Can we do some confessions/flamefuls?

[Willis Jackson]

May 28, 2015 7:03:36 GMT -5 @bunnybean said:

May 28, 2015 7:00:35 GMT -5 @this said:

I'm not going to get into a "my state is hotter" pissing match (lol), but in FL it's 100+ every single day in the summer with 100% humidity. They TELL us to stay inside during the day from basically from June until September. You see reports on the news of people dying regularly from heatstroke in the summer.

So yeah. We'll drive to the pool four months out of the year.

I'm with you. My state is not the hottest compared to where some of you live, but nope. I am not going to sit out and enjoy 95 degrees and 100% humidity to acclimate my body to heat. Heat sucks. I'll be fine in the winter, and love my snow and freezing temps, but summer is my time to stay away from the outdoors. 

Also, sun damage!!

I agree.

I don't bitch and moan about the cold in winter so I'm sure it evens out.

[Velar Fricative]

Finally catching up.

I side with most of ML on the $20K thing. Yes, it wouldn't be much for me BUT the OP would only have the longer commute for three days a week. I wouldn't hesitate to take that job.

I do call my pregnancies "unplanned." Maybe that's still not as nice as "surprise" but I'd feel weirder calling them "accidents" instead.

I hate that I've become such a driver now. Distances I used to walk with no problem have become annoying since I now drive. Argh. I need to stop relying on the car so damn much since I didn't need to rely on one for my first 32+ years of life.

[mpc]

May 28, 2015 9:13:16 GMT -5 @natariru said:

I'm sick of how fucking boring my friends are. I WANT TO GO OUT AND HAVE FUN SOMEWHERE. No, I don't wanna do dinner at 7 and have some wine. That is not a girls night I envision for my one night alone.

I'm 31 years old. I am not too old for a fucking loud ass bar and some dancing every once in a while. WHAT THE FUCK, FRIENDS?!!!

Boring friend, checking in. LOL. Dinner and wine sounds fabulous.

[sent]

May 28, 2015 6:54:38 GMT -5 @dontcallmeshirley1 said:

::zips up flameproof suit::

I couldn't give less of a rat's ass about how other people choose to strap their kids into cars.

Me neither.  Oh there's a 9 month old hanging out on someone's lap in the back seat?  KOKO.  

[stacyb1983]

May 28, 2015 9:13:16 GMT -5 @natariru said:

I'm sick of how fucking boring my friends are. I WANT TO GO OUT AND HAVE FUN SOMEWHERE. No, I don't wanna do dinner at 7 and have some wine. That is not a girls night I envision for my one night alone.

I'm 31 years old. I am not too old for a fucking loud ass bar and some dancing every once in a while. WHAT THE FUCK, FRIENDS?!!!

This was me at 7 months pregnant with C. I wanted to go see a band I like play at a dive bar in town. No one wanted to go. They all gave me the side eye. I wasn't planning to get wasted, lol. I knew it would be my last opportunity to get out and have fun like that for a long time.

[Deleted]

May 28, 2015 9:21:07 GMT -5 mpc said:

May 28, 2015 9:13:16 GMT -5 @natariru said:

I'm sick of how fucking boring my friends are. I WANT TO GO OUT AND HAVE FUN SOMEWHERE. No, I don't wanna do dinner at 7 and have some wine. That is not a girls night I envision for my one night alone.

I'm 31 years old. I am not too old for a fucking loud ass bar and some dancing every once in a while. WHAT THE FUCK, FRIENDS?!!!

Boring friend, checking in. LOL. Dinner and wine sounds fabulous.

Me too. But I've pretty much always been content with this type of night out, lol.

[sent]

May 28, 2015 9:13:16 GMT -5 @natariru said:

I'm sick of how fucking boring my friends are. I WANT TO GO OUT AND HAVE FUN SOMEWHERE. No, I don't wanna do dinner at 7 and have some wine. That is not a girls night I envision for my one night alone.

I'm 31 years old. I am not too old for a fucking loud ass bar and some dancing every once in a while. WHAT THE FUCK, FRIENDS?!!!

