Moms - a question

[rex]

her daughter's hair must be GROSS.

my kid is terrified of baths but guess what, I wash her hair anyway. I just try to soothe her as best I can as it's happening and make sure I don't get water in her eyes. it's 30 seconds, she'll survive. I do also talk to her beforehand about what will happen, and that has made it better over time.  I only wash her hair 1-2x a week but at least it's washed. 

[Deleted]

Ew. That nasty sweaty dirty head I see every night after school? No. Must wash daily.

[Deleted]

I would say no, that is not common

[cuddlyevil]

Ew.

My kids got washed regularly, even when they screamed loke I was pulling out their fingernails.

It's good hygiene.

[AHappierHour]

Poor thing. Her hair has to smell. I know kids don't like it but you have to do it at least a few times a week.

[gingerjar]

I can't imagine…it is so hot here and she comes home from daycare and has sunscreen on her skin and you can tell she's been sweating during out door play. We do daily baths and wash hair every 2-3 days in winter and 1-2 days in summer, depending on how it looks that day.

[SKP82]

My daughter doesn't like for her hair to be washed, but it gets washed anyway.

Kids don't like to do lots of things that need to be done: brushing teeth, clipping nails, haircuts, etc.

[joenali]

The worst smell is dirty kid hair.

[aussiecrush]

I have two kids on the spectrum. The nicest way to describe bath time here is like trying to bathe cats. They still don't go more than 2 days without having their hair washed.

[spankswife]

My local radio show did a bit one time that Hispanic people shower less than white people, and they think it's ridiculous how much white people shower and how bad it is for your skin and hair, and it dries it out.

Half the callers agreed, half disagreed. The main girl said she showers once every week or two, even with working out.

Long story short, maybe it's cultural?

[speckledfrog]

Two months? I was wondering where that smell was coming from.

[carolinagirl831]

Gross! I make my kid do all kinds of things she hates, including hair washing, and wiping face and hands
And she has really curly hair, we certainly don't wash it everyday.... But months???no way

[spankswife]

Lmao idk, I was just sharing.

I thought it said weeks, not months too.

My kid's hair gets washed daily.

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May 24, 2015 19:20:22 GMT -5 mofongo said:

May 24, 2015 19:16:37 GMT -5 spankswife said:

My local radio show did a bit one time that Hispanic people shower less than white people, and they think it's ridiculous how much white people shower and how bad it is for your skin and hair, and it dries it out.

Half the callers agreed, half disagreed. The main girl said she showers once every week or two, even with working out.

Long story short, maybe it's cultural?

She didn't say anything about that.

How old is the child and are they black or hispanic?

I don't know about months, but I wouldn't think too much about it being black where many women don't wash their hair for at least 2 weeks when they go to the salon. I've never in my life seen my mom wash her own hair. It's every 2 weeks like clock work on the dot at the salon. I'm sure many white women find this very odd.

So it really wouldn't surprise me if she didn't wash my hair for like a month when I was a baby because no one wants to deal with a baby afro lol and it's not like it'd be all sweaty I don't think as a 4 month old.  I hate dealing with my afro now as an adult. I had a lot of hair when I was less than 1 year old. 

[lilafowler]

We only wash E's hair every few days unless she's especially sweaty/dirty.

[sewf]

I get training your hair so you don't have to wash it as often. While I shower every day, I only wash my hair 1-2 times a week. But I don't work out or run or get sweaty, so I can go longer. Some of the things that end up in my kid's hair - nope. His is washed every other day (or more, if there is sauce or jelly in it).

[thejen626]

I wash DD1's hair once a week. DD2's hair twice a week. They both get a bath every 2-3 days during the winter, and more often during the summer.

The longest I'd go without washing DD1's hair would probably be 8-10 days. Her hair doesn't look greasy or get stinky, but I use a lot of product in it and I think that helps.

[meshaliuknits]

The boy gets his hair washed whenever he has a bath because he puts food in his hair. Jerk.

My daughter gets hers washed usually once a week, conditioned & combed twice a week. I will go two weeks without washing hers but she starts getting musty after that. Basically I do to hers what I do to mine.

[speckledfrog]

May 24, 2015 19:32:37 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

May 24, 2015 19:25:24 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

So does this work with the rest of your body?

There are some that claim it does.  Like with armpits.

Lol, not something I'm willing to experiment with to find out, personally.

MH doesn't wear deodorant.  I think he didn't start because he had sensitive skin as a kid (he's been totally fine since I've known him at age 17) and then just never changed.  Unless he has been working out, he doesn't smell.  He has magical pits.

[speckledfrog]

My kids get food, paint, sunscreen, etc. in their hair. There's no way I couldn't wash it. Not to mention that toddlers can still develop cradle cap.

[Queen Mamadala]

May 24, 2015 19:26:10 GMT -5 @wandering said:

May 24, 2015 19:20:22 GMT -5 mofongo said:

She didn't say anything about that.

How old is the child and are they black or hispanic?

