Maybe tell him that he can absolutely get owl bedding too, but you'll need to get different colors so you can tell which blanket is for which kid when they are off the beds and in the wash. And then you could offer a few choices like these:
Post by turtlegirl on May 21, 2015 22:15:42 GMT -5
I have a friend with boy/girl twins and they have an owl themed room with both blue and pink owl stuff.
So maybe try to find some blue owl stuff and they can "match" that way, but you will still be able to tell them apart and their won't be any mix ups or fights about which blankets are theirs.
could you do solids for their bedding - maybe the green and blue from this set - and add in a few accessories? get each one an owl pillow from this set and then try to find a few other coordinating pieces that steer the room more neutral.
eta: i have no problem with boys having pink and/or owl bedding, but this might help everyone meet in the middle.
Post by InBetweenDays on May 21, 2015 22:17:00 GMT -5
I'm not really a fan of feeding into boy/girl stereotypes like this and would lean towards letting him get what he wants. But I also understand you wanting to pick your battles with your DH. Could you find a similar bedding in different colors?
Post by karinothing on May 22, 2015 8:09:19 GMT -5
That turquoise owl bedding is adorable.
That being said, I know you have mentioned before about your son being drawn to more feminine stuff. It could be a phase or it could be who it is. In the grand scheme of things I would get him the bedding he really wants. As you mentioned, you want him to feel comfortable with who he is, whomever that may be. I don't know much about your DH, but have you had a talk to him about needing to support your son, even if he choses pink?
Post by undecidedowl on May 22, 2015 8:14:01 GMT -5
Why did he like the original one? If it was just the owls, or to match his sister then I see nothing wrong with guiding him to a different one. I would definitely present him with some other options, like the turquoise with owls, and see what he says. And I would have no problem insisting that they have different designs so I could tell them apart, even if he picked a different one with pink in it.
Post by imojoebunny on May 22, 2015 8:30:31 GMT -5
I would just let the whole thing rest for a bit, and then try again, showing only things you think appropriate. You can always tell him the one you originally chose is sold out or too expensive. It happens.
My 6 year old boy will understand these things, even if it makes him a little sad.
I ended up going with more age neutral bedding, plain white for DS, and let him pick out a cheap fleece throw to "personalize it". He picked out a really fluffy brown blanket for home, my daughter picked out a character blanket when she got her bedding when she was 5 or 6, but now, at 8, she picked a pink fluffy one.
The ones you are showing pictures of, he will outgrow pretty quickly. I am to MM for that :-)
Can you offer him a few choices (from this thread or other stuff you find) including the original pink owl stuff? Just as a "oh I wanted to give you more options" not "your original choice was girly and bad".
For me, if he chose the pink stuff even then, I would consider that he actually does like it and I would pick that battle with my h.
Can you offer him a few choices (from this thread or other stuff you find) including the original pink owl stuff? Just as a "oh I wanted to give you more options" not "your original choice was girly and bad".
For me, if he chose the pink stuff even then, I would consider that he actually does like it and I would pick that battle with my h.
My first approach would be to continue to shop for BOTH kids and then see who still wants what after a week or so. I get that you have to choose your battles with your husband, but there's really no way to get pink bedding for your dd and tell your son who wants it that he can't have it, without communicating that you in fact do not accept boys who like pink or 'girl' things.
One decision won't make or break your son, but I vaguely remember that this has been an ongoing concern for you.
If a kid can't be who he/she is at home, where does that leave them?
I would do nothing for a week or two depending on how soon you need the bedding. Then I'd show him a bunch of options but if he still wanted the pink one I'd just get it. It's not really fair to let one kid have the bedding they want and not the other. I would tell your husband that you don't believe pink is limited to a certain sex and you don't want to impose such an arbitrary limit on your son.
Can you offer him a few choices (from this thread or other stuff you find) including the original pink owl stuff? Just as a "oh I wanted to give you more options" not "your original choice was girly and bad".
For me, if he chose the pink stuff even then, I would consider that he actually does like it and I would pick that battle with my h.
This is exactly how I feel.
I agree with this. I would also keep shopping for both your DD & DS. So they both have more options & can pick their favorite. This way you're not singling out your DS's choice.
I would do nothing for a week or two depending on how soon you need the bedding. Then I'd show him a bunch of options but if he still wanted the pink one I'd just get it. It's not really fair to let one kid have the bedding they want and not the other. I would tell your husband that you don't believe pink is limited to a certain sex and you don't want to impose such an arbitrary limit on your son.
This is a major point too. You can't let her get exactly what she wants and then make him settle for something else just because what he wants is pink.
I would try to tease out what they like about that set and then see what you can do from there. Would your DH be OK with pink sheets for now if the comforter was more neutral?
So now I'm supposed to tell him that it's not ok after all, because what if one of his friends saw it? Gah. Bad timing, DH.
I also wanted to add, if you do decide you can fight this battle with your husband now or in the future... For me the most powerful argument I've heard is that you can't fight bullying (ie the fear that other kids will make fun of him for his bedding) by starting the bullying at home.
Post by whitemerlot on May 22, 2015 13:35:45 GMT -5
I would probably get a more neutral set and maybe let him pick sheets and pillowcases. Target has animal throw pillows that are pink owls and green, pink, purple owl sheets.