non-clicky: Weekend Activities w/o SO

[madDawg228]

Maybe I'm a shitty wife, but I like making plans that don't include my SO on the weekends. H and I are arguing on the interwebz right now, and it's getting ugly.

Can you make me feel like less of a heartless bitch and let me know how often you make weekend plans that don't include your SO?

On a side note, I'm looking forward to the two GTGs this weekend!

[madDawg228]

To answer my own question, I usually go to two events (usually HHs, shopping, or hanging out at someone's house) a month w/o my H.

This weekend I have two events, and my H is acting butthurt. I'm giving up the weekend afterward to go to a family reunion for H's family. And H has his own friends and could plan something if he wasn't such a procrastinator, so I'm in a very non-sympathetic mood.

[dawnyp]

I think it's fine to spend time apart. This weekend I am going out with my photography club Sunday morning then to the GTG. H is going to see the Steelers pre-season football game with the Steelers club. On Saturday we will be going to the Sounders game together and probably out for dinner afterwards.

I don't want to spend all of our time apart but certain things are fine

[Deleted]

I think it's split close to 50/50 that we do things apart and together. There are some things that we're each interested in that the other person couldn't care less about.

I really do love H and I love spending time with him, but I'm also thankful for my alone time and time with GFs.

[ashleyp728]

Well, I'm also going to one GTG this weekend (see you there!) but other than that we usually try to keep weekends for each other. We have very opposite schedules, for example I saw DH last night for half an hour before I had to get to bed. If we were on a more synced up schedule our weekends might be different.

With that said, he also works weekend days also, so we really only do "couples stuff" in the evening so I am free to do lunches/HHs with friends.

[FrozenSunshine]

Rarely. I try to keep my other plans on nights he's got work events.

That said, I'm not from here and don't have a lot of friends here.

DH and I like our weekends together, we always haven, even when we were back home.

[Deleted]

I never have enough time to plan a weekend gtg without my h these days. Saturday is the only day we get to spend as a family and then I almost always work Sunday. I haven't had a day to myself in months. I'm actually looking forward to this weekend because I'm ditching h and e after the sounders game on Saturday to go shopping by myself and then as long as I get Sunday off, won't know until Thursday, I have the gtg then.

[mkate710]

It's a toss up for us. I'm happiest with my weekend being a mix of alone time and alone with H time, with some girlfriend time thrown in now and then. That said, I get a lot of "alone" time on weekend morning runs and getting up with the dog and letting H sleep in, so usually by the time he's up I'm ready to hang out with him.

If I'm going to hang out with H, I'm happiest hanging out with just him. It's not so bad if we're just hanging out with our closest friends, but if it's people we don't know as well, he's the extrovert and I'm the introvert and it tends to feel like he's focused entirely on whoever we're with and kind of ignores me. It's not necesarily his fault, it's just more how our personalities are.

I think balance is the key. It's important to make time with your spouse a priority, but it's very healthy to plan stuff on your own too.

[niq]

W and I got into a fight once because I talked about wanting to have more time where we were "separate people", though it was in the context of me not calling her enough when one of us was out of town. It made her sad because she thought it meant I didn't want to spend time with her.

I try to make plans w/o W once in a while. Not every weekend, but maybe every 2 or 3 weekends, and rarely/never for the whole weekend.

[picksthemusic]

I don't often make plans w/o DH. I think the last time I did was over 3 months ago, and it was a much-needed girl's day out to lunch/spa/movie.

I can understand wanting to do some things w/o DH, especially if you were pretty independent prior to getting married. And I completely understand wanting to spend some time apart, just not all the time, every weekend.

[sarack]

most my plans are w/o h because i wanna hang with my friends and get a pedicure and go shopping and he doesn't wanna do that. well he's been better about going shopping.

h & i respect eachother's me time. our current conflict is getting enough time together.. and if i make plans with friends, he's out and prob won't see me for aweek, lol.

i am sarack first. maybe i'm a b, but h knew this when he married me. we both need me time and we are separate people who have lives together also. plus, he doesn't wanna hang with my friends, so then it's not that bad!

[georgeharrison]

We rarely ever do things independently on the weekends. When James gets home from work, he has school and Tman has extra-curriculars. We rarely do anything on the weekdays together besides eat dinner. So, the only time we do something without the spouse would be something that would happen after Tman goes to bed - and mostly we are just too tired by then. Plus, most of our friends are married and have families, too, so they spend their weekends with their families as well. Even if I wanted to do HH or something, it would probably be hard to plan.

[hallows]

H & I do our own things during the week, but the weekends are our time together. I get annoyed if he makes plans for the weekend without letting me know first.