I thought one of the bonuses of having a baby was that I don't have to go dancing in loud bars anymore and pretend to enjoy it.  

[mpc]

May 28, 2015 9:23:22 GMT -5 @natariru said:

May 28, 2015 9:21:07 GMT -5 mpc said:

Boring friend, checking in. LOL. Dinner and wine sounds fabulous.

EVERY TIME?!!!   I can only do so many 7pm dinners on Saturday nights.

Well considering that when H, DS, and I go out to dinner it's at 5pm, 7pm seems like a wild night! 

[mpc]

May 28, 2015 9:32:43 GMT -5 @this said:

May 28, 2015 9:31:36 GMT -5 @natariru said:

They don't even play music in bars here before 10pm. So I'd like to stay out past that.

I should also add that my most boring friends DON'T EVEN HAVE CHILDREN.

Yes, but there are plenty of nice restaurants with acoustic guitar music starting at like 6pm! Bump everything up an hour and I could be home by 9!!

Next time I'm in town I'll go out with you at 6  :drink:

[scribellesam]

I was just going to make a snarky comment about my hatred for loud bars and dancing but I see it's been covered.

Home by 10pm for life!!

[leonard131]

20K for a longer commute- Seems like a no brainer in my book but then again I do exactly that. I commute over an hour because anything closer wouldn't pay me as much. Guess I am just about the money.

I am also a big believer in walking and being outside not matter how hot or humid. I can't stand being cooped up inside with the AC running all the time.

@natariru what you describe sounds like my worst nightmare even when I was in the my 20s.

[boxerdog]

May 28, 2015 7:00:35 GMT -5 @this said:

May 28, 2015 6:46:34 GMT -5 oswin said:

Ok, so for once I have something to post, though it's more of an unpopular opinion really. I hate that most people (who don't live in dense cities) don't even think about walking distances less than a mile. Especially if their excuse is that it's hot outside. I live in Texas where summers do get very hot (though it's not as humid as Houston) and I despise the way that everyone makes themselves reliant on air conditioning. If you air condition your house, car, and place of work, and avoid going outside because "it's too hot", then your body never adjusts to the heat and it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Last summer my heat tolerance was way better than DH's because I could work from home and be comfortable keeping the house at 78-80 degrees (because I got used to it), while he had to go into an office air conditioned to 70 degrees and wear a jacket because it felt so cold. It just seems like such a monumental waste of resources the way everything is so air conditioned. I'm not saying do away with a/c, but turn it up a little!

I'm not going to get into a "my state is hotter" pissing match (lol), but in FL it's 100+ every single day in the summer with 100% humidity. They TELL us to stay inside during the day from basically from June until September. You see reports on the news of people dying regularly from heatstroke in the summer.

So yeah. We'll drive to the pool four months out of the year.

Edited to add the relevant quote

I lived in Florida for years had had a job that involved being outside a LOT in the summer, so I don't necessarily buy the "it's too dangerous" bit.

But, I hate getting somewhere all sweaty and disgusting, so yes, I drove places a lot if I wanted to be presentable when I got there.

[jeaniebueller]

May 28, 2015 9:36:35 GMT -5 @natariru said:

YOU ARE ALL BORING!!!!

Listen, I am typically cool with dinner and drinks, but appreciate where you are coming from. Every now and then, its fun to get dressed up and dance and let loose. My problem is the opposite, typically my friends are *too* fun and I am the boring one. LOL

[boxerdog]

May 28, 2015 9:23:22 GMT -5 @natariru said:

May 28, 2015 9:21:07 GMT -5 mpc said:

Boring friend, checking in. LOL. Dinner and wine sounds fabulous.

EVERY TIME?!!!   I can only do so many 7pm dinners on Saturday nights.

I get you. I love chill nights with dinner and wine, but DAMMIT SOMETIMES I JUST WANT TO DANCE!

[cincodemayo]

I've been out to the bars past 10 PM so often lately I feel as though most are judging me for being a terrible mother. My kid goes to grandmas so I can go to Joe Blow's 30th birthday party. I already have anxiety about the number of weekend events we have this summer and just told my H I want to cancel my 30th birthday party and stay home instead.

