Post by Wanderista on May 22, 2015 14:00:17 GMT -5
I know several guys who are in LTRs with significantly less attractive women. It's true that in a few cases, I have kind of wondered what the guys were/are thinking. I think that "type" is a big factor though. Individual preferences vary and some people might pair off with people who aren't the most conventionally attractive but whom are very much in line with their type.
Off of your confession, boing, one of my vegas outfits is the two piece top and skirt. I feel like I look fluffy. I am small, but I feel my stomach looks soft rather than toned, ya know? So, I sent the pic of me in it to a few friends all, "Do I look fluffy?" and they all have responded with some version of, "No, you asshole." I'M NOT FISHING FOR COMPLIMENTS! And I am convinced they are not being honest. I would rather my FRIEND say, "Yeah, not your best look" than wear an outfit and have people judging me behind my back.
I'm sure you look fine in the outfit, but you probably won't be comfortable/confident in it, so I'd try to wear something else. We all have those outfits that aren't judge worthy, but still don't make us feel great, so it's best just to wear something that you feel like you look amazing in.
I agree! I feel I can maybe wear them separately. I dunno. In Vegas, I will be drunk. Who knows. The yellow one really is my favorite on. The two girls I am going to Vegas with prefer the two piece, but it's my body. I have to be comfy.
RamblingRose-no way in hell. LOL. I sent it to MP. She doesn't think I look fluffy, but doesn't like the outfit. I kind of agree. Well, about the outfit.
I want to share pictures too. Only if you promise to be like "girl, you're right. You DO have a fupa now." instead of "omg you look EXACTLY the same!!1lies!"
Post by jojoandleo on May 22, 2015 14:11:02 GMT -5
RamblingRose-for a limited time, here is me DRUNKENLY trying on the yellow dress. I think it's my favorite. I know it's my favorite, actually. Ignore my face. I was drunk. I did shots.
Because I think he is fucking hot and he claims I'm the hot one. So...yeah. Either we are both hot or we are both delusional
But yeah, of course you think the other one is hot, but OBJECTIVELY you just have to know, lol. Like, I find A to be really attractive to me, but I think I'm objectively better looking. I'm also 10 years younger so that helps, lol.
Objectively, I really have no clue. Seriously. I'm being obtuse. I just have no idea!
Because I think he is fucking hot and he claims I'm the hot one. So...yeah. Either we are both hot or we are both delusional
But yeah, of course you think the other one is hot, but OBJECTIVELY you just have to know, lol. Like, I find A to be really attractive to me, but I think I'm objectively better looking. I'm also 10 years younger so that helps, lol.
I'm here. Maybe I am a dick, but I think I am better looking than MH. I love him, I'm attracted to him, but from an objective standard? I'm hotter.
boing-do you think it's because his dad is more forgiving of things he does because of the car accident? I get it but that might make it hard later on for him.
My confession; I finally brought up the love talk with BF. It went pretty well. We basically both said that we think about saying it but just haven't yet. As in it crosses our minds and we think "I love you" but haven't actually verbalized it. He also said those words weren't said in his family growing up but he never doubted his parents love. And it made him place a lot of importance on them. To say them is a huge deal for him.
So we're both on the same page but I kind of still wonder when he's going to just come right out with it. I'm being stubborn and refuse to say it first. So I'm in a similar place as before but do feel tons better that I brought up the topic.
This month was a really expensive one since I am paying down debt aggressively and bought a laptop. I may have to take a little out of savings that I put in and I hattttteeee it. I know it's all in my head but still just as annoying.
I don't think I ever want to have a love talk. I really don't have a lot of...feelings (which is why I don't post here as much, TBH). I got away with it with stbx because he was such an asshole, it kind of balanced out.
