I'm sorry vicky:( I get that it's her choice, but it's not like they want to do major surgery, these are 2 fairly common procedures. Do you think she is making a clear decision, or is her judgment clouded?
She's got six stents already. She has CHF. She had a massive heart attack in '08, she was in the ICU for 2 weeks and on a cardiac floor for 2 more weeks after that. Then there was the hospital stay last year for her kidneys. I think she's just over it.
I don't know about her judgement. Frankly, I think it sucks, but what can I do?
She won't go for therapy. She will leave the house only when she absolutely wants to. Nothing on a whim, ever.
She isn't seeing that great lately, only shadows most of the time, and they cancelled her corneal transplant surgery for now. I don't think she's in a good place.