[anna7602]

May 28, 2015 8:08:38 GMT -5 @mrsbecky said:

But obviously there is a point when heat is unsafe or even just uncomfortable and it's not because someone hasn't "adjusted" to it, lol. It's because 100 degrees with high humidity is damn uncomfortable.

I agree with this, but also think this is another one of those points in this thread that speaks to our privilege. My relatives in Cuba walk all the damned year, super hot season, regular hot season or stagnant-rainwater-up-to-your-knees season. I'm not saying anyone needs to suffer on purpose, just reminding us of how much of the rest of the world lives. 

[anna7602]

May 28, 2015 9:14:20 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

May 28, 2015 8:08:38 GMT -5 @mrsbecky said:

Eh.  I think it's somewhat innate whether or not you get hot easily.  My friends and I from law school went on a bar trip and got stuck on a bus on the tarmac in August in Prague.    They were acting like they were going to faint and I was fine.  Sweaty, but fine.  We all lived in Philadelphia while at law school and walked to school, lunch, etc.

Stalker alert! Did you go to law school with v?

[anna7602]

May 28, 2015 9:47:21 GMT -5 @natariru said:

Here's another one.

I HATE when people randomly speak to me in Spanish. Just cuz I look like I speak Spanish?! And it's never a non-English speaker who needs information or help (which I would never be bothered by, before people try to rip me a new one here).

Example: I'm working an exhibit today. Sale rep in booth next to me, wanders over and starts full blown conversation with me in Spanish. I look at him and go "I'm sorry, I don't speak Spanish" and he goes, "WHAT?! But you're Hispanic! Or at least you look Hispanic!" No dude.

This is neither a confession nor a flameful. Profiling sucks. 

[rbp]

I have zero desire to be comfortable in an 80 degree house. None.

[anna7602]

May 28, 2015 10:08:56 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

May 28, 2015 10:02:15 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

Stalker alert! Did you go to law school with v?

Same school, not at the same time.

Undergrad there, checking in. 

[stacyb1983]

Just booked a NBK brunch on a Sunday. I talked DH into taking the kids to church by himself. Mimosas taste even better when you're paying hooky from church.

[oswin]

Yeah, I figured people would be all over the place about a/c. I definitely get using a/c a lot in more humid places (heck, we've been running our a/c more than usual this month, not because it's hot but because it's been rainy and extra humid), and I get that sometimes heat waves are legitimate health concerns. Mainly I just laugh at others who live near me who bitch about how it's too hot to do anything when it's barely 90.

[sent]

So along the lines of dancing and the thread earlier this week about grandparents, my husband has a cousin who along with her SIL, the two of them love to get dressed up and hit up all the bars in suburbia and chronicle their adventures all across FB. They leave their kids with various grandparents. I judge the cousin hard for leaving her kids with the grandparents who drive up from 3 hours away just so she can go out dancing.  I mean I leave my kid with her grandparents, but that's so I can work and make a living and have money for my kid's future so that makes my reason better right?

That's my flameful.

[bronxgirl]

May 27, 2015 23:40:45 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

i have a confession. god. i cannot stand "is this a line?" posts when it is so obviously a fucking line. i wish ppl would title their post appropriately and say what it is really is "aw! bfp!" bc you know they damn well SEE it's a damn line.

yes i'm cranky. whatever.

I canot like this post enough.

[anna7602]

May 28, 2015 10:37:05 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

May 28, 2015 10:30:23 GMT -5 sent said:

So along the lines of dancing and the thread earlier this week about grandparents, my husband has a cousin who along with her SIL, the two of them love to get dressed up and hit up all the bars in suburbia and chronicle their adventures all across FB. They leave their kids with various grandparents. I judge the cousin hard for leaving her kids with the grandparents who drive up from 3 hours away just so she can go out dancing.  I mean I leave my kid with her grandparents, but that's so I can work and make a living and have money for my kid's future so that makes my reason better right?

That's my flameful.

You realize you're essentially saying no one should use babysitters for fun?

