Come hate on my sister with me.

[meltoine]

She sent out the STDs for her wedding. People have been receiving them since Saturday. They have her wedding website on them. Where she lists me as a mother to three boys and "Baby Lastname" as one of the ring bearers. I haven't announced my pregnancy on FB yet, so none of our cousins knew, and a couple of aunts and uncles on my dad's side. I am waiting for the CD of photos from our AS to use in an FB/email announcement to everyone who didn't know. 

So now she announced my pregnancy and the sex of my baby. She also posted about DS2's birth on FB before we announced it. I may stop telling her things all together. 

[osulori]

Ugh dude, I'm sorry

[countthestars]

Did you specifically tell her not to tell people / post it online? I would call her and tell her to take it down, and make it clear that it was not cool.

[SJ]

That is really unacceptable.

[Ashley&Scott]

I would be pissed. Call her & tell her to edit her website.

[meltoine]

Apr 28, 2015 15:52:18 GMT -5 countthestars said:

Did you specifically tell her not to tell people / post it online? I would call her and tell her to take it down, and make it clear that it was not cool.

Not since early on. I told her before I told my mom, so I told her to keep it quiet at that point. But that was like, January. 

I did ask her to take it down, but being that I'm across the country from pretty much everyone she invited, I'm sure I was the last to get my STD. My mom is local to her and got hers Saturday. So everyone has probably already seen it. 

[Deleted]

Holy shit. That's seriously crappy of her.

Also, not to take away from your justified anger, but I have to share that I just realized I have been married/removed from wedding planning long enough that my brain has finally reverted back to reading "Sexually Transmitted Disease" automatically instead of "Save The Date." Milestone!

[meltoine]

Apr 28, 2015 15:54:58 GMT -5 page said:

Holy shit. That's seriously crappy of her.

Also, not to take away from your justified anger, but I have to share that I just realized I have been married/removed from wedding planning long enough that my brain has finally reverted back to reading "Sexually Transmitted Disease" automatically instead of "Save The Date." Milestone!

Me too! I almost typed it out, but then I got lazy. 

[justjen]

Yeah, not cool.

[Deleted]

Ugh! That is awful!

[sjh722]

She sucks. I'm sorry.

[jene]

That sucks, so not cool of her

[ECB]

Well, keep in mind that not everyone necessarily went racing to her website.  And/or they may also not have viewed it in great detail.  Doesn't absolve her from putting it out there w/o checking with you first, but there is a good chance people haven't seen it or paid attention to it. 

[MamaMaui24]

Apr 28, 2015 15:54:19 GMT -5 meltoine said:

Apr 28, 2015 15:52:18 GMT -5 countthestars said:

Did you specifically tell her not to tell people / post it online? I would call her and tell her to take it down, and make it clear that it was not cool.

Not since early on. I told her before I told my mom, so I told her to keep it quiet at that point. But that was like, January. 

I did ask her to take it down, but being that I'm across the country from pretty much everyone she invited, I'm sure I was the last to get my STD. My mom is local to her and got hers Saturday. So everyone has probably already seen it. 

I guarantee not everyone rushed to their computer to look at their website. It's still worth it to take it off.

I'm sorry. But your U/S pic announcement is going to be exciting regardless!

[meltoine]

I didn't go straight to the website either. I only know because I got a text from my aunt asking if I was, indeed, having another boy.

[biogirl21]

I'm sorry, that's sucks

[spankswife]

Well maybe a lot of people didn't go on the website yet. I know older relatives don't.

Ugh. Still annoying.

[shellbear09]

Sorry she sucks. It is possible a lot of people don't know yet though. I never go on those wedding websites right away.

[cjeanette]

What did she say when you called her out on it?

I wouldn't share anything with her in the future unless you are ready for the masses to know. She gets the FB announcement when the baby is born. Not a call/text.

[waterchurch]

Duuude. Not cool.

[arebee]

That's crappy. Sorry .

[chickens987]

That sucks.

[anna7602]

She sucks in her cluelessness. But I have to assume she's excited for you? (Trying to see the silver lining.)

[carolinagirl831]

Ugh that sucks! Maybe people won't look at the website right away or not pay that close attention?

[brooklyn]

Ugh, I'd be pissed. Sorry.

[barefootcontessa]

I can see this two ways: either she is trying to steal your thunder or else she is very excited for you. I am pretty sure my sister announced that she was an aunt again and included a picture on FB of my daughter before I posted anything. It did not really bother me because I knew she was excited and it was not important for me to tell everyone personally. If it is important that you personally share everything then I would stop telling her or else specifically tell her not to say anything.

[Deleted]

I'd be irritated. What did she say when you called her out?

[meltoine]

She was good about it when I called her out. "Oh I thought everyone knew! I'll take it down as soon as I get home from work!"

With DS2's birth she was just really excited. She was at the airport on her way out here. When she called my mom to tell her she was at the gate and her flight was on time it was about 20 mins after he was born. My mom told her at that point (my mom was here with us) and I think airport boredom + excitement got the best of her. I never mentioned that because by the time I saw it deleting would have been pointless and I knew she didn't do it on purpose, so calling her out for that would have just made her feel bad.

But repeat cluelessness deserved a call out.

[mannah]

Wow I would be pissed. Even if it was just being clueless verses on purpose, still sucks.

[VillainV]

She does sound excited, but clueless. Hopefully now that you've had a chat she will think first before she does something like that again.

Also.....When is her wedding? I'm wondering how your kid is going to be a ring bearer is she's sending out save-the-dates and the baby isn't even born yet??? How old will he be at the wedding? Is she sending out save-the-dates really early??