@ totally premature, I know - names

[Deleted]

Peteybird goes by his middle name, always has.

[wawa]

LOL at Latin names. Tiberius!! Aria was actually my latin name in 8th grade Latin class. I think it's beautiful. I'm not 100% on the three syllabel names ending in "a" with it though. It just makes for a very long name, but it does sound super Italian, so maybe that's what you're going for? In which case, ignore me.

I don't see anything wrong with calling a kid by his middle name. I know lots of people who go by their middle names. Most of them are grandparent aged, but I know two my age who do it too. I'm a big nickname kind of person, so the chances of my kid getting called by their true legal name is slim to none anyway. (says the girl called Wawa.)

Re: Latin names - MH has suggested several really ridiculous Gaelic names that make me wonder if he's had a recent traumatic brain injury. Maybe it's just a husband problem. We are both a good chunk irish, I'm down with the irish names in general, but Concobhar is not a fucking option for a kid in the USA.

[eclaires]

I was born Mary Elizabeth and my parents always intended to call me Beth/Elizabeth, but they thought Mary flowed better as my first name and I was named after both grandmothers.

I was eventually adopted and changed my first name to Elizabeth and chose a new middle name, but it was fine for the first 10 years of my life and would have continued to be fine had I not been adopted.

[AJL]

My names were chosen so they could be pronounced easily and sound lovely in both Spanish and English. I chose my children's names so that they Spanish and Hebrew equivalents sounded lovely.

Being a Texan, I think you'll find that Alessio is going to come out Al-LES-io instead of A-lessio. I would call him Paolo.

[ringstrue]

The thing about those longer Italian names is that they are going to get nick named down. So, Alessio will be called Al, Marcus will be Mark, etc. As much as you like the full name, you gotta at least make your peace with the nickname forms that will naturally come up by their friends, teachers, etc.

[ringstrue]

Dh suggested the boy's name Cannon with a straight face.

[wawa]

Aug 14, 2012 12:36:11 GMT -5 ringstrue said:

The thing about those longer Italian names is that they are going to get nick named down. So, Alessio will be called Al, Marcus will be Mark, etc. As much as you like the full name, you gotta at least make your peace with the nickname forms that will naturally come up by their friends, teachers, etc.

good point. don't go too far down that rabbit hole though and start coming up with shitty things that kids in school will call him and vetoing names based on that.

I have embarassing initials and apparently my grandmother was concerned that people would call me that. Never happened. Instead some asswipe in 1st grade came up with this awful nonsense nickname that made me so angry I cried every time he called me that. Luckily it did not stick... But my point is that you can't plan around asshole kids, so don't try. Just plan for normal people's reactions. (like...do not name your child Mike Hunt.)

[poppet]

I went by my middle name until I was 22 (my grandmother named me and my mom hated my first name). I switched and started going by my first name after I broke up with my HS/college sweetheart because I wanted a "fresh" identity.

No big issue. Our wedding was pretty funny because my family and friends from college know me as one name and my husband and professional friends know me as another.....lots of confusion! Haha!

[pvillewife06]

Aria Teresa or Aria Terese- I like the way that sounds
Aria Lucia
Aria Filomena (love Mina)
Aria Gianna
Aria Christine or Aria Christina

I agree people will mispronounce Alessio but I really like Marcus and Paolo. I also love Christopher, Salvatore (Sal), and Dominic.

[ttt]

I love Alessio, or Alessandro. And I think going by a middle name is perfectly fine.

I'm still a little sad I didn't get to use Rafael.

[wawa]

Aug 14, 2012 13:29:41 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

In other news, my brother just had a son a few days ago and they will call him by his middle name. Obviously this is way more common than I thought.

Wawa- I'm not worried about asshole kids, they will find a way to mock anything. I just don't want it to be something that s/he has to be constantly correcting/fixing to everyone. So I want it to be somewhat easily pronounceable for your standard literate person. That's why I'm taking Texan sensibilities into account.

good plan.

[eclaires]

Surely some of you remember my husband insisting we name Scarlett Blackford if she was a boy.