Or is there something wrong about grandparents doing the babysitting?  Because whether she is working or going out, they are still driving 3 hours and still spending time with their grandkids.

Now, if this was the ONLY time they invited the grandparents over, that would seem a bit dickish.

It's not having a clearly defined relationship with your childcare providers that offers fair pay and benefits and appropriate break times, duh. 

[Deleted]

May 28, 2015 10:30:23 GMT -5 sent said:

So along the lines of dancing and the thread earlier this week about grandparents, my husband has a cousin who along with her SIL, the two of them love to get dressed up and hit up all the bars in suburbia and chronicle their adventures all across FB. They leave their kids with various grandparents. I judge the cousin hard for leaving her kids with the grandparents who drive up from 3 hours away just so she can go out dancing.  I mean I leave my kid with her grandparents, but that's so I can work and make a living and have money for my kid's future so that makes my reason better right?

That's my flameful.

LOL.  My mom follows my favorite band on FB and when she sees they are playing near her she begs me to come visit so she can watch my son and I can go out and party.  I find this arrangement far less burdensome than having her quit her job and watch him for 8 hours every weekday. As a parent I think it's weird you would begrudge other parents a night out every now and then.  Come on!

[oswin]

May 28, 2015 10:35:15 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

May 28, 2015 10:29:16 GMT -5 oswin said:

Yeah, I figured people would be all over the place about a/c. I definitely get using a/c a lot in more humid places (heck, we've been running our a/c more than usual this month, not because it's hot but because it's been rainy and extra humid), and I get that sometimes heat waves are legitimate health concerns. Mainly I just laugh at others who live near me who bitch about how it's too hot to do anything when it's barely 90.

Something I didn't know until moving to Houston.  The a/c helps fight getting mold in the ducts and the house when it's super humid.

I avoid the outdoors here due to mosquitoes as much as heat.  They love me and I have a strong reaction.  And they carry diseases.

yeah, the mosquitoes suck here too. DH is a magnet for them, so he gets bitten more than I do.

[sent]

May 28, 2015 10:37:05 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

May 28, 2015 10:30:23 GMT -5 sent said:

So along the lines of dancing and the thread earlier this week about grandparents, my husband has a cousin who along with her SIL, the two of them love to get dressed up and hit up all the bars in suburbia and chronicle their adventures all across FB. They leave their kids with various grandparents. I judge the cousin hard for leaving her kids with the grandparents who drive up from 3 hours away just so she can go out dancing.  I mean I leave my kid with her grandparents, but that's so I can work and make a living and have money for my kid's future so that makes my reason better right?

That's my flameful.

You realize you're essentially saying no one should use babysitters for fun?

Or is there something wrong about grandparents doing the babysitting?  Because whether she is working or going out, they are still driving 3 hours and still spending time with their grandkids.

Now, if this was the ONLY time they invited the grandparents over, that would seem a bit dickish.

I did say it was a flameful.  The grandparents come up a lot and watch the kids when she has random work trips too.  My mom already watches DD for me so I can work for which I am eternally grateful (I am home today hence I am on here), but I would never ask her to watch DD so I could go dancing.  I would ask my husband and if he couldn't do it, I wouldn't go.    

[karinothing]

sent so we shouldn't use relatives at all for baby sitting? I mean if DH and I want a date night, I shouldn't be asking family?

[anna7602]

May 28, 2015 10:46:23 GMT -5 sent said:

May 28, 2015 10:37:05 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

You realize you're essentially saying no one should use babysitters for fun?

Or is there something wrong about grandparents doing the babysitting?  Because whether she is working or going out, they are still driving 3 hours and still spending time with their grandkids.

Now, if this was the ONLY time they invited the grandparents over, that would seem a bit dickish.

I did say it was a flameful.  The grandparents come up a lot and watch the kids when she has random work trips too.  My mom already watches DD for me so I can work for which I am eternally grateful (I am home today hence I am on here), but I would never ask her to watch DD so I could go dancing.  I would ask my husband and if he couldn't do it, I wouldn't go.    

So you wouldn't use a babysitter for fun? Interesting...