No, I wouldn't be comfortable with it. 1. I, like you, don't want to impose responsibility for my children on others and 2. At H's age, he needs guidance with social interaction - he will listen if I tell him to take turns with the other kids, but wouldn't likely come up with that on his own. I know it's not a big deal really, but I don't want be "that parent" that just lets their run over other kids because they're not paying attention / don't care to intervene.
Post by lauranicole91 on May 25, 2015 11:29:12 GMT -5
Some factors I'd have to take into consideration are if their backyard is completely fenced, aka no way for her to wander into the street. And if there is anything else in the yard that she could get into that she shouldn't. Aside from those two factors, if I trusted/knew the neighbors and I myself was planning to stay out and watch best I could, I think I could maybe be okay with it at this age. I'm kind of on the....fence (heh) about it myself.
Post by charmediamsure on May 25, 2015 11:31:20 GMT -5
I wouldn't with Jack until he is older. If I had an older child who was responsible I might permit it if s/he kept an eye on him, but I don't know at what age I would be comfortable putting an older in charge of a little (7?)
Hmm idk lol. I'm no help. Ada is good with other kids, especially older kids, so I wouldn't worry too much about her being a problem. I'd worry more about her getting out of the fence or getting hurt. I would probably start to allow it for short times and see how it goes. Maybe talk to the parents and let them know if there are any issues to let you know and she can not go anymore?
I wouldn't be comfortable with it, but I also wouldn't want a random load of kids in my yard and be in charge of them... Bc if something happens, I feel like whoever's yard they're in will be the ones held responsible. I know that's not your question, i just thought of it
I would if I was working outside. I probably wouldn't if I were inside for a while yet. And I would let Dylan have freedom to be a kid sometimes. But I wouldn't have a problem with him having responsibility for her occasionally.
I wouldn't be able to relax. I would worry too much.
Nope. There was zero relaxation. But, I've always told myself that I would do my best to step outside of my comfort zones to give my kids freedom. This was definitely one of those times. I hope it gets easier.
I think you did great. I've been trying to do this as well but it's difficult sometimes.
It would depend on the age and responsibility levels of the other kids. If there was someone 8+ who was willing to have a 3-year-old there and keep an eye on him, yes I'd let Caleb go, provided the yard was fenced in. But if it was a bunch of young kids running willy-nilly, or there was easy access to the street, I wouldn't be comfortable with it.
What is the age range of the kids there? If they're all close in age I think I would allow as long as I was outside to hear if she cried. If its mostly older kids (6+), I don't think I would because I feel like that age doesn't watch out for littles and sometimes does dangerous stuff around them.
I wouldn't. I think me and my H keep our kids on a shortish leash though. We recently allowed our oldests (6 & 7) walk a couple doors down to play at a friends house. I panicked the whole time.
Dd1 and dd2 aren't great at keeping an eye thwir sisters and Avery isn't the greatest listener so that plays a part in me being uncomfortable with it.
I wouldn't have an issue with another parent allowing it though. Different kids are ready for things at different ages.
Post by livinreality on May 25, 2015 13:34:14 GMT -5
I would be ok with C (5.5) but not with R. We were at a BBQ yesterday and the kids were moving between the front and back yard while we were in the back and it made me anxious.
Heck to the no. I would definitely not be okay with her being out of my sight without other adults supervising. I'm not sure what age I will be, but it's not 3!
I tell myself that I would be ok with it, but honestly, I'd probably be sitting on the porch all anxious and straining my ears to hear the first sign of trouble. Whereas H would totally be ok with it and think I was nuts
I would, but Charlie always goes with E&J. Our neighbors (we can't see their house) have kids and they all run up and down to each other's houses. When they are here, I watch them. When they are there, she does. It's just sort of how it goes. We share responsibility. Have you met the people who live there?
What is the age range of the kids there? If they're all close in age I think I would allow as long as I was outside to hear if she cried. If its mostly older kids (6+), I don't think I would because I feel like that age doesn't watch out for littles and sometimes does dangerous stuff around them.
They range from 5 years old to 10 years old.
Hmm then probably not unless there is a girl that's super into Mia and will be playing with her. Otherwise I would worry the older kids would be jumping off stuff that a 3 year old can't or something like that.
I would, but Charlie always goes with E&J. Our neighbors (we can't see their house) have kids and they all run up and down to each other's houses. When they are here, I watch them. When they are there, she does. It's just sort of how it goes. We share responsibility. Have you met the people who live there?
I have. They actually cam over and introduced themselves when we moved in. They are very nice. Dylan also went to their 5 year old's bday last week and I went over with him and stayed for a little while. The mom asked where Mia was and then said that it was okay if I didn't want to stay, she was totally happy keeping an eye on the kids - that is how the 2 houses are, with the parents watching the kids depending on what yard they were in (her words). I am definitely not against this kind of setup, I just wish I could freaking see Mia in the yard. She did perfectly well over there and has now asked me approximately 127 times if she can go back.
I think taking it slow is the way to go! Eventually you'll get more comfortable, if that's what you want!
I think you know your comfort level and child best. And make a decision based on that. Some children handle situations like that and themselves differently.
I think I would say yes if an older sibling or older girl who was into her (I have a girl in Mind and I would let her go with her) was there. I let D play in our yard when I'm in the house and I can't see her.
Also, I feel like you need to factor in how comfortable Mia might be asking for help from the adults there if she needs it.
Charlie knows the people he plays with really well. He would feel comfortable asking for something, using the bathroom, etc and I feel comfortable with him going in their house for the bathroom or asking for help or whatever.
I don't know if you are looking for advice, but maybe try hanging out there for like 15 minutes, then going home and leaving her for 15 minutes, then going back, and so on.
That way, you can check in and catch them off guard so you can see the interactions between the kids and Mia will know you'll be back. Dylan too!
I wouldn't let her go. At 3, I don't think you can be responsible for yourself and I sure wouldn't put other kids in charge of her. If I could see every thing, maybe, but only if she's a good listener and will come back when called.
Post by jamaga2583 on May 25, 2015 16:44:32 GMT -5
Nope. I'm okay with them playing at my house where I KNOW they have my full attention, and I can see them at all times. If the neighbor kids want to hang out in our yard, with their parents' permission, I'm okay with that, but my kids don't leave my yard. J is 7, and I absolutely still feel that way. And I definitely wouldn't trust J to be in charge of watching M, he just isn't mature enough. Maybe when he's 10 I'll reevaluate.