Moms and daycare woes

[amberlyrose]

Do you guys follow Humans of NY? Today is a spot light on a mom working at the NYSE and she mentioned how frustrating it is to not make all the events at school. Just thought you'd like to see her little interview/snippet.

"They make it tough for working mothers. I don’t know why they have to schedule all of this stuff during the day. My first grader is playing a hammerhead shark in his class play—but it’s at 11 in the morning. They scheduled the Mother’s Day Tea on a Friday. But they put the Father’s Day Tea on a weekend, of course. The other day my first grader told me how lucky his friend was that his mom didn’t work and could come to everything. That one hurt a little.”



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[thebuddhagouda]

If both events were during the week, I might have less rage but the fact that they STILL assume fathers need a weekend event and mothers can make one in the middle of the week is HULKSMASHRAGE.

[ninjabridemom]

"But they put the Father’s Day Tea on a weekend, of course." RAGE

I hate that shit. It belittles fathers AND mothers. It's not family friendly to put one parent before another, AND it's heteronormative. Blerg.

[pantsparty]

[BaliHai]

May 8, 2015 9:51:21 GMT -5 amberlyrose said:

They scheduled the Mother’s Day Tea on a Friday. But they put the Father’s Day Tea on a weekend, of course.

[wampuscat]

"Muffins with Mommy" is today at 3PM... and they just gave us notice this morning.

[Bernadine]

OMG, I'm RAGING about the Mother's Day/Father's Day things.

[donthasslethehoff]

I saw this this morning. Makes me rage.

[ninjabridemom]

May 8, 2015 10:11:06 GMT -5 wampuscat said:

"Muffins with Mommy" is today at 3PM... and they just gave us notice this morning.

Our school is getting better about this but in the past they have SUCKED with notice.

[BeagleMama]

I saw that and thought of all the recent convos around here... 

[verypunny]

My sons Mother's Day brunch was today from 10-11. It was mandatory that you attend, send someone in your place or keep your child home. For Father's Day they just send home a gift.

[wampuscat]

May 8, 2015 10:28:17 GMT -5 verypunny said:

My sons Mother's Day brunch was today from 10-11. It was mandatory that you attend, send someone in your place or keep your child home. For Father's Day they just send home a gift.

Mandatory?  FTN.

[FastHands]

May 8, 2015 10:28:17 GMT -5 verypunny said:

My sons Mother's Day brunch was today from 10-11. It was mandatory that you attend, send someone in your place or keep your child home. For Father's Day they just send home a gift.

What the FUCK?!

[knx9211]

May 8, 2015 10:28:17 GMT -5 verypunny said:

My sons Mother's Day brunch was today from 10-11. It was mandatory that you attend, send someone in your place or keep your child home. For Father's Day they just send home a gift.

This was my actual reaction

[verypunny]

I mean I get it, it was a big deal and they didn't want kids feeling left out but then they should do it on a weekend! It was so adorable and I feel bad for those that couldn't attend. it's a shame this happens in 2015. They mailed out a formal invitation with RSVP and the options were:
I will be attending

I will be unable to attend but will send a mom figure in my place

I will be unable to attend and have nobody to take my place, I understand that my child should not attend school that day

There was about a month notice.

[Eagles]

This just came up in my feed and I thought of cville immediately.

[Eagles]

May 8, 2015 10:35:13 GMT -5 verypunny said:

I mean I get it, it was a big deal and they didn't want kids feeling left out but then they should do it on a weekend! It was so adorable and I feel bad for those that couldn't attend. it's a shame this happens in 2015. They mailed out a formal invitation with RSVP and the options were:
I will be attending

I will be unable to attend but will send a mom figure in my place

I will be unable to attend and have nobody to take my place, I understand that my child should not attend school that day

There was about a month notice.

Are you shitting me?

[verypunny]

Oh, and no siblings allowed.

[thebuddhagouda]

They'd better fucking not make you pay for that day if you can't find a substitute mom to go in your place. That is just BS.

[themysteriouswife]

This is it a daycare issue. This a mother issue. My child is in public school and we have had this battle since preschool. I was a SAHM and still felt the time for mother events was BS. Like others have said, fathers are assumed to be working or hard to come to events. Society has painted a picture that women should bend backwards to tend to the children and their schools while giving dads a pass. I wish schools would realize a family isn't always a SAHM and dad. Famil come in different types.

