NCEP - WWYD friends' custody battle

[downtoearth]

Poof -

Thanks, I really do appreciate the advice to be more clear as to why I'm not a good choice as to a witness for her.

[origami]

She wants you to testify in her favor but your testimony would hurt her case? Is that right?

[downtoearth]

Yes, she asked me if I would mind. I told her I don't remember a lot of details and that I'd perfer not to. She asked again.

I can't be supenoaed in a custody case, right?

[downtoearth]

I was the first person she called after an event

. Poof - sorry

[StrawberryBlondie]

If she won't give it up, tell her that you love her but your testimony won't help her and you won't perjure yourself.

[origami]

I think you need to be more specific about why you don't want to testify. "I'd prefer not to" just sounds like "I just don't want to be involved in your messy drama." I wouldnt blame her for asking you again because she needs friends to be involved. But your way of helping her is NOT testifying. So I'd say to her, "I want to help you. But I did not witness [good stuff she thinks you'll testify to], I only remember seeing [bad stuff you would actually testify to]. Therefore you don't want me on the stand."

[eclaires]

I agree you should be more specific with her even if it's uncomfortable.

We have friends who are in a custody battle/divorce and thankfully have not been asked to be involved. But we are only friends with one partner now. It makes me sad and we tried to remain friends with both but it didn't work out. The husband is my H's best friend and our daughter's godfather. We went to college with him and didn't meet his wife until a year or two before they got married. So it makes sense that it shook out this way but it's hard.

[loreleigilmore]

I can't speak for where you live, but yes people get subpoenaed to custody battles in some states.

[meij]

Apr 17, 2015 22:14:23 GMT -5 downtoearth said:

Yes, she asked me if I would mind. I told her I don't remember a lot of details and that I'd perfer not to. She asked again.

I can't be supenoaed in a custody case, right?

Yes you can. I was for a family I had previously nannied for.

[downtoearth]

Thanks also for the info about supeonas and custody battles. God, I hope I don't get called.