She does sound excited, but clueless. Hopefully now that you've had a chat she will think first before she does something like that again.
Also.....When is her wedding? I'm wondering how your kid is going to be a ring bearer is she's sending out save-the-dates and the baby isn't even born yet??? How old will he be at the wedding? Is she sending out save-the-dates really early??
February. Kid will be 5 months old. She has 5 ring bearers: all of my kids plus her two other godsons.
Another symptom of being the last of your friends to get married: they all have kids and she feels obligated to include them all.
Bass on your uodate I think she's clueless rather than thunder-stealing but ugh. I would Be SO annoyed at her. I'm glad she took it down after you asked her and would probably be cautious about sharing secrets with her in the future.
Post by MadamePresident on Apr 29, 2015 8:10:27 GMT -5
I'm sorry, it wasn't fair of her to share your news. I'm sure people will still be excited when you share your fb announcement.
But since you are 21 weeks I'd assume anyone you were really close to would already know. So announcing it to random cousins would hit get me too upset.
Honestly, I think you are overreacting a bit. Should she have checked with you? Probably. But you are also 21 weeks along, know the sex of the baby, and unless she stalks you on FB, she may not realize that this information is not "out there" yet, especially with family and word of mouth. I don't think she's a horrible person for assuming it's ok to discuss it at this point.
I live across the country from all of my family. My dad is deceased and my parents were divorced before that, so there is no "word of mouth" to that side of my family unless I talk to them myself, which I usually do when we're getting ready to visit so we can plan to see them. Otherwise we keep up on FB.
The only reason I waited this long is because I didn't want to steal her thunder, so I waited for her to announce her engagement first, which she did when I was 17 weeks. Then I figured I may as well just wait the three weeks and announce the sex at the same time. Now I'm waiting for the CD of photos from our ultrasound. So the waiting was in deference to her to begin with, which makes it that much more side-eye-worthy.