A lot of the old money New England stuff is decidedly NOT flashy, too. Like I've been to summer homes of my friends and they are these beautiful old classic beach houses and the inside has no TV and they have rope beds and practically horsehair mattresses and a dishwasher from the 1980s. And their parents drive 10 year old volvo wagons but they have a townhouse in Back Bay (Boston). It's yankee frugality plus the wealth has diminished over a few generations but they still have the accumulated stuff.
I want to say 'jinx', because it feels like we just said the same thing in very different ways.
Yes, totally! I hadn't read your post, I must have been typing.
I think if you haven't been exposed to what you and I have been exposed to, you might not really see what we are talking about. It was something I didn't really understand until I went to a college with people like Mumsy and Kip.