My Kids Are Not Allowed to Play Outside

[Daria Morgandorffer]

Aug 13, 2012 12:03:33 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

She gets talked to by the cops an awful lot.

Yea, I'm thinking she's a bit on the trashy side.

[Deleted]

the update leads me to believe that she's a martyr pain in the ass who makes no friends of her neighbors with her nonsense, cross-carrying, and lameass justifications for lazy parenting.

dogs, puppies, a hose, sticks, and 2 naked kids? sounds like a background scene from deliverance.

[ttt]

I get the feeling this woman thinks 'free range parenting' is 'let your kids do whatever the hell they want, wherever and whenever they want.'

[Daria Morgandorffer]

And I'm guessing she has Fibro? Oy.

[pixy0stix]

I also wonder how many dogs/puppies she has, and if that might be part of the problem. Cause if she can't pick up her house, imagine what her yard looks/smells like.

[Deleted]

Reading between the lines, this means:

As for trash going out and the toilets being scrubbed.. I either do it on my “good” days or my husband does it when he can, when he is home. The house isn’t perfect but we do the best we can!

that her house is a shithole.

[ttt]

Aug 13, 2012 12:10:14 GMT -5 @mjmksb04 said:

Reading between the lines, this means:

As for trash going out and the toilets being scrubbed.. I either do it on my “good” days or my husband does it when he can, when he is home. The house isn’t perfect but we do the best we can!

that her house is a shithole.

Also...it's a mobile home.

[basilosaurus]

The kids weren't 4 and 2! They were nearly 5 and nearly 3. As in, 4 and 2.

I had a friend living on base who got in trouble for sending her kids to the playground unsupervised. They were 4 and 6. Against base rules. Actually, I think the rule was that kids had to be supervised up to age, so she wasn't even close.

[aw]

My boys are almost 5 and 3.5 and our backyard is fenced. I will let them play back there alone for a little while as long as they stay where I can see them from the kitchen window (that I keep open so I can hear them). I guess I won't be doing that anymore.

[mominatrix]

Aug 13, 2012 12:56:56 GMT -5 aw said:

My boys are almost 5 and 3.5 and our backyard is fenced. I will let them play back there alone for a little while as long as they stay where I can see them from the kitchen window (that I keep open so I can hear them). I guess I won't be doing that anymore.

My kids are 5 and almost 3, and I do the same thing.

But that's very different than what's being described here.

[aw]

Aug 13, 2012 13:04:52 GMT -5 mominatrix said:

Aug 13, 2012 12:56:56 GMT -5 aw said:

My boys are almost 5 and 3.5 and our backyard is fenced. I will let them play back there alone for a little while as long as they stay where I can see them from the kitchen window (that I keep open so I can hear them). I guess I won't be doing that anymore.

My kids are 5 and almost 3, and I do the same thing.

But that's very different than what's being described here.

Okay, that makes me feel better.

[cookiemdough]

I think whether the yard is fully fenced is key. I also think the amount of time spent outside which she describes is from wake up until 9 pm unsupervised is very different from "a little while".

[ttt]

Aug 13, 2012 13:08:57 GMT -5 cookiemdough said:

I think whether the yard is fully fenced is key. I also think the amount of time spent outside which she describes is from wake up until 9 pm unsupervised is very different from "a little while".

Agreed.

She doesn't actually say that the yard is completely fenced in, which makes me think it isn't.

I also think that there are some other issues here besides the kids being outside.

[ttt]

Aug 13, 2012 13:12:41 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

She says "I check on them anytime I pass the door." That sounds mother effing NUTS to me for a 2 and 4 year old.

She also says she can barely move, which makes me think she very rarely passes the door.

[Deleted]

Also, the fact that they are outside all day and she is inside except maybe for an hour a day, makes me wonder how much interaction with adults these kids are getting and that is troubling.

[AJL]

Aug 13, 2012 13:21:16 GMT -5 @mjmksb04 said:

Also, the fact that they are outside all day and she is inside except maybe for an hour a day, makes me wonder how much interaction with adults these kids are getting and that is troubling.

What kind of adult interaction do they need? Conversations on Proust?

[hopecounts]

Reading stories, following instructions, etc. are important steps to preparing kids for school and literacy. :-)
They recommend 30 minutes of reading a day for kids as part of early learning.

[Jermys]

Dude, those.kids are.going to be nearly feral.

That said, Edith plays in our fenced backyard without me hovering, and she also goes potty alone if it's within eyesight. She is really independent and I like that.

[summer]

Aug 13, 2012 12:44:54 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

The kids weren't 4 and 2! They were nearly 5 and nearly 3. As in, 4 and 2.

I had a friend living on base who got in trouble for sending her kids to the playground unsupervised. They were 4 and 6. Against base rules. Actually, I think the rule was that kids had to be supervised up to age, so she wasn't even close.

We had that, too at the Embassy playground. There were two kids who were outside on the playground from 8am-9pm unsupervised for weeks. I think they were about 5 and 6? It was a fenced in playground and there was a bathroom and food in the fieldhouse, but I'll admit it looked negligent as hell for parents to not interact at all with their kids all day. We weren't even sure if there parents were home.

[msmerymac]

Aug 13, 2012 12:06:30 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

I also wonder how many dogs/puppies she has, and if that might be part of the problem. Cause if she can't pick up her house, imagine what her yard looks/smells like.

Not to mention she's the kind of person who lets the dogs stay outside all day... how much do you want to bet the dogs AREN'T allowed in the house at all? And she's letting a 2 and 4 year old play with the dogs unsupervised? Yeah, no.

[ttt]

There's nothing wrong with letting kids play in the backyard for a while, even a few hours, but all day long, every day???

[Deleted]

she sounds like my neighbor. She has 5 kids though and they use the trampoline as a "play pen" for their 18 month old DD--as in, they take her out there, put her in and zip it closed when no one else is around. She also lets them swim in a pool with at least 3' of water in it unsupervised. Then she wonders why her oldest boy (6) nearly burned the house down because he was playing with a lighter and news paper on the wood deck.

[mexicali]

2 and 4 are not an apprioriate age to be left alone outside in my book. The backyard I can maybe see if you could see them while washing the dishes or something. The frontyard where anyone can pass by, talk to them and take them - hell no. 4 is not old enough to understand fully the intentions of a complete stranger.

[AJL]

Aug 13, 2012 13:42:30 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Aug 13, 2012 13:24:08 GMT -5 AJL said:

What kind of adult interaction do they need? Conversations on Proust?

It's generally good for parents to occasionally parent.

Toddlers tend not to civilize themselves. Unfortunately.

I was being sarcastic. I get that. We don't know that she's not interacting with them and honestly it's some anonymous Internet mom, so I'm not really going to take a lot of what's posted at face value. Could be worse. Could be not as bad as everyone thinks. Meh.