I want to explode!

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:@ I've been trying to get the apartment clean all day. Between a needy child and a cranky husband I haven't gotten near as much stuff done as I wanted. He took 2 loads of laundry down stairs and I've done 3 loads of dishes. I was in the middle of the third load of dishes and he decided that he was going to go take a short nap while we waited for the clothes to dry and then we were going to go to the park. Well Edmund wouldn't stay off the kitchen counter so I finally ended up putting him in the crib to cry while I finished my load of dishes and could start it. My H then gets mad because I have interrupted his nap and comes out and lies on the couch. So I finish the load go grab E and tell H to go back to bed and not worry about the park since he is in such a bad mood.

I'm just trying to get the apartment looking like an apartment and not like we have been neglecting our duties for far too long. I hate that he works nights and is normally too tired to help with anything during the day. If we could afford daycare I would put Edmund in it and make it so that we both work days and not do this opposite schedule shit anymore. But to afford daycare one of us would have to get a second job and with Edmund's doctors appointments starting up more frequently again in October it's not really feasible right now.

[kwpnjumper55]

Im sorry that you are having such a hard time! Maybe find a sitter for a night and have a date night?

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Aug 14, 2012 20:32:57 GMT -5 kwpnjumper55 said:

Im sorry that you are having such a hard time! Maybe find a sitter for a night and have a date night?

That's tomorrow for our anniversary. We are leaving Edmund with FIL, who says he can handle it, and his roommate (aka ex-boyfriend). FIL just had surgery last Wednesday and is in a sling and can't lift over 10lbs for the next 5 weeks. I just hope that we are doing the right thing because he basically begged us to let him watch him.

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Aug 14, 2012 20:40:36 GMT -5 @legalbritt said:

It sounds like you and DH have been a little disconnected lately. Being behind on chores and stressed out about house keeping probably isn't helping. I would be kind of irritated if DH took a nap in the middle of a cleaning frenzy though.

This.

I hope things calm down for you a bit soon!

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I was sick last week and H had 4 teeth pulled the week before that. We've both worked crazy hours and quite a bit of overtime due to staffing issues at work. We just haven't had the energy to do it. Not to mention we are both rather lazy when it comes to housekeeping. He worked 8 hours last night and got a 2 hour nap while Edmund napped this morning. He works 8 hours tonight and has to get sleep in at some point. I was just pissed that he decided to go take his nap when I was in the middle of something instead of waiting 15 minutes for me to be done with it.

[sarack]

yikes. that sounds like a fuckington of dishes. 3 loads? like dishwasher loads or sink fulls? either way.

also, is FIL the one not allowed in hospitals?

hopefully you and h have a good time so you aren't so stressed and frustrated.

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Aug 15, 2012 13:24:48 GMT -5 sarack said:

yikes. that sounds like a fuckington of dishes. 3 loads? like dishwasher loads or sink fulls? either way.

also, is FIL the one not allowed in hospitals?

hopefully you and h have a good time so you aren't so stressed and frustrated.

No that is stepFIL.

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Aug 15, 2012 13:39:24 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

any chance you could hire someone to clean - even every other week? with the overtime you're both working, it might take some of the pressure off.
Plan B would be to make cleaning lists and just divide it - you're each responsible for the things on your list with the goal of getting it all done with time left to re-connect with each other.
Sorry it's all so stressful.

We are looking into hiring someone.

[sarack]

Aug 15, 2012 15:07:57 GMT -5 @sounderschick said:

Aug 15, 2012 13:24:48 GMT -5 sarack said:

yikes. that sounds like a fuckington of dishes. 3 loads? like dishwasher loads or sink fulls? either way.

also, is FIL the one not allowed in hospitals?

hopefully you and h have a good time so you aren't so stressed and frustrated.

No that is stepFIL.

ok. phew.

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Aug 15, 2012 15:31:19 GMT -5 sarack said:

Aug 15, 2012 15:07:57 GMT -5 @sounderschick said:

No that is stepFIL.

ok. phew.

sFIL is not allowed alone with E and both he and MIL know it. I'd be furious with MIL if she ever left them alone together.