Anyone care to give me some kind words + good vibes

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Been feeling a little lackluster the last few weeks.

Just overwhelmed with doing everything alone. And then hearing people say "I could never do that alone," "you're so brave for doing this by yourself", "I really admire your strength"

Idk why it's bugging me so much. Just feels like a lot to handle I guess.

My friends here all have crazy schedules so I haven't really had a chance to unload. So I'm feeling all the bad feelings.

Have an appointment with the shrink next week.

Not sure what I'm looking for. Maybe just a "safe" place to word vomit.

[mrsfarmer]

It's good to admit that you are overwhelmed and out of sorts. I just had this the last couple of weeks and once I was able to admit it, I could help myself feel better.

Please know that I read these as compliments, that you are a strong and ambitious person that does not rely on others for happiness. Also, it is a good thing not to be co-dependent to the extent of not being able to function without another person.

[StJess80]

Chase a xanax with a hard cider. (<--- not solid advice!) Watch motivating films on netflix. Repeat netflix therapy as needed. If these don't work, build a tent on your bed, get a flashlight and read a book.

I realize this isn't motivating, but some days you just need a bed tent and a book.

[Deleted]

Stay strong! Just a bad patch.

[audette]

There are advantages to doing things on your own - no compromising with what someone else wants!


Everyone has some rough days/weeks. Things do eventually feel better, even if it doesn't seem like it will right now.

[aurora]

I'm sorry you're having a rough time and I hope you feel better soon.

[Deleted]

Hang in there! I often struggle with fear-driven perfectionism. Remember that it's okay to fail occasionally-- it means you're learning.

[Deleted]

Thank you for your kind words.

[mich1]

And then hearing people say "I could never do that alone," "you're so brave for doing this by yourself", "I really admire your strength"

Idk why it's bugging me so much. Just feels like a lot to handle I guess.

I think you need to take this as a compliment and leave it at that.  I got these comments the first time I decided to travel overseas by myself, and it was an eye opening experience that I could do more than I thought I could do.

[Deleted]

I guess my issue isn't that I want to be doing it alone or that I am brave or even worthy of the "compliment".

I'm here because I have you be, but because I want to be. I'm trying, just like everyone else, to make sense of my life and be the best version of myself.

I don't see what there is to admire or to compliment on being brave or strong. I'm none of those things.

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Apr 22, 2015 12:08:13 GMT -5 Stan said:

Whenever I'm feeling like this I go to the animal shelter and love on some puppies! Puppies always help.

I wish it were that simple.

Unfortunately for me, it's a feeling I will feel everyday of my life.

[Saint Monica]

Apr 22, 2015 13:41:07 GMT -5 @blissoff said:

Apr 22, 2015 12:08:13 GMT -5 Stan said:

Whenever I'm feeling like this I go to the animal shelter and love on some puppies! Puppies always help.

I wish it were that simple.

Unfortunately for me, it's a feeling I will feel everyday of my life.

Are you currently seeing anyone (psychologist/psychiatrist)?  I hope you get some help. 



I also think you need to stay away from all alcohol.

[alleinesein]

Apr 22, 2015 13:41:07 GMT -5 @blissoff said:

Apr 22, 2015 12:08:13 GMT -5 Stan said:

Whenever I'm feeling like this I go to the animal shelter and love on some puppies! Puppies always help.

I wish it were that simple.

Unfortunately for me, it's a feeling I will feel everyday of my life.

Well if you want to drink some beer and cuddle with a very spoiled french bulldog next month let me know.  I'm dog sitting in Carlsbad for a good chunk of May and if you need to chill you can come hang out with me.

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Apr 22, 2015 17:14:44 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

Apr 22, 2015 13:41:07 GMT -5 @blissoff said:

I wish it were that simple.

Unfortunately for me, it's a feeling I will feel everyday of my life.

Well if you want to drink some beer and cuddle with a very spoiled french bulldog next month let me know.  I'm dog sitting in Carlsbad for a good chunk of May and if you need to chill you can come hang out with me.

I might take you up on that.

A staycation of sorts. Lol.

Sometimes getting out of my own head is nice. I feel very cooped up and cabin fever is making me dull.

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Apr 22, 2015 17:09:53 GMT -5 Saint Monica said:

Apr 22, 2015 13:41:07 GMT -5 @blissoff said:

I wish it were that simple.

Unfortunately for me, it's a feeling I will feel everyday of my life.

Are you currently seeing anyone (psychologist/psychiatrist)?  I hope you get some help. 



I also think you need to stay away from all alcohol.

Umm... Thanks.

As mentioned in my OP I'm meeting with my therapist next week.

I have anxiety and it is something I will always struggle with. I have a plan of action when it gets to the point I am at now. Thanks for your concern.

I get the help I need when I need it. Pretty sure I'm much more aware of my situation than you think you are based on the small glimpse into my life I provide here.

Basically, you don't know my lyfe.

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Apr 22, 2015 18:29:19 GMT -5 @blissoff said:

Apr 22, 2015 17:09:53 GMT -5 Saint Monica said:

Are you currently seeing anyone (psychologist/psychiatrist)?  I hope you get some help. 



I also think you need to stay away from all alcohol.

Umm... Thanks.

As mentioned in my OP I'm meeting with my therapist next week.

I have anxiety and it is something I will always struggle with. I have a plan of action when it gets to the point I am at now. Thanks for your concern.

I get the help I need when I need it. Pretty sure I'm much more aware of my situation than you think you are based on the small glimpse into my life I provide here.

Basically, you don't know my lyfe.

Eta that's much bitchier than I intended it to be.

Thank you for your post.

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Apr 22, 2015 11:29:21 GMT -5 @blissoff said:

I guess my issue isn't that I want to be doing it alone or that I am brave or even worthy of the "compliment".

I'm here because I have you be, but because I want to be. I'm trying, just like everyone else, to make sense of my life and be the best version of myself.

I don't see what there is to admire or to compliment on being brave or strong. I'm none of those things.

I think you are. Going through what I assume you have gone through, being in active treatment and moving forward is not easy.  You keep pushing forward. Be proud of that.

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Apr 22, 2015 21:13:39 GMT -5 @spenjamins said:

Apr 22, 2015 11:29:21 GMT -5 @blissoff said:

I guess my issue isn't that I want to be doing it alone or that I am brave or even worthy of the "compliment".

I'm here because I have you be, but because I want to be. I'm trying, just like everyone else, to make sense of my life and be the best version of myself.

I don't see what there is to admire or to compliment on being brave or strong. I'm none of those things.

I think you are. Going through what I assume you have gone through, being in active treatment and moving forward is not easy.  You keep pushing forward. Be proud of that.

Thank you for that.

I often get caught up in where I want to be, that I forget what I've overcome and that despite the odds I keep going.