BLACKFORD!!!

[ladybrettashley]

I may be in the minority, but I hate when people go by their middle name. I guess I understand if a person chooses to go by their middle name because they dislike their first name, but I will never understand why a parent intentionally calls a child by their middle name. If that's the name you like best, why not make it their first name and avoid all the confusion?

[rootbeerfloat]

I love Aria and Paolo.

DS goes by his middle name about half the time. Actually, we used his middle name primarily when he was baby/toddler, but now that he's in school, he's used to people calling him by his first name and doesn't ask them to use his middle name.

[2vermont]

Rocky

;D

[basilosaurus]

I used to babysit for a family where all the kids went by their middle names. It was weird. I kind of got it with the oldest kid since he was named after his dad, but the others made no sense.

[penguingrrl]

I see no reason not to go by a middle name. MIL goes by her middle name because her first name is Mary and her last name rhymed with Mary (it was really bad). When she got married she considered going back to Mary but FIL is Joseph and they are practicing Catholics and didn't want to be Mary and Joseph. We wanted to honor her while naming DD1 (since DD1s first name is my mom's name) so we made her middle name DDs middle name.

[2vermont]

Aug 14, 2012 16:10:56 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

Aug 14, 2012 15:21:22 GMT -5 2vermont said:

Rocky

;D

And Adrienne for a girl?

Yup..and then if Rocky has a brother you can call him Paulie.

badumdumching

[msmerymac]

Aug 14, 2012 16:22:48 GMT -5 penguingrrl said:

I see no reason not to go by a middle name. MIL goes by her middle name because her first name is Mary and her last name rhymed with Mary (it was really bad). When she got married she considered going back to Mary but FIL is Joseph and they are practicing Catholics and didn't want to be Mary and Joseph. We wanted to honor her while naming DD1 (since DD1s first name is my mom's name) so we made her middle name DDs middle name.

Um, you just described my in-laws. When my husband told me his parents' first names when we first started dating he said, "they're really easy to remember."

Re: Paolo. Paola is a pretty common Spanish girl's name, so I don't think Paolo will be THAT hard for Texans. I could be wrong. I could be overestimating the general public.

[penguingrrl]

Aug 14, 2012 17:14:36 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Aug 14, 2012 16:22:48 GMT -5 penguingrrl said:

I see no reason not to go by a middle name. MIL goes by her middle name because her first name is Mary and her last name rhymed with Mary (it was really bad). When she got married she considered going back to Mary but FIL is Joseph and they are practicing Catholics and didn't want to be Mary and Joseph. We wanted to honor her while naming DD1 (since DD1s first name is my mom's name) so we made her middle name DDs middle name.

Um, you just described my in-laws. When my husband told me his parents' first names when we first started dating he said, "they're really easy to remember."

Re: Paolo. Paola is a pretty common Spanish girl's name, so I don't think Paolo will be THAT hard for Texans. I could be wrong. I could be overestimating the general public.

That's really funny!

[EloiseWeenie]

I like your choices!

My husband has the same name as his dad (He's a II). His dad goes by his middle name, and my husband goes by a nickname of his middle name. My husband hates it and think it's ridiculous. He also hates his first name. When my son was born, FIL seemed miffed that we didn't name our son a III, and my H said he doesn't like that name, and it's already confusing. . . then FIL agreed (to which my H was like, then why did you name me that??).

[Knight]

My brother was named after our father so he went by his middle name. He is a III. My grandfather was Jim, my father was Jimmy to his family and Jim to everyone else, my brother is MN to family and friends but James professionally, and my son is James.

[Deleted]

At my office, middle names are very awkward. HR and IT have a really hard time getting the systems to display a middle name instead of first name. So even if Sally Jane Smith goes by Jane, half the systems will list her first name and half her middle. So no one can ever find "Jane"'s email because it's listed as Sally.

I also think going with a really Italian name seems strange. People are idiots with names and will have problems saying or spelling it. Especially if your last name is at all hard to spell or pronounce.