Were any of your kids like this as babies?

[4speedy]

My older child had a witching hour from 7-8pm every night. She was just like you described, cried if we held her and harder of we didn't. She is 9 yo now and she is still a snuggler.

[livinitup]

No, but I remember my niece was like this. She's a very well adjusted teenager and lovely daughter.

[iamgrace]

No. Omg, if either of my kids had done that even ONCE, I would have thought I'd died and gone to heaven. Lol.

[iamgrace]

May 26, 2015 19:22:46 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

May 26, 2015 19:21:16 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

No. Omg, if either of my kids had done that even ONCE, I would have thought I'd died and gone to heaven. Lol.

BUT AT LEAST YOU KNOW THEY LOVE YOU.

or something to that effect lol.

[cville]

L was like this. Except she wanted to be alone by her toys. She's still pretty introverted and is the worst cuddler in the history of cuddling. BUT she is super affectionate with her words, gives outstanding hugs, and drew me a portrait of wine last week so I know she loves me.

[honeychai]

No, but it sounds awesome.
My kids were/are cling-ons.

I swear I should've been a kangaroo so I could've just tucked them in my pouch.

Your LO sounds very well adjusted/secure. Good for her!

[curtains]

I used to beg my wellmeaning family members to give my dd space when she was upset. She knew how to calm herself better than anyone. Their helpfulness would just prolong the crying.

I am a coddler by nature, but she never wanted that. I learned quick and may have had my feelings hurt a little that she didn't need me. But it really was just who she was and is...

Now she is a super hard working, considerate teenager. She loves hugs and affection when she is happy. When she isn't I have learned to leave her alone. She always comes out of her funk sooner if she has space.

And she is no sociopath (yet). She loves to do charity work with me and experience the world on her terms. I, honestly think it is pretty amazing.

Sometimes they teach you how to be a good mom. It is best to listen.

[hymen]

Ds2 gets the same way. He gets really fussy and isn't happy if I hold him or put him down. Usually if nothing else consoles him I will put him in his crib. Sometimes he falls asleep; sometimes he just lies in there and plays and talks to himself.

Ds1 wasn't quite the same way but even now at almost 4 he likes to have his own space every once in a while.

[housewife]

DD was/is like that. At 5 y/o she still wants to be alone when she's mad and self soothes really well. Around 3, maybe closer to 4 she started to like snuggling. She'll cuddle up for 5-10 minutes. When she's done cuddling though - she's DONE and you'd better move.

[Deleted]

No

[floridakat]

My girls have gone from tree frogs to parasites to barnacles. At four, I get tag teamed with 90" and 90 lbs of girls almost every time I sit down. I love them desperately. But I constantly have stepped-on toes and bruises from their "love" running into my forehead, lol. A little personal space and self-soothing skills are a blessing.

[cheeseandcrackers]

Mine isn't a huge cuddler either.

[themysteriouswife]

This was Allie. We could not figure out why she cried while we were trying to get her to sleep. I would get frustrated and put her down to mellow out. She would go right out. After several times H asked if she just wanted to be left alone. We tried that route the next few times and it worked. At 7 she still doesn't want to snuggle often.

[ErinExpat]

May 26, 2015 20:41:40 GMT -5 @early said:

My oldest was like this. He would fuss and squirm and fight and I would lay him down and he would roll over like "finally, woman" and go to sleep.

Lol, exactly this. L would wave goodbye to me, too. Like, ugh, take a hint.

[krystee]

Mine is only two months and is already doing this. Last night we laid him in his crib to see if he'd relax because he was so fussy in our arms. He immediately quieted down. We then left the room and he started cooing and laughing for the next 30 minutes. It made me a tiny bit sad, but we are both introverts, so if he still has this self-soothing ability as a toddler, I will be thrilled!

[FastHands]

DS does this occasionally. Not as often now that he's crawling and has a lot more autonomy, but there are still times.

[gretchenindisguise]

How do I get my kid to self soothe without my boob? He won't take a pacifier.

Have I mentioned that now that we are feeding him food he tries to pick up my boob to shove it in his mouth? Omg. Baby nails can't get short enough.

[aprilsails]

My Mom brings up constantly about how I was a Touch-Me-Not and how the first year of my life nearly broke her heart since I was so much being on my own as compared to being held or cuddled. She said the only time I was happy being near her was when I was on the boob.

Luckily my Brother (who was a stage 5 clinger) came along when I was 14 months old so she got her cuddles from him.

I'm still not a big cuddler, to be honest, and will only very occasionally want to cuddle with DH or anyone else.

So I won't be terribly surprised if the baby on the way is not so fond of being held. I'll probably be on here complaining if I get a clinger.

[carolinagirl831]

Dd 1 has been like that from day 1. Now before bed she requests a cuddle, which means sing 1 song with her in our lap. As soon as it's over she pints to her crib. If she's hurt she just screams in anger and doesn't want anyone to hold her. My newborn seems much more cuddly than dd ever was

[sandpiper]

Yes. He is the least cuddly kid ever. The only times he snuggles is when he's sick.