[shostakovich]

May 8, 2015 10:35:13 GMT -5 verypunny said:

I mean I get it, it was a big deal and they didn't want kids feeling left out but then they should do it on a weekend! It was so adorable and I feel bad for those that couldn't attend. it's a shame this happens in 2015. They mailed out a formal invitation with RSVP and the options were:
I will be attending

I will be unable to attend but will send a mom figure in my place

I will be unable to attend and have nobody to take my place, I understand that my child should not attend school that day

There was about a month notice.

What in the everloving fuck? For real? Their solution for not wanting kids to feel left out is to bar them from attending school because their mother/guardian can't go to a brunch?!?1 

[verypunny]

May 8, 2015 10:39:38 GMT -5 thebuddhagouda said:

They'd better fucking not make you pay for that day if you can't find a substitute mom to go in your place. That is just BS.

It's UPK through the district (free). But still taking off work/ finding a sitter for siblings and all the guilt if you can't is overwhelming. I'm a SAHM and I wouldn't have been able to go if my dad couldn't come and watch DD.

[themysteriouswife]

So the options are miss work to go or miss work to keep my kid home. I have no one to send in my place. We have two family members near us and neither are in great health.

[thebuddhagouda]

May 8, 2015 10:46:24 GMT -5 charley said:

May 8, 2015 9:52:46 GMT -5 thebuddhagouda said:

If both events were during the week, I might have less rage but the fact that they STILL assume fathers need a weekend event and mothers can make one in the middle of the week is HULKSMASHRAGE.

Can I ask you something random and off topic?
Do you still KIT with fallin or Fenton? 

Yes to both 

[verypunny]

May 8, 2015 10:47:28 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

So the options are miss work to go or miss work to keep my kid home. I have no one to send in my place. We have two family members near us and neither are in great health.

I am not defending just giving all info. It's only a 2.5 hour program so sitters will pick up the kids and drop them off. So I guess they figure they would stay with them?

[cville]

May 8, 2015 10:35:13 GMT -5 verypunny said:

They mailed out a formal invitation with RSVP and the options were:

I will be unable to attend and have nobody to take my place, I understand that my child should not attend school that day

HULK RAGE AT EVERYTHING, BUT ESPECIALLY THIS BECAUSE I "UNDERSTAND" JACKSHIT ABOUT THIS DRACONIAN POLICY OF INSANE BULLSHIT AND I AM GOING TO HUNT THEM DOWN.

[themysteriouswife]

May 8, 2015 10:52:13 GMT -5 verypunny said:

May 8, 2015 10:47:28 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

So the options are miss work to go or miss work to keep my kid home. I have no one to send in my place. We have two family members near us and neither are in great health.

I am not defending just giving all info. It's only a 2.5 hour program so sitters will pick up the kids and drop them off. So I guess they figure they would stay with them?

This is still crazy.

[madringal]

May 8, 2015 10:43:24 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

This is it a daycare issue. This a mother issue. My child is in public school and we have had this battle since preschool. I was a SAHM and still felt the time for mother events was BS. Like others have said, fathers are assumed to be working or hard to come to events. Society has painted a picture that women should bend backwards to tend to the children and their schools while giving dads a pass. I wish schools would realize a family isn't always a SAHM and dad. Famil come in different types.

I have a 1st grader in public school, and I deal with this way more often then I ever had to in daycare.  Annual awards ceremony 11 am, end of year program 11 am, family charity walkaton 9 am.  It is never ending!

I volunteered to do Junior Achievement for my daughters class, knowing i'd have to schedule to be out of the office for an hour or so for day or two.  Nope, 6 DAYS FOR AN HOUR, are you kidding me??

[sharknado]

I took today off for field day. BACK IN NOVEMBER. Weather is shit, they have rescheduled twice now. I can't keep changing my days off people!

[papie]

May 8, 2015 9:52:46 GMT -5 thebuddhagouda said:

If both events were during the week, I might have less rage but the fact that they STILL assume fathers need a weekend event and mothers can make one in the middle of the week is HULKSMASHRAGE.

I want to smash everything and it isn't even my daycare.  WTMFF??