mp ... gurrrrl. He still hasn't said it. Other professions of deep caring, concern, etc., but not those three little words. His life got flipped turned upside down, so I'm trying to help him get back on his feet these last two weeks. I'll revisit the ILY issue when he's not stressed to the point of tears. But I really do wish he'd just say it already.
mp ... gurrrrl. He still hasn't said it. Other professions of deep caring, concern, etc., but not those three little words. His life got flipped turned upside down, so I'm trying to help him get back on his feet these last two weeks. I'll revisit the ILY issue when he's not stressed to the point of tears. But I really do wish he'd just say it already.
Ahh, did I miss what happened??? Did you ever share it? Sorry that he's so stressed.
I didn't share. He's got a lot of job/financial/family problems that exploded, which he never expected. So it's been a hard two weeks for him. He'll be okay, though. Just regrouping and changing directions is proving a little difficult when he was blindsided. But he will be okay - he's doing a lot of great things this week to improve his situation and attitude, so I'm proud of him for not wallowing.
Post by glitzyglow on Apr 30, 2015 15:41:21 GMT -5
mp, I honestly don't know if she told him I was interested or if she just inquired as to whether he was seeing someone. I could ask, but I would feel silly inquiring, I guess.
I like this game. mp They are kinda meh, I have backed off a bit. A work thing came up this week, it seems absolutely legit, but it means I haven't seen him at all this week as planned. I am starting to really evaluate if he has the time I need. He has continued to text me first and say he misses me, ect. I am just really focusing on my fitness and friends this week and weekend. I will see how things play out next week with his schedule, but plan to have a talk about if he thinks its the right time with everything going on because I don't think I am needy, but I need more than 1 day a week. I won't be shocked if it ends soon.
For the dating question I was on Tinder, OKC, and POF. I would usually spend a week clicking around profiles or matching with people on each app and see what came out of it then move on to the next and just keep rotating. When I was going on 2ish dates a week I would have to be talking to 4-7 people at any given time. It was work lol.
People here who date frequently, how are you doing that? I don't meet enough people to date consistently.
P.S. And feel free to ask me whatever, just tag me!
I date maybe twice a month. Is that frequently? Idk a lot of people date like 5 different guys a week! I don't have the energy, money or time (or interest) for that!
But for me, the only quality guys that I've met online are from match.com I've also dated friends of friends.
@stpete things are really awesome! We've been seeing each other now for over a month. He's coming to my birthday dinner in two weeks so we have long term plans and he's so thoughtful and I just really like him a lot! We've both agreed not to see other people but don't have any official labels.
jojoandleoFormerlyRR ok so the Dentist scoop. There were some other things that caused me to "next" him last year that I don't want to get into on the interwebz. Suffice it to say that neither of us were really feeling the chemistry and one of the deal breakers for me ceased to be a deal breaker a few months after we went out. Whether I was looking for excuses or just mellowed, who knows, probably a little of both.
He's actually moving in with me tomorrow - ahhh! Although it's kind of fast, we've been good friends for a year and it's the healthiest relationship I've ever had. I'm curious to find out how it will work now that it's not long distance but since he's moving in with me it's low risk which is important because I want to protect myself. He's so so so kind and compassionate, to a fault a times, and we balance each other out really well. He's an extrovert who loves to dance and sing and have an all around good time. He understands my need to be alone and do my thing in silence too.
We have dance parties in the car and are major goofballs but we also have very serious talks about ourselves and finances and relationships and things that have shaped who we are. We fight well and fairly and he's the only person who ever told me I'm going off the hinges and caused me to step back and realize I was and calm down. He's also adorable and we have amazing chemistry. Wow, that's a lot and now I"m a bit embarrassed.
mcc I love that he can tell you you're being crazy in love - it's amazing how with the right person they can call us on things without making us feel super defensive.
But now I am nosey about the deal breaker. haha.
Right? Except I do get defensive about certain things just nothing important
glitzyglow I liked the carven a lot and think I will be picking it up when I am off my spending freeze. Did you ever get the vitamin e stick? I guess what scares me is that they are psycho or something crazy. I was all about it, but my best friend is all they will kidnap you and never let you go shit and now I am a little hesitant. I love fwb situations, but I also find the idea of meeting a guy for the sole purpose of hot sex to be a huge turn on (that might be flameful lol).
Post by jellymankelly on Apr 30, 2015 21:15:45 GMT -5
I want to ask if any old regulars are lurking around, or are here under other names and I never put it together. I'm having trouble with screen names, though! Examples: - the one who was deaf and had a little boy. - the one who went by Lizzie here for a little while (had a daughter, original screen name started with a c, maybe?) - one whose real name I remember, but not her screen name. Her H was a dick, but she was having trouble leaving for whatever reason - maybe health reasons? I want to say that maybe she had moved to the US from somewhere else? (Real life first name started with a C, if anyone has a vague recollection of who I'm talking about - I realize that story could describe many people who have posted here). (EDIT: it was charitylynne79) - Naeljun - that one who was a super regular poster, was big into crossfit, and was maybe in school. Can't remember her screen name...but I think she had a mini husky? - the poster whose XH was gay and living with his new BF and the BF's mom.
I just wonder sometimes whatever happened to all of the people who have come through SO. It's possible some of them are still here, since it took me months to put together who Emerald is.
I'm just not around as much as I used to be, so I miss a lot! I was thinking, "Why does everyone seem to know this person?," but then you said something one day that made the light bulb go off!
I'm just not around as much as I used to be, so I miss a lot! I was thinking, "Why does everyone seem to know this person?," but then you said something one day that made the light bulb go off!
jojoandleo - what's up with the crazy girl who cried and flirts with your H in front of you?
She actually started dating someone and was cool with me! Then they broke up and she went back to leaving if I showed up (MH never shows up to a party she is at without me, so, she leaves w&e WE show up). The sad thing is, when she had a BF, we REALLY got along! And Iiked her! She can be super fun. And I didn't change in how I treated her. So... Whatever.
This is a question to everyone: did missbetty ever come back? With her non- benefits
I don't think so. Man, I remember mocking "non-benefits" but for the life of me, I cannot remember what that was all about... I can never hold a GBCN grudge unless the person remains an asshole the entire time they post.
doglove-what's going on in your world? I've enjoyed seeing you around here more. I missed your cute little profile pic face.
Thanks - I've missed you guys so I figured I'd try to reintegrate myself again, especially considering I'm working through the starting over process myself.
I'm just trying to focus on rebuilding myself and spending a lot of time with friends. I'm also fostering a three legged golden mix. I've had her for about a month now and she's ready for adoption. I still have Buddy <3 he's helped me a lot through this process.
I've been contemplating a big move back up north, I've applied to jobs up there, but I also really like NC so I'm kind of torn.
doglove-what's going on in your world? I've enjoyed seeing you around here more. I missed your cute little profile pic face.
Thanks - I've missed you guys so I figured I'd try to reintegrate myself again, especially considering I'm working through the starting over process myself.
I'm just trying to focus on rebuilding myself and spending a lot of time with friends. I'm also fostering a three legged golden mix. I've had her for about a month now and she's ready for adoption. I still have Buddy <3 he's helped me a lot through this process.
I've been contemplating a big move back up north, I've applied to jobs up there, but I also really like NC so I'm kind of torn.
I am glad you are doing well! I want pics of the three-legged golden!
I am glad you have buddy. My pups really are my therapy sometimes, I swear.