Is this really still a thing?

[feistypants]

So I'm dating a guy and all of my friends are doing the "three date rule" and "five date rule" thing. You know, no sex before x date. Is this really still a hard and fast rule?

[imalwaysme79]

Aug 11, 2012 16:25:03 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

No, do whatever you feel comfortable with.

This is exactly what I was going to say. The same goes for the sleepovers, talks about being exclusive, saying I love yous, and anything else that comes along in a relationship.

[roselis]

I always say go with what is comfortable for you.
I have had sex on the first date before. And then with this guy, we just had the 2nd date and he still hasn't made any kind of move to even kiss me!

[BlueBayou]

Trust your gut like everyone above me said I have slept with someone on the first date and it turned into a three yr relationship. Then on the flip of that, I made another wait three dates til sex ( didnt tell him of course) and that relationship lasted three months! So there is no set guarantee

[dakotadangerdog]

Yeah it doesn't matter at all. With the last guy I said I was gonna wait til the third, just as a bet with my friends to see if I could hold out that long. NOPE. I boned that dude first chance I got. Second date. So glad I did too, the sex was aawweeeeesoooooome.

[mandimija]

I'm going to have to go with 'No.' Your timeline needs to be when you're both comfortable, so-called 'norms' be damned. Mijo and I have done some things relatively quickly, while we are considered slow as all hell on others. However, our timeline works for us, so we go for it. Honestly, I think being on the same page regarding steps is a better predictor of the success/viability of your relationship than exactly when these steps take place.

[blackkitty]

I had sex with my BF the first day we met. And it wasn't even a date. So I vote "no", not a thing

/gavel