I see myself having a series of fun, convenient, semi-detached "relationships" until I retire, spend all my money travelling to the last places on my bucket list, and then like, become a nun or something. Serving the poor, bingo and bake sales? Sign 70 y.o. me up. lol
MyName I sort of don't have feelings like this either. Like I've never really felt the urge to tell anyone I love them. I agree on the fun, convenient semi-detached relationships. Like the guy I'm dating right now I like more than I have liked anyone. We've been dating for eight weeks. I have no desire to even remotely tell him I love him. When I'm old I want to move to the Villages in Florida. www.thevillages.com/
It's like an entire town of a retirement Village with activities and everyone drives a golf cart. There are lots of single people there by nature. Swimming! Pilates! Pinochle! Cermaics! And that all before noon.
mpbullygirl979gozf you're all hotter. All good looking dudes but you're hotter than your BFs.
Confession: Dentist and I were talking about this the other day and he was all, "I think we're about equal" and I was offended. I didn't tell him, but I think I'm better looking, especially historically so. He's much hotter now than he was when I met him. I think I paused because I was really surprised at his comment, even if not true, for chivalry sake.
MyName I sort of don't have feelings like this either. Like I've never really felt the urge to tell anyone I love them. I agree on the fun, convenient semi-detached relationships. Like the guy I'm dating right now I like more than I have liked anyone. We've been dating for eight weeks. I have no desire to even remotely tell him I love him. When I'm old I want to move to the Villages in Florida. www.thevillages.com/
It's like an entire town of a retirement Village with activities and everyone drives a golf cart. There are lots of single people there by nature. Swimming! Pilates! Pinochle! Cermaics! And that all before noon.
Yessss...I already like FL, and by then I will not care about humidity and always be cold anyway! See you there, pdx!
Also, I've been dating a guy since January, and haven't seen him in a couple weeks because of (my) scheduling stuff, and now he's studying for a big test June 7th, and I'm totally fine with not seeing him until after that. We had a routine going where we met up after work Friday and then whoever's turn it was slept at the other one's place (brutal subway commute between where we live, but work close by). It was PERFECT. My fear now is that after he's done studying he's going to take up too much of my time. hahaha But we are so much alike that I don't think either of us will bring up feelings until we're ready to move on. Score!!
And for a real flameful, if it was at all socially acceptable, I would totally be down with ghosting as a way of breaking up. I mean, take a hint! Let's not drag this out. lol
And for a real flameful, if it was at all socially acceptable, I would totally be down with ghosting as a way of breaking up. I mean, take a hint! Let's not drag this out. lol
Ha! I just hate the limbo of the two or three days of not knowing. But I totally way prefer to be broken up with via text. There's no way I would want to do that in person.
RamblingRose-for a limited time, here is me DRUNKENLY trying on the yellow dress. I think it's my favorite. I know it's my favorite, actually. Ignore my face. I was drunk. I did shots.
I was standing in line for a ride less than an hour after she posted it and it was already gone.
I think I am pretty, but I know I am not skinny or super gorgeous, and I always think I am the hot one and probably will unless I end up dating someone Justin Timberlake hot.
Okay, I am going to admit something even more flameful: A part of me is all, "How did she get him and why don't *I* get a super hot boyfriend?" Hmm, Jojo, maybe because looks aren't everything in a relationship? Superficial, party of one.
Ha.
My exBF was really, really good looking. Not exaggerating when I say 9 out of 10 people who met him for the first time always commented on how good looking he was, including my male boss and several male friends. He was a model for a little while, but was super shy and didn't like people commenting on his looks.
I definitely didn't do anything super special to be with him lol. Just got lucky! The universe just works that way sometimes.
I can testify to that. Dude was crazy hot, it should have been illegal.
I know I'm the hotter one between DH and I. I blame the peri-menopause.
It's like an entire town of a retirement Village with activities and everyone drives a golf cart. There are lots of single people there by nature. Swimming! Pilates! Pinochle! Cermaics! And that all before noon.
Ha! My sisters ILs live there. Moved there about a year ago and they absolutely LOVE it there!