S/O chores

[expectantsteelerfan]

I didn't want to thread-jack Dizzy's post, so I thought I'd make my own.  Dh and I have been disagreeing on the idea of chores and allowance, and I wanted some other opinions.
Background: DS is taking an interest in money, learning how much the coins are worth, buying things himself, etc.  We haven't done any sort of allowance up until now.  
DH works really long hours, and most days gets home in time to just put the kids to bed, if that.
And I'm currently going through a bit of a rough patch with being home with the kids...they are fighting a TON lately, but also want to be around each other constantly and basically driving me nuts most days, with ds being the ringleader and really having NOTHING that works with him to get him to calm down and listen when he is wound up and being silly.

Ok, so my idea was to instate a weekly allowance for ds (something super small at this age, like 50 cents, enough to teach him how to save for tiny things) and not have it tied to anything, he gets it no matter what.  If he wants to earn more, he does extra chores of things that are ACTUALLY helpful to me beyond what is normally expected of him as part of the family.

DH thinks he should not get money for nothing, we (which would be ME) need to make a chore chart, enforce him doing it, and if he doesn't do something properly or is misbehaving while doing it, he doesn't get the money.

I get that dh thinks this would be a new thing to try to get ds to behave better, but all I see is more work for me, another thing for me to NAG ds about, and something for him to whine about when he doesn't do his jobs.  Honestly, I know my ds, and I know he's not mature enough at this age to really do things that will actually be helpful to me (beyond what he already does) on a regular basis without whining and making an ordeal about it.  To me, enforcing a chore chart sounds like just one more thing for me to deal with.  

Dh and I are currently at a stalemate, so ds is currently getting nothing.  
What says DWP moms?

[dizzycooks]

Can I be childish and say that since you spend 90% of the day with DS you get to decide? :/ That's my gut response. If you're the one enforcing it and living with it I fail to see why he gets much say. Although that's just me. My dh is very much, you decide, you know best and will typically go along with most anything I think will make life easier and trusts me to make most decisions about the kids if I so choose. Typically I ask for his input, but not always. I think your plan is a good one.

[Kcthepouchh8r]

I would do the two separate lists like sing said in dizzys post. Do it on a dry erase board so you don't have to create a new chart every week. From what I read (which admittedly I could be completely misinterpreting as I'm sick and haven't gotten a good nights sleep since Saturday) he doesn't have issue doing his everyday tasks making that .50 easy to earn. You shouldn't have to nag about extras-he either does them and get the money or doesn't. I've found with my ds having something to work towards helps keep him motivated. He is itching for a Star Wars rebel action figure so he's actually nagging me for ways to earn money.

[Rainyday]

I think a chore chart sounds like a PITA, too much work.
For little ones I would just keep it simple, "here is a hand broom to sweep by the front door" . If you want to pay them just drop the fifty cents in a clear jar on the counter so he can see it.
I think your H's idea of taking the money away for behavior could be confusing for him.
(I can't see ages on mobile)

Also, if your kids are fighting, misbehaving etc I would not choose now to abitrarily start giving an allowance for nothing.

[rosesandpetals]

How much does your DH work? I'd let him make a chore chart and enforce it on the weekend or in the evening. Clearing the table after dinner, getting the mail on Saturday morning, folding laundry, whatever. Let him do it for a few weeks and if it is NBD then do it during the week. If it is an ordeal like you think then I'm sure he'll see that and back off.

[lattelady5]

Instead of a chore chart what about a marble jar or something simple? For every chore or whatever you ask him to do he can earn a marble in the jar. At the end of the week if he has X amount of marbles, he gets his allowance. Or something like that might be easier.

Generally though, I'm with the others that say you should decide since you're the one who will have to deal with it.