Even more so with the new story, if my sister's bf had wanted to propose at my wedding with our family around (and assuming I was confident she'd say yes and my H was on board), I'd have been thrilled. Really and truly.
My vote is clearly on the side of no harm to anyone if the bride and groom are on board.
Post by kellsbelles on May 28, 2015 20:37:32 GMT -5
Ugh this hits close to home. My brother decided to propose to his girlfriend on a random weekday and posted it all over Facebook in the morning. We had just had our NT scan that morning so were planning to excitedly announce our pregnancy officially to everyone. Which my brother knew well in advance. The date also had zero significance for him. Some people just don't think of others or don't care as long as they're happy.
This wouldn't personally anger me because a proposal at our wedding would have been on lower end of fuckery for our family. I would actually prefer a proposal over the various shenanigans they came up with...
I felt a little bad at BIL's rehearsal dinner because it was the first time some family knew we were engaged and saw the ring (about 3 weeks prior.). BIL was not upset.
I was pissed at my sister when she got engaged--she had said for weeks she would come to my birthday party and the just never showed up and somehow ended up getting engaged that night. I didn't know what had happened to her and was worried she never came over. I have no idea how that happened. They are usually not flakey. I would not be surprised about her blowing me off, but she would normally have called the day before and said she wasn't coming.
My favorite is still the gal whose MIL wore a white wedding-looking-dress to her wedding. Talk about trying to upstage the bride! The photographer, iirc, photoshopped all the pics with MIL so her dress was blue instead of white. Almost as good as tv trays at Thanksgiving.
Not my story to tell (different board) but there are at least a couple ladies here who know the story better than I do.Ā
My coworker's MIL wore a super short, tight white dress to her wedding. When she showed me pictures I couldn't help but start laughing. Good luck with that.
Post by CallingAllAngels on May 29, 2015 11:00:44 GMT -5
A family member's girlfriend (now wife) wore a white dress to my wedding. I didn't care, but a lot of my guests commented on it. I figured if she wanted to look like an asshole, that's up to her. It's not like people were confused about who the bride was.
My SIL announced that she was going to get married and have a better wedding than we did during her "toast". She also mentioned that she'd have the next baby first. It was very awkward.
What happened to lemons, or the friend who announced her BFP and talked nonstop about being pregnant the entire weekend, those are insane. But I'm not sure why everyone agrees that a proposal at the reception, esp if it were toward the end, is considered rude. I would genuinely be happy for them, but I hate being the center of attention so that prob has something to do with it.
I hate being the center of attention as well. But I was OK with it for my wedding, because those days were once-in-a-lifetime and very special to me. I don't think I would have been as gracious as some of you. If that makes me a terrible person, so be it.
This reminds me of my brother and my clueless cousin. Several years ago my cousin got engaged around Christmas and my brother got engaged the following Valentine's Day. My brother and SIL had talked about wanting a fall wedding, but since my cousin had already decided on a fall wedding, my brother and SIL changed to spring. No biggie. So the cousin had a lovely fall wedding and was then able to announce her pregnancy at my brother's spring wedding.
Ugh this hits close to home. My brother decided to propose to his girlfriend on a random weekday and posted it all over Facebook in the morning. We had just had our NT scan that morning so were planning to excitedly announce our pregnancy officially to everyone. Which my brother knew well inĀ advance. The date also had zero significance for him. Some people just don't think of others or don't care as long as they're happy.
Why can't everyone just be happy for everyone?
It sounds like you also don't care about your brothers engagement. Why does one event trump another?
Ugh this hits close to home. My brother decided to propose to his girlfriend on a random weekday and posted it all over Facebook in the morning. We had just had our NT scan that morning so were planning to excitedly announce our pregnancy officially to everyone. Which my brother knew well inĀ advance. The date also had zero significance for him. Some people just don't think of others or don't care as long as they're happy.
Why can't everyone just be happy for everyone?
It sounds like you also don't care about your brothers engagement. Why does one event trump another?
Ugh this hits close to home. My brother decided to propose to his girlfriend on a random weekday and posted it all over Facebook in the morning. We had just had our NT scan that morning so were planning to excitedly announce our pregnancy officially to everyone. Which my brother knew well in advance. The date also had zero significance for him. Some people just don't think of others or don't care as long as they're happy.
Why can't everyone just be happy for everyone?
It sounds like you also don't care about your brothers engagement. Why does one event trump another?
Ha this is my life today. Going to a wedding tonight and DH had to pre-tell the bride/groom and about 25 of his coworkers that I am pregnant for fear that I'd be outted at the wedding. this our third baby and while I'm only about 11 weeks I am sadly already showing :-(
Not as crazy as an engagement but we didn't want to be accused of thunder-stealing.
Ugh this hits close to home. My brother decided to propose to his girlfriend on a random weekday and posted it all over Facebook in the morning. We had just had our NT scan that morning so were planning to excitedly announce our pregnancy officially to everyone. Which my brother knew well in advance. The date also had zero significance for him. Some people just don't think of others or don't care as long as they're happy.
Post by gibbinator on May 30, 2015 18:25:59 GMT -5
First when I saw this thread in my head I was like "I would be totally excited it one of my best friends got engaged at my wedding!". Then I read the replies and was like, yeah it's weird that he proposed in front of the wedding couple's friends and family. Then I read the link which reaffirmed my original sentiment. It would be awesome if my baby sister got engaged at my wedding! I'd totally support that plan.