It's just after 5 AM here and it's pouring rain. I can't sleep due to AF major cramps. Ugh! It's going to be a long day.
I had a great day of lounging around yesterday. It was much needed after Saturday's events.
Oh and instead of getting the Michael Kohrs purse, I paid off 4 medical bills this weekend! Yes, I really wanted that purse, but the free-ish feeling I have with those bills being paid off, is better than any purse!
I'm feeling stuck. I think I told you all that I was leaving my school at the end of the year (and I'm also wanting to leave the county because it's over an hours drive. I live across the bridge in the the other county) anyways I was reviewing my end of year packet and making mental notes for myself.
I can't apply in the other county until June 7 when the drop period let's up. It's hard when you don't have a job lined up. I'm kind of freaking out even though I know I'll be okay.
I'm feeling stuck. I think I told you all that I was leaving my school at the end of the year (and I'm also wanting to leave the county because it's over an hours drive. I live across the bridge in the the other county) anyways I was reviewing my end of year packet and making mental notes for myself.
I can't apply in the other county until June 7 when the drop period let's up. It's hard when you don't have a job lined up. I'm kind of freaking out even though I know I'll be okay.
I'm sorry! That sounds super stressful! I hope you find something closer to you soon!
Eureka1984 that sounds stressful, but hopefully everything will work out just like it should.
I tried to stay up to finish the ACMs last night and was out around 10:30. I slept like a baby, I am assuming because of the workouts I got in over the weekend. I need to take a lipstick back to Sephora today and exchange it.
Golfer says he will be in town sometime this week for work, but it sucks not knowing for sure yet what day. I want to plan my workouts and a happy hour, but I also want to be flexible for him because I know his schedule is going to be crazy for a while.
It's pouring here. Today started out with a dead car battery. Woohoo happy Monday. And since I was running late I have a lack of caffeine and I'm blaming it for the headache I have now. ETA: I made overnight oats and had them for breakfast. I'm a fan so far because they were tasty and seem to keep me full!
Post by Wanderista on Apr 20, 2015 12:15:38 GMT -5
It was a pretty mellow weekend for me. BF had some back pain, so we spent most of the weekend at his place. He is going to the doctor tomorrow which is good. He is young but he sometimes gets random muscle aches.
I also did manage to catch up on some work as well but it was not strenuous at all. I'm so glad to be back to "normal" warm weather around here.
Not just today! We had plans set for this weekend, in May I booked us for a tasting menu at a local restaurant and we were supposed to go to Epcot the day before a work conference I have in mid-May. It is super fucking weird that he went from calling me to hear my voice to say good night a week, telling me how much he loves sleeping next to me- to refusing to speak to me. Everyone who met him thought he seemed genuine and kind and into me. This is what is bugging me. How can someone give all appearances of being a good person and turning out to suck so much?Â
I just wish I had confirmation that he is just an asshole and not that something happened to him. But I have no idea how to do that really. I just have to let it go. I checked and his match profile is still inactive.
I know, sometimes it just really doesn't make sense. I had that experience with J only it was after a loooooooong period of knowing each other. But it was the same "one day fine, next day WTF" kind of thing. Because we had more of a history I did end up emailing him one last time and he wrote back and I felt a lot more closure after that. But it sounds like he's not going to give you that. Who knows why or what his damage is. I know it's really, really, REALLY hard to just let that go, though.
What was his excuse? I remember the email, I think, I don't remember what happened. Lol.
He said that he never really allowed himself to get to the "next level" in our relationship, emotionally, because of me only being separated, not actually divorced. And that there was nothing for him in the midwest or the south and that when he realized that I was "holding him back" from what he needed to do (move back to WY), he realized it was time to just cut the cord and that prolonging any conversation of "us" would only be more painful. He quoted the "done with fish" scene from Adaptation (which I had to google), lol.
It didn't make it hurt any less, but did help me to finally realize that it was DONE done and not just another one of our little breaks and to let go of the (tiny) possibility of a future with him.
That sucks but at least you heard from him.
We've had 11 dates in a month. I think that along with the future plans we have made mean I deserve an answer. The weird thing is that a couple of weeks ago we was criticizing a friend because he broke up with a girl over the phone instead of in person. But there is no way to confirm that he is ghosting me without looking crazy. I can't call his office (he owns his own practice and it's just him and his secretary) and ask her if he is ghosting me or not, lol. And I don't know any of his friends and family to hear from them if something actually did happen.
He said that he never really allowed himself to get to the "next level" in our relationship, emotionally, because of me only being separated, not actually divorced. And that there was nothing for him in the midwest or the south and that when he realized that I was "holding him back" from what he needed to do (move back to WY), he realized it was time to just cut the cord and that prolonging any conversation of "us" would only be more painful. He quoted the "done with fish" scene from Adaptation (which I had to google), lol.
It didn't make it hurt any less, but did help me to finally realize that it was DONE done and not just another one of our little breaks and to let go of the (tiny) possibility of a future with him.
That sucks but at least you heard from him.
We've had 11 dates in a month. I think that along with the future plans we have made mean I deserve an answer. The weird thing is that a couple of weeks ago we was criticizing a friend because he broke up with a girl over the phone instead of in person. But there is no way to confirm that he is ghosting me without looking crazy. I can't call his office (he owns his own practice and it's just him and his secretary) and ask her if he is ghosting me or not, lol. And I don't know any of his friends and family to hear from them if something actually did happen.
