Post by partiallysunny on Apr 7, 2015 6:49:15 GMT -5
It's nice and warm today, but rainy.
I'm getting excited to garden! I did very little last year but pull out some bushes and edge a few beds. I didn't even mulch. I really want to layout another bed, actually plant some flowers, mulch, lay down some grass seed, etc.
H left extra early this morning to go to a bible study group set up by a couple of his coworkers...I have mixed feelings about it that I can't sort out.
On the one hand, I'm happy to see him reaching out for positive support. On the other, I still have issues with God and I'm worried H will start drinking the koolaid. I'm pretty sure the latter is just my own anxiety over religion, though.
H left extra early this morning to go to a bible study group set up by a couple of his coworkers...I have mixed feelings about it that I can't sort out.
On the one hand, I'm happy to see him reaching out for positive support. On the other, I still have issues with God and I'm worried H will start drinking the koolaid. I'm pretty sure the latter is just my own anxiety over religion, though.
Do you think he would pressure you into participating?
That's the only way I'd have an issue with him going.
Post by udscoobychick on Apr 7, 2015 8:03:56 GMT -5
I want to plant a real garden in raised beds this year. In the past, I've just done containers, and they're a PITA to remember to water. I'm not very good at growing things, so I'm going to start with the garden before I tackle landscaping-type beds. I do want to plant some fruit trees, though.
I'm a little groggy because nothing made my headache go away last night so I finally took a Valium, figuring it was muscle tension. So far this morning I feel better.
There was SUCH a mess left by the guys who replaced my windows. I was not feeling up to cleaning it all up last night. I did some, but there's still more to do, of course. But yay for new windows!
They left dirt all over my bathtub. I thought I got it all but NOPE! I didn't want to have to clean in the morning before taking a shower. Hence I am grumpy.
XP from the SO board... Thank you everyone for the good thoughts and kind words. My cat crossed over the rainbow bridge yesterday and my heart is broken. He was my little buddy for over 14 years and it was very hard to say "goodbye."
XP from the SO board... Thank you everyone for the good thoughts and kind words. My cat crossed over the rainbow bridge yesterday and my heart is broken. He was my little buddy for over 14 years and it was very hard to say "goodbye."
H left extra early this morning to go to a bible study group set up by a couple of his coworkers...I have mixed feelings about it that I can't sort out.
On the one hand, I'm happy to see him reaching out for positive support. On the other, I still have issues with God and I'm worried H will start drinking the koolaid. I'm pretty sure the latter is just my own anxiety over religion, though.
Do you think he would pressure you into participating?
That's the only way I'd have an issue with him going.
Given what I've already posted on TIP about my relationship, I'm not sure how to put this without sounding completely delusional, but I'll just say it: We've talked about religion a lot, and I've been completely open with H about why I'm uncomfortable with it and that I'm questioning my faith, so I'm not anxious about him pressuring me into anything.
I also don't want to prevent him from following his heart's desire, and I think that, right now, he has a yearning for a higher power and is trying to understand what that means to him. His issue - not mine.
My issue is that I'm angry with God. I just need to make sure that I don't do anything I don't want to do for the sake of making someone else happy.
Do you think he would pressure you into participating?
That's the only way I'd have an issue with him going.
Given what I've already posted on TIP about my relationship, I'm not sure how to put this without sounding completely delusional, but I'll just say it: We've talked about religion a lot, and I've been completely open with H about why I'm uncomfortable with it and that I'm questioning my faith, so I'm not anxious about him pressuring me into anything.
I also don't want to prevent him from following his heart's desire, and I think that, right now, he has a yearning for a higher power and is trying to understand what that means to him. His issue - not mine.
My issue is that I'm angry with God. I just need to make sure that I don't do anything I don't want to do for the sake of making someone else happy.
I feel like the first paragraph and last paragraph are a little contradictory.
If you don't think he'll pressure you, how will you be put in the position of doing something you don't want to do?
I can't believe they didn't have to clean up after themselves tiramisu!
They should've, but I didn't want to lock the cats up for another day just to try to get that done. It's all checking up fairly quickly, but walking into a place that needed cleaning with things out of place last night definitely added to my headache. The good news is that my place is getting even cleaner as a result.
I'm so sorry riverpestie Every time I see your screen name I think of how much you love your pets. I know your cat knew he was cared for and loved, but it's still so hard to say good bye.
Oh no, I'm so sorry riverpestie. Big, huge hugs to you. Talk about it here if you need/want to. It's so hard to lose a companion who's been with you so long. More hugs.
Given what I've already posted on TIP about my relationship, I'm not sure how to put this without sounding completely delusional, but I'll just say it: We've talked about religion a lot, and I've been completely open with H about why I'm uncomfortable with it and that I'm questioning my faith, so I'm not anxious about him pressuring me into anything.
I also don't want to prevent him from following his heart's desire, and I think that, right now, he has a yearning for a higher power and is trying to understand what that means to him. His issue - not mine.
My issue is that I'm angry with God. I just need to make sure that I don't do anything I don't want to do for the sake of making someone else happy.
I feel like the first paragraph and last paragraph are a little contradictory.
If you don't think he'll pressure you, how will you be put in the position of doing something you don't want to do?
Briefly: because the definition of Christianity that I grew up with tells me I should always submit to my husband, whether or not I agree or want to. To his credit, he completely disagrees with that mindset and gets frustrated when I start "giving in" to him even when he knows I don't want what he wants.
My concern is that I will feel the need to tow the "party line" even if I don't agree with it (like I did with my parents). Rationally, I know this is ridiculous. DH has never made me "submit".
I think I'm being codependent about this because, subconsciously, I don't want to be in the church; therefore I don't want him to be in the church.
I have cramps from hell today. I used to be one of those girls who wondered what all the fuss was about with cramps. I never had 'em and thought those that complained were just being big babies. As I've gotten older they've started to really affect me. Usually it's nothing two ibuprofen won't cure but today...no, not today. I've had six already today and they haven't touched the pain.
Are we talking about a very specific church that your H is getting involved with SwimDeep? Like Mormon or Mennonite?
I don't know...and I don't think H would know if I asked him :/ The man who's leading the meeting used to be a pastor, so I suspect (given we're in GA) that he's Baptist. I grew up in a "Independent Fundamentalist Baptist" church, so that's what I know of Baptists, and it makes me nervous.
Are we talking about a very specific church that your H is getting involved with SwimDeep? Like Mormon or Mennonite?
I don't know...and I don't think H would know if I asked him :/ The man who's leading the meeting used to be a pastor, so I suspect (given we're in GA) that he's Baptist. I grew up in a "Independent Fundamentalist Baptist" church, so that's what I know of Baptists, and it makes me nervous.
I can see why that would be concerning. Hopefully it won't be the same experience you had.
Since you mentioned he doesn't agree with the issues that concern you (submission), I would hope he'd leave the group before putting you in an awkward situation.
I have cramps from hell today. I used to be one of those girls who wondered what all the fuss was about with cramps. I never had 'em and thought those that complained were just being big babies. As I've gotten older they've started to really affect me. Usually it's nothing two ibuprofen won't cure but today...no, not today. I've had six already today and they haven't touched the pain.
Same here. They use to never bother me but in the last year I am starting to really feel them.
XP from the SO board... Thank you e (hug2)veryone for the good thoughts and kind words. My cat crossed over the rainbow bridge yesterday and my heart is broken. He was my little buddy for over 14 years and it was very hard to say "goodbye."