RSVP rant

[dawnyp]

Some people think it is nicer to say maybe than no. I generally count maybes as nos.

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Aug 13, 2012 12:43:15 GMT -5 @dawnyp said:

Some people think it is nicer to say maybe than no. I generally count maybes as nos.

+1

[madDawg228]

I assume the "maybe" people are people who have never hosted big events; weddings, bridal/baby showers, reunions, etc; and they don't know any better.

[catbus]

Yeah, I assume it's either people trying to be "nice" (even though it's not at all nice), and/or hedging in case something better comes up. Then if they decide at the last minute that they'd rather go hiking than come to your shower, they don't have to feel bad about having said they'd be there (even though they should feel bad, damn it! ).

Speaking of: I heard something odd on NPR last week. They did a segment about social media and events, and how word is spread on Facebook by people who respond to an event invitation, and other friends see the event on walls/news feeds. So apparently it's a "thing" to respond "yes" to a FB event invitation even if you know you will not go, simply to "support" the friend putting on the event. And that people think it's helpful, because then it looks like there are more people going to the event. Uh, yeah, the social media expert they were talking to said that it's definitely not helpful or polite to do that.

I think people who do this crap are stupid, rude, spineless, or some combination.

[jennlin]

my h is guilty of this. and super annoying. he always tells people "maybe", even though we have other plans...if i catch him doing it, i always tell the people hosting that we will *not* make it. he says he chooses to say maybe because he doesn't want to be mean and say no..but "maybe" doesn't mean "yes"....and maybe something catastrophic happens and we don't go to the first event. or we leave the first event early.....obviously, he has never dealt with RSVP's. grrrr. can't stand my h sometimes!

[emyinpink]

Aug 13, 2012 17:45:03 GMT -5 catbus said:

Speaking of: I heard something odd on NPR last week. They did a segment about social media and events, and how word is spread on Facebook by people who respond to an event invitation, and other friends see the event on walls/news feeds. So apparently it's a "thing" to respond "yes" to a FB event invitation even if you know you will not go, simply to "support" the friend putting on the event. And that people think it's helpful, because then it looks like there are more people going to the event. Uh, yeah, the social media expert they were talking to said that it's definitely not helpful or polite to do that.

I think people who do this crap are stupid, rude, spineless, or some combination.

I hate people who don't rsvp, or don't rsvp properly. I totally believe the bolded though. I'm on the board of the alumni group in our area for my university, and they're always asking us (especially the girls) to rsvp yes even if we're not planning on going so it looks like we'll have a good turnout, which in turn encourages more people to come.

[InBetweenDays]

This wasn't a "big" event but we had this happen with DD's last birthday. A number of people responded maybe because they were planning on being out of town. Well the weather wasn't looking good so those that were planning on camping decided to stick around and we had an additional 8 people come to her party that we weren't expecting until last minute. Very frustrating.

[sarack]

i was thinking the other day i wanted to host a shower or something, but now, this annoyed me so i don't ever want to do this. i hate rsvps. i now just put yes or no. i feel bad because i've put yes and forgot. woops.