Post by saraandmichael on Aug 14, 2012 22:20:07 GMT -5
so my bil is getting married in october. kids are not invited to the wedding. this upset my SIL a ton (the crazy one with 4 kids.
well, my husband's uncle is going to the wedding and his children are coming.
i am not sure if my bil will tell him that they are not invited (which will cause an issue) or if he will cower and let them come, in which case the crazy sil is going to be effing pissed.
i shouldn't be excited about watching this unfold, but i totally am.
I really don't understand why people take children to weddings when they're not invited. It's clearly awkward for the couple to say something to the parents.
The only child invited to our wedding was my 5-year-old adopted brother. SIL ended up bringing her baby (a 6 month old) anyway without telling us. I was kinda pissed at first, but in the end, it didn't matter at all.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
true. but noah will be 14 at the time and he is not invited, so i assumed it was the same for them as well.
Maybe they're only including certain people's children over a certain age?
We had a small wedding, so everyone involved was close family. We hired a babysitter and told people that if they brought kids under 10 the kids were going to be inside with the babysitter during the ceremony. If they had an issue with that, they needed to arrange something else for themselves.
My SIL tried to challenge this ruling the night before the wedding, and I told her to fuck herself. It led to an incredible amount of drama, but it was worth it to not have screaming kids during our vows.
I don't understand when people get upset about kids not being invited.
I only see the issue if either (a) it is a nursing infant and a parent is close family, in the bridal party, or otherwise expected to attend; or (b) the wedding guests need to fly in from afar. Not everyone can travel without their kids.
I don't understand when people get upset about kids not being invited.
I only see the issue if either (a) it is a nursing infant and a parent is close family, in the bridal party, or otherwise expected to attend; or (b) the wedding guests need to fly in from afar. Not everyone can travel without their kids.
This was the situation at our wedding. Which is why I ultimately decided that it wasn't a big deal. But it would have been nice if SIL gave us a heads up beforehand, especially after she told us she would be looking for a sitter...
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
I agree with not going - which is why either a nursing or long distance bridal party person or close family member are the only ones where I can see the issue because you can't really "not go" in that case.
I think Pixie's solution of a babysitter in a side room is incredibly thoughtful.
Post by saraandmichael on Aug 14, 2012 23:05:22 GMT -5
If we didn't have someone to watch our kids then I would stay home. My SIL wouldn't entertain the idea of her husband staying with their children so she threw a fit about it. It was funny to watch.
This is gonna be goooodddd!!! Video or pics with a play by play would be awesome!
I really don't mind kids at weddings. The thing I do mind is when the parents get trashed and don't watch them. I somehow always end up being the person that ends up watching other people's kids and can't get hammered myself.
We did not have kids at our reception, including our nephews. My sister was pissed, but in the end, my prediction came true and everything worked out for the best. We had a sitter set up, room service with kid friendly food and movies.
I don't understand the need to dictate this kind of stuff. Now with the uncle's kids, are you sure all of them are invited or just the 21 year old?
We did not have kids at our reception, including our nephews. My sister was pissed, but in the end, my prediction came true and everything worked out for the best. We had a sitter set up, room service with kid friendly food and movies.
I don't understand the need to dictate this kind of stuff. Now with the uncle's kids, are you sure all of them are invited or just the 21 year old?
none of them are invited. the bride and groom want a small wedding and no children of any part of the family are invited.
however, i don't think this has been said outright and my bil and his fiancee are banking on people looking at who the invite is addressed to and following proper etiquitte.
this is where the drama comes in...someone is going to be upset.