W is unsure about meeting my parents.

[tacokick]

I can see why he wouldn't want to meet them/be apprehensive about it. You need to decide if that is a deal breaker for you.

Honestly, I'm surprised you want them in your life at all. I could maybe see phone contact but I can't imagine wanting the type of people you described to visit/help.

[jade28]

Hmm this is tricky. I think you need to determine how important it is to you that he meet your parents and if it is a dealbreaker. If it's really important to you, let him know and hopefully he will then be willing to do it even though he doesn't want to. That is sometimes necessary in relationships.

However, I really would re-evaluate how important it is and why you want him to meet them. It could cause more drama bringing him into the mix. What if your parents are mean toward him or try and sabotage your relationship or happiness? What if he can't handle it and goes off on them? Is this a risk you are willing to take and do you want to expose him to all of this? I have to say from experience, I have come to realize how hard it is for guys to see their girls mistreated by family. It can cause a lot of issues.

[Deleted]

Why does he have to meet your parents? If they have little to no part in your life why is it such a big deal?
It is your choice to have these people in your life which is ok for you i guess(although it doesnt sound like it) but HE doesnt have to accept them.
You stated yourself that something is likely to upset him, so why put im in that position? Why test his ability to keep his cool?
If you could give us a good reason for this meeting to happen then maybe we'd give you some answers youd like to hear, but at this point i agree with him that it is a bad idea.

[blackkitty]

Personally I wouldn't push the issue and ask yourself all of the "what ifs". It doesn't sound like now is the right time, and when the time is right you will know.
I'm sorry you had such a hard time with your parents. I was dealt the easiest hand in the parental department either. My dad is mentally ill and was abusive. I don't talk to him very often. My ex husband didn't even meet him until after we were married for a year. (and when we got to his house the day my XH met my dad, we pulled up and there was a cop car in the driveway. Lovely. But that's another story)

[wrathofkuus]

It's 100% sane and rational that someone who cares about you wants nothing to do with people who have abused you.

[wrathofkuus]

Maybe you need to work on being okay with him punching your parents in the face periodically, then.