Sorry @stpete. I think his lack of communication was a shitty move. Something you do bothers him/he's uncomfortable with/dislikes it and he chose to disappear? If it bothered him enough to want to break up/not see you again he should have been honest about it or had the decency to tell you he didn't want to see you anymore. IMO, saying he still cares for you is nice and all, but I don't think it is excusable behavior. And if it's something that's routine for you (and this goes for any "issue" in a relationship) and he's not ok with it, I believe it will come up again and again. I know I'm late to the party on this, but I think you're making a good choice not to meet up with him. I understand why you'd want to...because I would probably feel that I had more closure in person, but it seems like he's not worth it.
@stpete - Good for you for standing up for yourself. I think your situation with Tampa is what starting over is about. Not letting someone treat you less than you deserve to be treated. We all made/make mistakes, but it's learning from them and not repeating them. You should be so proud of yourself!