The start of perfectionism? Advice?

[ringstrue]

That could have been an overtiredness response, especially since it went on for 5 minutes.

Dd has done similarly in the past. I think in that situation I would just say "uh oh!" If anything, and let her decide what to make of it.

[jr009j]

DD1 does it too. She also sobs like her heart is broken every time we tell her no. I think it's a fairly normal reaction and to just KOKO.

[matildasun]

For something like spilled peanut butter I usually say something like, "I am not angry, I just need you to help me clean it up, so it doest make a mess." Then after we clean up I reiterate that it isn't a big deal. Sometimes it helps.

[Brie]

I pretty much say this in every post of yours, so I'm sorry, but we're dealing with something similar here.

Daycare gives him a sheet every day and ranks his mood as sunny, cloudy, or stormy.  If he does not get a sunny day and we tell him so, he flips out and insists "I GET A SUNNY DAY!" and sobs and says he's sorry. 

He's also much more volatile in the evenings because he's tired, even if he's napped well that day.

[mmmomof2]

My 3yo is like this. She's so competitive about everything - she'll race you up the stairs and then shouts "I WIN, YOU LOSE!". Sometimes I beat her and she'll just sob and sob and sob.

This morning she brushed her hair for about 10 minutes and then said "I'll be the prettiest one at school today!" What do you even say to that?! Where did she learn it?

[undecidedowl]

With DS1, I mostly focus on what he can do to fix the situation. So now, when he spills his drink instead of crying, he starts screaming "There's a mess! I need a rag! I NEED A RAGGGG!!!"

He still freaks out a bit, but it's at least productive freaking out.

[Marmee]

Well my 8yr old is a complete perfectionist. It started early. It is not fun to parent. Hopefully it's just a phase for your DD.