I don't know about months, but I wouldn't think too much about it being black where many women don't wash their hair for at least 2 weeks when they go to the salon. I've never in my life seen my mom wash her own hair. It's every 2 weeks like clock work on the dot at the salon. I'm sure many white women find this very odd.

So it really wouldn't surprise me if she didn't wash my hair for like a month when I was a baby because no one wants to deal with a baby afro lol and it's not like it'd be all sweaty I don't think as a 4 month old.  I hate dealing with my afro now as an adult. I had a lot of hair when I was less than 1 year old. 

This. I grew up going to the salon for a wash and press every few weeks. My mom has stretched hers by much more. My mom does not wash her own hair. I can't remember the last time she did, and she has gone more than a month between washings. And, technically, when I have braids or whatever in my hair for 2-3 months it's also not getting washed in the same way it does without braids.

I've gone a week or more between washings for my kids' hair.

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May 24, 2015 19:33:25 GMT -5 mofongo said:

May 24, 2015 19:32:37 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

There are some that claim it does.  Like with armpits.

Lol, not something I'm willing to experiment with to find out, personally.

The vagina is like a self cleaning oven!!

Lol. People should clean their vagina and ovens every once in awhile! Stuff gets caked in there like nobody's business after awhile  :N:

[adhdfashion]

My girls get their hair washed twice a week bare minimum. They get sweaty playing. Dirty hair smell is gross.

[renna]

When our son was 2 and 3 he hated getting his hair washed. He would stand in the bathtub and scream, and he was a mellow kid so this was not his normal behavior.

I finally remembered back to when I was young and my mom would clear off the kitchen counter, lay a towel down, and I would lie tummy-up on the towel. She held my head with her hand, and used the sink's sprayer (or a plastic glass) to wet my hair, got me shampooed up, rinsed me with the sprayer or the cup. (idea)  My mom is awesome and soft-spoken so she would always talk to me, kindly, about other things during this time.

I started doing this with our son sometime after he turned 3. I also gave him one of those snow-globe type things to hold (the kind that have an on/off switch and change colors) and he would hold that during the hair washing, I would talk to him about other things kindly, and we would just get it done. No more crying.

That was our method for about a year but during that time he lost any fear of having it done, and he liked holding that color-globe thing (he only got to hold that during hair washing).

By the time he was 5 he was fine with us dumping water right over his head in the bathtub. He's in swimming now and goes underwater, swims with his face down at the proper times. It really is amazing how far kids can come.

[Deleted]

Haven't read all the replies but I can tell you from MY experience I washed my daughters hair maybe every 3rd day. Now that is she is older she washes it once a week but does condition it everyother day. We also use oil in it she has super curly hair and it tends to get dry. that is why we don't wash it every day.

but months.. I would think it may start to smell a bit

[Deleted]

Also just an fyi I used to wash my daughters hair every night but lice like clean hair so when she went to school the drs office told me 3x a week was fine. She showers everyday and wears a showercap when she isn't showering but then I do spray it with water and use this spray in it to keep it moisturized. Its called Africa's Best Herbal Oil and I put a little drop of lavender in it as well. Keeps her hair so soft and moisturized.

[spankswife]

Speaking of the secret ML board, can we get the post secret board back?

That's always fun.

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May 24, 2015 19:16:37 GMT -5 spankswife said:

My local radio show did a bit one time that Hispanic people shower less than white people, and they think it's ridiculous how much white people shower and how bad it is for your skin and hair, and it dries it out.

Half the callers agreed, half disagreed. The main girl said she showers once every week or two, even with working out.

Long story short, maybe it's cultural?

kinda off topic but in college we had this guy friend from Denmark. He showered once a week and washed his clothes maybe after wearing them 4 to 5 times. He thought it was so ridiculous that we showered everyday.

I can honestly say that I was with him all the time and he never smelled...

[spankswife]

May 24, 2015 20:51:15 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

May 24, 2015 20:48:20 GMT -5 mofongo said:

For the record, I distinctly remember Saturday night hair washes when I was in grammar school. I had, well, the same wavy, dry hair that I have today. lol. It took my mom forever to dry it out, and I wore a ponytail to school.

Okay Laura Ingalls. 

Lmao. I can't.

[sparrowsong]

Not a parent, but I was instructed to handle my niece's bath time thusly - "Tonight we're going to wash your hair. Please lay down like a mermaid and get it wet for me." If after being asked to do this 2-3 times she still won't cooperate, show her the cup of water. If she still won't cooperate, proceed to a FU bath (obviously we don't say that to her, but basically FU, I don't have time for this shit. You are getting your hair wet whether you like it or not.) and pour the water on her hair.

They probably wash her hair 2-3 times a week. They do bath time every night as part of the bedtime ritual. I think it's excessive personally. I don't remember bathing more that 1-2 times a week when I was kid, unless I was really dirty from whatever happened that day. (But I think daily showering/bathing for anyone is a waste of water and part of a poorly sustainable modern lifestyle. /soapbox)