First post divorce date- UPDATE- help!

[explorer2001]

Totally normal. Wear a cute sundress or jeans and a nice top. If he's divorced he should understand where you are coming from, one date doesn't mean serious. If it starts to go there, you can have the conversation. Have fun!

[lookingup]

Wear something cute that you feel comfortable in. Going on a date with someone doesn't mean that you're wanting a relationship, so don't sweat it. I also agree with redvelvet when she says to go with no expectations. Just go to have fun.

Good luck, lady!

[Deleted]

Help me out here ladies! This guy is WAY over zealous. How do I decline?

[doriswe]

Ugh, just saw your update and am having flashbacks to the OZ cop! Don't go out with him!!

I'd just shoot him a text saying "I think we're on two different pages and I don't see this going anywhere, but good luck"

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Aug 15, 2012 17:07:18 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Ugh, just saw your update and am having flashbacks to the OZ cop! Don't go out with him!!

I'd just shoot him a text saying "I think we're on two different pages and I don't see this going anywhere, but good luck"

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I missed out on that story. Maybe it's a cop thing!! Lol. CRAZY!

[achase123]

What...the...fuck?

I hate the clingers, what's with the clingers? And why are they all the same? I find it so incredibly odd that they would even make an assumption there would be a second date, let alone a vacation!!! And the casual "hey stranger" that's odd too.

I had a guy from match (who I'd never met, mind you) start telling me all about his health problems AND tell me him AND his son would come and cheer me on at a local half marathon I was running in. DUUUUUDDDEEEE we hadn't met yet!! Are you for real?

[doriswe]

Aug 15, 2012 17:16:13 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Aug 15, 2012 17:07:18 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Ugh, just saw your update and am having flashbacks to the OZ cop! Don't go out with him!!

I'd just shoot him a text saying "I think we're on two different pages and I don't see this going anywhere, but good luck"

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I missed out on that story. Maybe it's a cop thing!! Lol. CRAZY!

I'm too terrified to relive it....let's just say he too was overzealous and it went from "well maybe he's just eager" to "holy fuck, I can't breathe because it was suffocating" in all of an hour.

Trust your gut!

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Aug 15, 2012 17:16:51 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I would just stop texting him.... Maybe send a text saying you aren't interested in the date anymore. I would definatley not go on Sunday... he is obviously very weird

Welcome to dating! It's tons of fun You never know what will happen...lol.

Lol...fun stuff, huh?

[Deleted]

Gross. I'd go with the two different pages thing and cut it off. Then BLOCK on match and don't respond to any more texts. What is wrong with some dudes?

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Aug 15, 2012 17:19:33 GMT -5 achase123 said:

What...the...fuck?

I hate the clingers, what's with the clingers? And why are they all the same? I find it so incredibly odd that they would even make an assumption there would be a second date, let alone a vacation!!! And the casual "hey stranger" that's odd too.

I had a guy from match (who I'd never met, mind you) start telling me all about his health problems AND tell me him AND his son would come and cheer me on at a local half marathon I was running in. DUUUUUDDDEEEE we hadn't met yet!! Are you for real?

This is insane! I really had no idea about the clingers!! Creepy creepy. ESPECIALLY when you haven't even met them! And guys say women are bad??? What the fuck?

[jade28]

Okay, why are so many guys like this? I feel like this happens ALOT to all of us. I want to believe that not all of these guys are bad news but just socially inept and confused?

I mean do they think this behavior is attractive to women? Do they think it's funny? Are they being serious or just goofing around? Why do they act like this?

I feel like we need to ask one of them. I want to understand this behavior....

[naeljun]

I think they are looking for the woman who will believe and thrive on this crap they are fed. There are some insecure women out there who would love to be coddled like that.

[blackkitty]

I've dated 4 cops post service, 2 turned out to be assholes, one was a pathological liar and one was absolutely insane. The insane one told me after we met one time for coffee that he wanted to marry me and watch me have sex with other men. And then eat their cum out of me. Gross

Stay away from cops

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Aug 15, 2012 21:21:57 GMT -5 jade28 said:

Okay, why are so many guys like this? I feel like this happens ALOT to all of us. I want to believe that not all of these guys are bad news but just socially inept and confused?

I mean do they think this behavior is attractive to women? Do they think it's funny? Are they being serious or just goofing around? Why do they act like this?

I feel like we need to ask one of them. I want to understand this behavior....

Ehhh I would be if you ask men there are just as many crazy women out there.

[Bernadine]

Aug 16, 2012 10:33:03 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

The insane one told me after we met one time for coffee that he wanted to marry me and watch me have sex with other men. And then eat their cum out of me. Gross

Stay away from cops

Doesn't seem all that insane to me.

[blackkitty]

Aug 16, 2012 10:54:25 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

Aug 16, 2012 10:33:03 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

The insane one told me after we met one time for coffee that he wanted to marry me and watch me have sex with other men. And then eat their cum out of me. Gross

Stay away from cops

Doesn't seem all that insane to me.

Want me to give you his number?

[roselis]

Aug 16, 2012 10:54:25 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

Aug 16, 2012 10:33:03 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

The insane one told me after we met one time for coffee that he wanted to marry me and watch me have sex with other men. And then eat their cum out of me. Gross

Stay away from cops

Doesn't seem all that insane to me.

What isn't crazy about that??? They met 1 time and he is talking marriage and fetishes.

[Bernadine]

Aug 16, 2012 10:55:56 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

Aug 16, 2012 10:54:25 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

Doesn't seem all that insane to me.

Want me to give you his number?

Please, he sounds like exactly my type!

(I'm kidding, I promise.)

[lovelybb]

Aug 16, 2012 10:40:18 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Aug 15, 2012 21:21:57 GMT -5 jade28 said:

Okay, why are so many guys like this? I feel like this happens ALOT to all of us. I want to believe that not all of these guys are bad news but just socially inept and confused?

I mean do they think this behavior is attractive to women? Do they think it's funny? Are they being serious or just goofing around? Why do they act like this?

I feel like we need to ask one of them. I want to understand this behavior....

Ehhh I would be if you ask men there are just as many crazy women out there.

Yep... I've heard the stories and experienced it myself with D's Ex-wife. I vacillate between and and this quite a bit when I see or hear what she's said or done.

[achase123]

I don't think it's good to generalize specifically about one group or profession to "stay away from" but I have noticed somewhat of an attitude with cops/sheriffs. I'm good friends with a sheriff and he definitely has a general cockiness about him and has a reputation as a player.

I think that there are always exceptions and it's just best to pay attention to how the actual person acts, not what they do for a living.