This might not be the popular opinion, but at this point I feel like you don't have anything to lose. If I were in your situation I would text him something along the lines of hey, something definitely seems off and I am not sure what. I thought things were going along really well and am just trying to understand what has caused the change. Can we chat? Or something along those lines.
What was his excuse? I remember the email, I think, I don't remember what happened. Lol.
He said that he never really allowed himself to get to the "next level" in our relationship, emotionally, because of me only being separated, not actually divorced. And that there was nothing for him in the midwest or the south and that when he realized that I was "holding him back" from what he needed to do (move back to WY), he realized it was time to just cut the cord and that prolonging any conversation of "us" would only be more painful. He quoted the "done with fish" scene from Adaptation (which I had to google), lol.
It didn't make it hurt any less, but did help me to finally realize that it was DONE done and not just another one of our little breaks and to let go of the (tiny) possibility of a future with him.
So no excuse for being a spineless rat's ass by not just TALKING to you and instead ghosting? Douche. And quoting a film? REALLY? Pretentious douche. NEXT!
We've had 11 dates in a month. I think that along with the future plans we have made mean I deserve an answer. The weird thing is that a couple of weeks ago we was criticizing a friend because he broke up with a girl over the phone instead of in person. But there is no way to confirm that he is ghosting me without looking crazy. I can't call his office (he owns his own practice and it's just him and his secretary) and ask her if he is ghosting me or not, lol. And I don't know any of his friends and family to hear from them if something actually did happen.
This might not be the popular opinion, but at this point I feel like you don't have anything to lose. If I were in your situation I would text him something along the lines of hey, something definitely seems off and I am not sure what. I thought things were going along really well and am just trying to understand what has caused the change. Can we chat? Or something along those lines.
I would probably send something along the lines of "Hey, haven't heard from you, we still on for tonight?" Because really, you should know that. I'd text SOMETHING. If I got no response, I would probably go the crazy route all, "Hey, I am getting worried you are dead in a ditch somewhere. Please contact me before I turn you in as a missing person." Because, who cares if an asshole thinks you are crazy. LOL. I can think of no good excuse to not text back a simple "yes" or "no" to that text. No matter how busy you are.
@stpete that super sucks! Didn't you text him on Saturday for clarification after he said he was busy? If he never texted back after you asked for clarification on if he was ghosting you, I'd probably just leave it be for now. I'm sorry! I don't understand why it's so hard for people to just cut things off rather than fading.
Post by mommadukes on Apr 20, 2015 13:20:25 GMT -5
if u heard from him Saturday and he said he's busy, then something is up. He can't be soooooo busy to not even respond. I'm sure he is ok somewhere. I think someone saying they are busy is an excuse they dont wanna talk. why he doesnt want to is the big question! f him!
I would probably send something along the lines of "Hey, haven't heard from you, we still on for tonight?" Because really, you should know that. I'd text SOMETHING. If I got no response, I would probably go the crazy route all, "Hey, I am getting worried you are dead in a ditch somewhere. Please contact me before I turn you in as a missing person." Because, who cares if an asshole thinks you are crazy. LOL. I can think of no good excuse to not text back a simple "yes" or "no" to that text. No matter how busy you are.
I've done this already. No response. In the email I sent today I said, "Can you just confirm that you are breaking up with me and not hospitalized or hit by a car? There isn't any need to hash it out if you are over seeing me. I won't try to change your mind. There is a part of me just worried that something actually happened to you. I already deleted your contact so I won't call or text anything else if that is the case"
This is SO WEIRD! Ghosting is one thing, but you all have ACTUAL PLANS. Was he planning on standing you up? How old is he? WTF? Man, I am remembering now how I really am "the crazy girl" when it comes to dating sometimes. Wanna ghost, fine. Want to stand me up? I'll get my Raquel Welch wig and stalk your ass to see WTF is wrong with you.*
Golfer text me and said he thought Monday might be a pretty light day for him and he can spend some time in town. I told him I am off on Wed since I work this Saturday and so now we are going to Disney for the day. We are going to do a few hours at Animal Kingdom then go over to one of the water parks and just float on the lazy river until we are ready to head back to my place for the night. Should be a super fun and chill day!
Post by pantsoffdanceoff on Apr 20, 2015 14:17:26 GMT -5
I just bought a ticket to a Bethenny Frankel book signing. There is a private Q&A and autograph and photo opportunity. I feel ridiculous for being so excited.
I woke up yesterday morning with a sore throat and it's steadily getting worse. No other symptoms, but sore throats suck.
In exactly a month, I'll be flying down to Florida! I definitely need a vacation and to just get out of here for a few days. Give me a beach chair, a beer, and the ocean washing over my feet. Sounds perfect and I can't wait to get down there.
I just bought a ticket to a Bethenny Frankel book signing. There is a private Q&A and autograph and photo opportunity. I feel ridiculous for being so excited.
I just bought a ticket to a Bethenny Frankel book signing. There is a private Q&A and autograph and photo opportunity. I feel ridiculous for being so excited.