Sort of MM-RSVP's **whiny post**

[Deleted]

Call, text, facebook, email. Yes, if you want to know if they're coming, you're going to have to hound them. I'd mass text everyone I could.

Did you send paper invites?

[Pom]

Start calling, texting and e-mailing. Sorry.

[maddiepaddy]

Yup, time to follow up with everyone.

Ignoring RSVP requests seems to be getting more and more common. It's so rude. It takes like 1 minute to RSVP to an event!

[tine]

Yes, I would call/text/email all of them.

[Deleted]

Just verifying that my lazy electronic lifestyle is how I shall continue to live. I had 80% response rates on DS's facebook birthday party event.

[spunkarella]

I'm sorry. Yep, I would start calling. That really sucks.

I'm normally really good about RSVPing, but I was so tempted not to send one this week, out of spite. If not for MM, I probably wouldn't have.

Can I whine too? PDQ this part

DH's cousin is getting married tomorrow. We saw each other about 5 weeks ago and she was really evasive about wedding details so I figured we weren't invited. Cool.

Then Tuesday of this week, she created a Facebook event that says PLEASE RSVP ASAP SO WE KNOW ABOUT FOOD. Uuummm....I swear I don't mind that it was a Facebook invite, but 4 days before, after making a point not to invite me when you saw me? Nope, not going. Also not going to be in a rush to let you know.

I sent the RSVP today. 86 of the 120 originally invited haven't responded.

[rubytue]

I agree. Start hounding people.

That said, I admit to being a bad RSVPer. *blush* I feel bad telling people I can't come. Electronic communications have made that easier. But I have one "friend" who plans big, fancy parties then only wants RSVP by phone, then wants all the details as to why you can't make it. In reality, the reason is I find her annoying (in general) and she lives 90 minutes away. I don't want to spend 3 hours in the car to visit with someone I don't really enjoy, but she forces me to make something up. Ugh!

[sporky]

Wait the RSVP date is this coming Monday? Then you have a whole weekend to still hear from people. I mean I get it, a lot of people never bother to RSVP for events and it drives me crazy, BUT plenty of people wait until the day of or the day right before a response is due to give their response.

[Deleted]

This is why you don't set the RSVP date as the same date you need to tell the caterer. This is like TK 101 - and yet I hated those on TK who insisted on an RSVP a month out. Happy medium, yo.
Anyway, this happened to us with DD's baptism. I eventually got all the RSVPs, a week after the response date and 2 days after I was supposed to tell the caterer. Luckily, they were amazing, even if my family/friends suck(s).

[Deleted]

Yes people are jerks. I don't know why RSVPs are hard.

Do call or text, but assume part of the people who say they are coming on follow up will no-show.

If people don't respond, it's usually a no.

[moolarkey]

Suggestion - next time don't set your RSVP date the same date the final count is due to the caterer. Allow at least 5 days, if not 7 between the 2. That gives you time to contact the stragglers.

[melmel48]

My friends bridal shower is Sunday and we were chasing people for RSVP's. I didn't notice that my friend who created the invitations didn't put an RSVP date on there, but I doubt it would have made much difference. There were a few people who didn't receive their invite in the mail who were grateful I reached out and asked if they were coming.

We were unable to reach a few people, so I hope they don't show up!  RSVP's take such little time, I don't understand why it is so hard to do!

[mushmouse]

Apr 24, 2015 14:35:15 GMT -5 poundcake said:

Apr 24, 2015 12:24:38 GMT -5 sporky said:

Wait the RSVP date is this coming Monday? Then you have a whole weekend to still hear from people. I mean I get it, a lot of people never bother to RSVP for events and it drives me crazy, BUT plenty of people wait until the day of or the day right before a response is due to give their response.

Yes. I'm just an anxious person.
I went through this with my daughters' b-day last month. I invited 15 people for cake, punch, etc. I got one response. I ordered a smaller cake with the idea that it would still allow for extra. Some of the no responses still showed up! I mean they called and said "oh we won't be there." And then came and said "plans changed!"

And the person in charged emailed me, I guess she is calling me Tuesday for head count. So that's good.

Plans changed? That is about the rudest thing I've ever heard.

[ellipses84]

I'll join your whine since I'm waiting for RSVPs for DS' bday party. I didn't even put an RSVP day on the invitation because it's not critical for us to know the number until the day of the party and I didn't wan to discourage anyone from attending, plus people have been terrible at RSVPing in the past. We decided to invite his class but it's hit or miss if anyone will show or RSVP (the last party we attended only had one other classmate show up and it was at a fun, public venue like ours will be). It's really hard to do party bags, especially ordering online. I'll probably order extra and return what I don't open.

[spankswife]

This is why I love evite. It sends out a reminder too.

I only wish you could put in a "rsvp by" date so it sends the minor sooner, not just 2 days before.

I feel like people are more likely to click yes or no, then call, email, text. It's a little unfortunate, but way more convenient as a guest.