, etc. I remember wishing she was less involved, especially the older I got. I do think kids today are, in general, overscheduled and could use more independent play time. But that also doesn't mean that knowing where your kids are or volunteering in their class is wrong either. I suspect there's a happy medium that can be found, though even that will probably still screw up kids too. lol
I agree with this. My mom totally pinterested my parties before the internet was even invented
Same. And she volunteered at school and always knew where I was and shuttled me to dance classes and piano practice, etc. I remember wishing she was less involved, especially the older I got. I do think kids today are, in general, overscheduled and could use more independent play time. But that also doesn't mean that knowing where your kids are or volunteering in their class is wrong either. I suspect there's a happy medium that can be found, though even that will probably still screw with kids too. lol
Yeah, my mom did all that too (and she did work). I have no idea how she did it all, but I try to live up to it I heard a talk on the Diane Rehm show on NPR yesterday that mentioned how scheduled activities have actually been shown to be really good and beneficial to kid. The story focused on there is no need to be helicopter parents but there is a line between checking out and being there for your kid.
Helicopter vs free range is the 2015 version of SAH vs work manufactured by the media to drum up hits. We've already mined BFing vs not, SAH vs not, etc. Time to sow new ground for which moms can duke it out online: how do you spend your time with your kid: are they on a literal leash or at your teat or are they running around lord of the flies in a garbage dump? When in reality there is no free range or helicopter mom. There are just moms and dads who make decisions based on the kid and the moment and we are all probably not that different. How we parent is probably a lot more gray than a black or white label.
And yeah. I'm really fucking tired how every other generation of mom in every other single culture is doing it better than me. Like. Shut. Up.
"We did X when I was a kid and we're fine." Is the dumbest argument ever. It irritates me soooo much. First, we're not just fine. We as a nation have a lot of issues with obesity and health. We continually lag behind other countries in education with a nice side of anti-science. We have lots of problems. I don't think all of our countries issues are traceable back to parenting, but it is not unreasonable to look at those problems and to make changes to try to fix them.
Second, those who were not just fine may not be able to tell us about it. (I'm looking at you MIL and your thoughts about carseats.) Third, it brings the discussion to a personal place, making it impossible to refute their points without attacking them personally.
I do confess to some irritation with the disdain some parents have for so called "pinterest" moms. It's like some people cannot fathom that those of us with a crafty hobby we enjoy might want to extend that hobby to things that benefit our children. @majorwife enjoys party planning. Should she stop because the mom down the street prefers to pick up a cake and decorations from wallyworld and call it good?
I don't sew to make other moms feel bad. I sew because well, I like to sew and I have a fuckton of fabric that has to get used before my children donate it to goodwill after they send me to Shady Pines.
I agree with this. My mom totally pinterested my parties before the internet was even invented
When I was a kid my Mom made my clothes and we had homemade bday cake and room Mom and my sister and I wanted store bought stuff and a cool Mom that worked. Kids are stupid. Do you.
good lord is there no end to these "articles"? WHY DO I KEEP READING THEM.
This is exactly how I feel. So very many articles about how in the good old days moms just smoked cigarettes and watched soaps while the kids played in the mud outside by themselves all day long blah blah no car seats, bouncing around in the back of the station wagon, and on and on. I mean, my mom was a SAHM and this was my life basically and I am STILL tired of the romanticizing that goes on about childhood in the 70s/80s whenever.
"We did X when I was a kid and we're fine." Is the dumbest argument ever. It irritates me soooo much. First, we're not just fine. We as a nation have a lot of issues with obesity and health. We continually lag behind other countries in education with a nice side of anti-science. We have lots of problems. I don't think all of our countries issues are traceable back to parenting, but it is not unreasonable to look at those problems and to make changes to try to fix them.
Second, those who were not just fine may not be able to tell us about it. (I'm looking at you MIL and your thoughts about carseats.) Third, it brings the discussion to a personal place, making it impossible to refute their points without attacking them personally.
YES! This drives me just as crazy as those "well, if you don't have anything to hide then why not let the cops/government, etc. search you/your phone/your home."
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
I'm giggling at the idea of an 18yo sitting down with his Mama to go through 18 boxes of junk on his birthday.
"This is a copy of the paper from your third birthday and this is the shell we found at the beach on seventh birthday and THIS, this is your "I'm awesome" sticker you won in 8th grade for doing your homework like you were told."
Dude, no. When I was 18, I had a nice lunch with my parents and then went to work before going out with my friends.
My MIL has all this shit. This is not a new thing lol
When we bought our house, my mom gave me boxes of literally every school assignment I ever did going all the way back to first grade, every project I ever did, every random childhood drawing I made for one of my parents...
Some of it was interesting and funny to go through (my autobiography, written at age 8, is a hoot), but I have no idea what to do with it all. It's currently sitting in my attic.
I'm starting to get annoyed at at the articles like this. This writer is writing for moms that don't work, and so they don't need to scrounge up a schedule of summer camps and activities because of summer vacation. She also assumes that all people live in a neighborhood full of children and playgrounds to walk to and big yards to play in.
I agree that kids should learn independence and imagination and how to play by themselves. I just don't think it's a bad thing to know where your kids are and who they are with.
We didn't live in a neighborhood with big yards. But we still went outdoors to play. Same thing with my cousins who lived in an apartment. They went to the apartment playground and hung out all day.
My mom worked and our Summers were primarily spent at my great-grandma's house doing the same thing - playing.
I work and I take this approach on the weekends - go outside, stop sucking up my a/c and move around.
On not knowing where kids are - you do kinda know. My mom said we couldn't go past a certain point on the street. I apply the same thing to my kid - you can't wander all over the subdivision, don't go past so and so's house and stay off Miss Jane's lawn cuz she don't like kids like that and it's rude. LOL
Obviously, I can relate to this article. The only thing missing is a sentence about going to the Candy Lady.
My kids are 7 and 4. They're too young for the wolf pack. I don't play with them. I make them play with each other or their friends or - GASP! - alone. I sign them up for dance classes and summer camp and preschool and we go on fun outings when it's both of them home with me because OMG THE FIGHTING, that's why. Busy kids are less assholish to each other.
You know what parents? Do the best fucking job you can and tell everyone else to shove up their kazoos, because are kids are all going to end up in therapy no matter what you do.