Post by jennynumbers on Apr 13, 2015 10:48:52 GMT -5
UPDATE 2 BFF mom passed away today. Since it was so aggressive and she was in a lot of pain, I am glad she went quickly and didn't have to suffer long. I have decided that I will just sit tight until BFF gets back to me. I've texted her this morning and will again tonight/tomorrow. Once she is able to process through today and probably start the planning with her family tomorrow I will go and visit. Thanks for all the advice/comments. UPDATE They don't think she will last much longer than tonight/tomorrow. She is still in the hospital with her family around her. I will now forgo the gas GC (Which really, Ala, that was a great idea) and instead I will get some groceries. I will also offer to pick up food, go back to the house early for set-up etc... after the services.
Thanks for all the advice/recipes. My BFF of over 20 years mother is passing away from cancer. It is aggressive and she has undergone several surgeries plus chemo/radiation. She is currently in the hospital but they are releasing her with meds to make her comfortable at home. They are only giving her weeks to live.
I don't know what to do. For my friend, for her mom, whom I love. I don't know if I should visit, if she wants visitors. I've been texting my friend and asking if there is anything at all that is needed to please please let me know. I just feel so lost and helpless right now. And so incredibly sad.
We lost Jerry's brother and mom last year and so many folks reached out to us regarding what they could do. It depends on how much privacy the family wants. We really appreciated food, flowers, and just getting a phone call to let us know they were thinking of us.
Post by darkling_glory on Apr 13, 2015 11:34:13 GMT -5
One thing I've heard that helps is to make actual suggestions of things you can do. So, don't say "Let me know how to help."
Instead, you could try, "I'm going to drop off a lasagna on Thursday. How does that sound?" or "I'm available on Mondays if you need rides to the hospital/ want some company."
Post by theatre4life on Apr 13, 2015 13:39:48 GMT -5
I was coming in to say the same thing as DG, every advice I have seen, is be specific. It is a lot easier for the family to have to just answer a yes and no question (no that time doesn't work for me, yes that would be great) than have to come up with something for every well-intention person asking what they can do.
Post by jennynumbers on Apr 14, 2015 9:34:26 GMT -5
Thanks everyone. I am going to go to the grocery store tonight and pick up some items she might need. She has an 8 y/o daughter, so I'll get some easy-ready meals and some milk and stuff. I'll look into some GF freezer meals too.